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If a guy says anything along the lines of "You better work for this dollar"... I usually tell him to fuck off and keep it because obviously he needs it more than I do. Otherwise, I never turn down a tip. We work for tips. What a weird question.. Why do you ask?










^LOL!! I will have to remember to do that next time!
When the occasional asshole rips a dollar bill in half and tries to give me the first half and says I have to "work" for the second half... yeah, I don't really do that.








I don't know about the spirit of this question, but I can see why this was asked -- it actually happened to me very recently. Twice with the same fav.
I have to admit, I thought I understood why, but after thinking about it (and the reasons she gave), I'm still a little perplexed. Then again, I think I still have a lot to learn...





When weird shit happens, like a dancer turning down a healthy tip or frogs falling from the sky, I tend to ask why. And in a forum called "Customer Conversation" I felt like bringing up the non-tip-taking anomaly in a thread entitled, "Have you ever not taken a tip???". Call me crazy.




No!!!! Maybe you should stop! Think. Stop & think about why she would not take your tip (especially if it is more than a fucking dollar). There is probably a damn good reason -strippers love money & if we are not taking it from you or refusing to take it, then there is probably a damn good reason (douschbaggery on the custies' end is prob the real reason).
Please do not discourage people from thinking -this is unhealthy & unwise. Feel free to not think in your own life if you please -I find it very unbeneficial when I turn my brain off...
"You're better than no one and no one is better than you."
-- Bob Dylan
“There's never going to be a great misunderstanding of me. I think I'm a little whacked.”![]()
I've had dancers, at least at first, refuse to take money from me. The reasons, I'm sure, vary.
#1) This is in a pretty low-pressure club where dancers are generally expected to chat a bit with you at first before popping the dance question and it was only my second or third time in the place. Girl sits next to me, starts the small-talk, I'm a little uncomfortable cause I know what's going to be coming and I didn't find her that attractive...We're talking, I get her a drink, she starts massaging my shoulders (uh oh, I'm in trouble now...I figure once there's any contact the meter is running), gets me to massage her shoulders...we do this for a few minutes and she asks if I'd like to do a dance.
Me: Well...
Her: Not into it huh?
Me: Well...sorry...but (reach into my pocket and pull out about $7) please take this and thank you for your time.
Her: (Shakes her head) You really don't have to do that.
Me: Please, I insist. I'll feel bad if you don't take it.
Her: ...OK honey. Have fun.
#2) In another club, known more for the hard hustle (but an oddly low-contact overall place), I used to come in fairly early for the night shift and it was very slow for those first couple hours, even on Saturday night (didn't get a hell of a lot better later, either). I did regular lap dances a couple of times with one of the more popular dancers and when I'd come in she'd come sit with me. At most all she'd want was a red bull to drink, but she'd sit for a long while with me, yes, with some light mutual touching involved (pretty common in this particular club to see people out in the open making contact, even grinding contact), and then eventually, when the crowd started to arrive, she'd say, "OK, I gotta go work now I guess...sigh..." I'd try to giver her 20 or 40 bucks for her time at least and she'd flatly refuse to take it. "No, I'm not sitting with you for your money." Again, I insisted she take it. Didn't always work.
#3) Back to club #1 again. I had a dancer I got along very well with and we'd sit and smoke and drink and talk. I did a couple of champagne rooms with her, but one night we were sitting and talking for what must have been a couple hours with me getting uncomfortable because I knew I wasn't intending to do a room that night and thinking that she was probably expecting it, so finally I said I better go, and I'm not doing a room tonight, but here's the money I would have spent on the room, I want you to have it -- and I took $120 (100 + 20 tip) out and stuck it in her hand. She looked at it, then back at me with this stricken look on her face and said, "Oh no, that's waay too much, you really don't have to do that (She knows I spend too much money in the club as it is). I like hanging with you, it's not about this." and then she made a move to give me the money back. I'm like, "Look, I'm not taking the money back now that it's in your hand, but next time we'll both know how it is so neither of us feels uncomfortable about the time we spend.
Why does this happen? Various reasons. Could it be not every dancer looks at every man that walks in as simply a walking ATM? That having someone they're comfortable with serves a purpose to them since it gives a little haven where they can escape from someone they're trying to avoid, or passing time till the real money crowd arrives, or that they actually like some of the people who come in and don't want to limit the times they can approach and hang with those people by being too much about the money? Could be. Maybe there's some mileage to be had in some clubs from just being a pleasant person on either side of the customer/dancer divide. shrug





