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    Default She got my money and outfit...

    A girl at work got my outfit and 20 $ she found tons of excuses to not return me back today ... Long story short what should i do??? Should i chase her and bug her ( which i tried today she kept finding excuses) should i get ugly and fight ,talk with manager maybe? what should i do to get my shit back. I am so angry and dont know what to do. Normally i dont do this but she got me guardless!

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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Could we get more details about how this happened?

    And regardless of the circumstances - 20 bucks and a used outfit isn't worth potentially getting your face beat in for. Going to management or talking to her might be the best bet.

    Even if that doesn't work, just remind her that if her ass is so poor, and she has THAT much trouble making money, her broke ass can keep your used hand-me-downs ....

    Low blows are sometimes the best revenge.

    Mind you, more details about the situation might help us suggest better ways of coping with the situation.



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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Normally i dont share my stuff but she got me guardless! Yes It was my used outfit she said it was on her locker and she would give it to me but she left to club. Also she did not return money she keeps sayin ohh i did not make money i ll give your outfit on my locker blah blah..Finding excuses but i am mad... I m tired of chasing her and askin about my shit on the floor . I cant focus my job and making money. I have very very bad habbit. Whenever i give something to someone and cant get it back i am being suc a obssesive person.I just want it to let it go cant i keep remembering my shit. I am kinda obsesive about materialistic things especially stuffs i own. I had a shitty shift because of her.
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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Quote Originally Posted by missplayful View Post
    Normally i dont share my stuff but she got me guardless! Yes It was my used outfit she said it was on her locker and she would give it to me but she left to club. Also she did not return money she keeps sayin ohh i did not make money i ll give your outfit on my locker blah blah..Finding excuses but i am mad... I m tired of chasing her and askin about my shit on the floor . I cant focus my job and making money. I have very very bad habbit. Whenever i give something to someone and cant get it back i am being suc a obssesive person.I just want it to let it go cant i keep remembering my shit. I am kinda obsesive about materialistic things especially stuffs i own. I had a shitty shift because of her.
    I'm sorry this happened to you. I have lent clothes out (never to see them again/have them ruined) on multiple occasions. It sucks.

    I'm unclear as to what the situation is: Does she have your outfit in the club? Is it in her home? How did she get your money?

    Obviously she can't wear your outfit at work so it is of no value to her. I don't understand why she would keep it unless she's trying to mess up your hustle. As for the money, her excuse is fucking ridiculous.... it's $20, she should be able to earn that (unless it's an insanely shitty night) ASAP.

    I wouldn't chase her around BUT I would mention it at the end of your shift in the locker room. Be polite about it but make sure that you state unequivocally that you need your stuff back, she knows she owes you $20, and that you would appreciate her returning the outfit/money right then or at the very latest on the next shift you share.

    If you don't receive your belongings, speak with the manager. The manager will probably tell you not to lend your clothes out but he may also speak to her and 'inspire' her to return your stuff.

    As for your mental block at work, that is all on you. You are your own worst enemy. Instead of getting flustered and dwelling on the topic consider doing what I did:

    When a girl bought a very expensive corset from me she was short some of the money. She promised to pay me the full amount on our next shift, but she forgot, had car problems, something happened with her kids, etc. and basically made up excuses for a month. She left eventually... and I knew I was never going to be made 'whole'. I said FUCK IT. I'm out some $$$, I don't have a corset, I made a mistake, she's a shitty person.... what ever. She has bad karma and I will make more money, get lucky, buy 3 corsets and she will be a fucking weasel with shitty morals for the rest of her life. You know what, that's basically what happened. I came back stronger, richer, and a lot wiser.

    I don't lend clothing anymore, and even if I am feeling generous and lending it to a VERY GOOD work-friend I don't part with anything I can't stand to lose.

    For now, I suggest you quit being your own worst enemy. Go to work, work hard, make tons of money, and get an even better outfit. Don't do yourself a disservice by dwelling on this issue.

    *EDIT* My situation happened a long time ago so the details are hazy, but I just remembered that the girl didn't leave, she was actually fired.
    Last edited by Sophia_Starina; 01-27-2012 at 02:15 PM.
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    ^What Sophia said.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    Thank u i am not even sure if i can wear my outfit again. It kinda grossed me out. It was a bikini set and was not expensive ohhh well .She was dressed up after shift and said my outfit was on the locker , she said she is gonna go to outside to bring my money back and she will meet me on upstairs and will give my outfit back. She clamied my outfit was on her locker. She just left did not come back. Of course today she will be at work. Yesterday she said it was on locker today she might pull at home bull shit. She is not so smart makes dumb excuses or keep smoking or doing lines of coke while i try to talk to her. Siriously i am mad and dont know how to handle.I guess i should move on and forget about after tonight. I just kept reminding her every stage set we did , whenever i saw her in DR or floor. Still.... nothing happned dumb excuses.

    She borrowed my money, she claims she got my outfit on locker. But she doesnt move her ass to her locker and doesnt return to me!

    I shared the story with my one good friends at work. She told me other chic is hustling me!

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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Give her a few days, and then ask her nicely at work when money starts coming in.

    You live and and you learn, never leave your stuff out, lock it up always, never give money to girls even if they are nice. When you lend stuff always expect you wont see it again - highly likely stripper or not most people dont give it back.

    I dont think youll get your stuff back based on how many times you asked her... You can make the 20$ and the outfit amount back within one shift, forget about her now you leae your stuff out.

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    Oh yeah many times they stole my shit especially whenever i make good money and they cant . One time i forgot to lock my boots aand when i was back my i could not find one of them.They did not steal it they just got one of my boots.Of course i went home with socks.Usually never share my stuff. She asked me if i have mascara first i lied i said no i dont have. And she was going to get my VS bras which my boobs are big i told her it would not fit her yet i would not let her borrow 55$ bra...She asked for a bikini set which it was not expensive or my fave one. I said pls return end of the shift dont make me chase u pls cause it happened before girls never return blah blah... She said she will ... She is so calm always finding excuses she says your outfit is on the locker i ll give later but she doesnt move her ass and grab it for me... What da heck. Thats why i am so pissed of... She does lines of lines of coke while i try to get my shit.I GUESS i shouold move on. I am very upset i know its not normal but i could not sleep yesterday till 4 am and thought about how i ripped of and tricked by a really young 20 years old girl.(I am 26) She makes excuses would anybody with brain would not believe, Or she is not really a smart person even her excuses are not a good one.I never believed whatever she said i pretend like i did somehow she thinks she succeed.

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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Don't get mad..... GET MONEY!
    Success is the sweetest form of revenge.

    Work your shift and make 100-times the worth of what she pilfered.

    Don't stress over a skank that can't make $20 (according to her sorry ass) in one shift.
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    I have lent outfits/jewellert etc and this has happened to me. It sounds like you are more mad at yourself and struggling with facing that knowledge and owning it (eg.you are stressing until 4am). Kisca's suggestions were in line with my thinking. Also, when you lend take an item of theirs as a deposit (equal value in your eyes). It's your own choice to set boundaries and stick to them.
    Old enough to be a dancer, old enough to stand up for yourself- otherwise I'd say this should be in the bitch,wine,complain thread.
    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    I have lent outfits/jewellert etc and this has happened to me. It sounds like you are more mad at yourself and struggling with facing that knowledge and owning it (eg.you are stressing until 4am). Kisca's suggestions were in line with my thinking. Also, when you lend take an item of theirs as a deposit (equal value in your eyes). It's your own choice to set boundaries and stick to them.
    Old enough to be a dancer, old enough to