Huh? So you're saying that MAYBE the fact that a customer may be acting like an A-hole and creating a situation where a hard working dancer doesn't want his money is not something said customer should think about? Sorry, I really can't agree with this. The fact is bad behavior in the club may very well carry-over to being bad behavior IRL. If a girl who works for tips doesn't want your money there has to be a reason and it may be something that you should be concerned about.
BTW, and Kessler, this may apply in your case, there's a math and sales issue involved. A dancer once explained to me, as the manager explained to her (and I'm sorry I only remember this vaguely as I was probably pretty lit at the time -- what else is new?), that if a person is a once a week regular it's borderline -- dancer's discretion but basically take whatever's offered, but once a customer reaches two to three times a week regular status you shouldn't bother taking small amounts for time spent. The math works better to take larger amounts for CR's and just spend a little time with them gratis on the nights that they aren't spending.
This is something I've learned in sales -- not to sweat the picayune amounts with customers who spend larger amounts with you over time. Instead, build good will and trust that equals cash later. I do this with my customers, doing something for nothing or a nominal amount even if money is offered, knowing they will be back when they really need something I can make more serious money from, and do so repeatedly. The garage I take my car to does this. I may come in with a burned-out tail light and they may just grunt, "Eh, gimme five bucks for the bulb," knowing I'll be coming back there when I need $1000 worth of work done.
And now I realize I'm in the pink section so I'll let the dancers reply further.
when my boyfriends childhood friend came out, (whose kids and wife i know, along with all the social stuff we do with the bf's lawyer friends) and made a b-line to the stage when i was on it... awkward and insulting as hell.... set hime up with a friend the rest of the night. he has a very diffucult time talking to me now, hilarious![]()


Calm down everyone! I stand corrected. In the future I'll try to avoid making comments, snarky or not, about issues regarding money. If I knew anything about money I would have some. I was just kidding with Kessler and it was a dumb post.





Yup, when a guy at my stage said "honey what have you done?" when I came over looking for a tip. At the end of my set he wanted to tip me a whole dollar. I told him to keep it, he clearly needed more so than I.
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I posted my reason, but a mod, ahem, deleted it and gave me a warning. I have no idea why as this is the customer section on an internet message board.
It was nothing of above........It was after spending about 3hrs between dances and a few 30mins.......after we both said we were going home....I reach in to give her a tip. She pushed my hand alway and said "no, you gave me enough. Im not greedy like that". I was in vegas so its not like I would ever see her again........But anyway it was like the sweetest thing ever. I am new to SC's and last time I was here the girl scammed me into giving her another 30mins before the first 30mins were up......so she got like an hr for less then 30mins. I didnt know the bouncers come around and tell you. lol. So its not a gesture Im use to.
Yes it is a customer section on a internet message board for Strippers....I think you have your answer in the above & I'm glad you reached into your pocket.
Some people use the word scammed & some don't...





i have taken a tip, torn it into pieces, thrown it at the customer, and moved on with my life on multiple occasions.
i have ignored someone attempting to tip me on stage for various reasons.
So moral of the story...Keep giving money until they say stop BigDog or you will get scammed...lol




If it is obviously pity money then I feel obligated to give it back to them. It's a pride thing, I think.
...Or, if guys are sitting at my stage and despite tipping, talking some made shit about me then I will give them back their money and recommend that they leave my stage....I think this might fall into the pity money category though.


OK, I stand corrected. Of course I'd be concerned but why try to narrow it down as to why she stopped wanting money from me? There could be many reasons. It's just an uncomfortable situation and you have to ease out of it somehow. Judging by Kessler's posts I'd be surprized if he pissed off the dancers and I was kidding with him. I'd have to consider if the girl wasn't just bored out of her mind with me.
Sometimes it's best to just call it an early night and go home.





^ I doubt Kessler is pissing off dancers and I'm not trying to imply that you are, or would, either. My reaction to your post was meant more as a general statement. We aren't talking about being to busy to dance for a guy here. Turning down a simple tip is pretty unusual. If it happened once with a particular lady I wouldn't lose much sleep over it. If it was happening all the time I would start to wonder if I was doing something insulting to the ladies. Lets not forget, the idiots that hold the dollar bills in their mouths or pull them away when the dancer reaches for them all think that they are oh-so-clever and the life of the party. Never underestimate the ability of some guys to act like an idiot when confronted with a pair of nice tits. Unfortunately, introspection and self-improvement are usually lost on the guys who need it most...
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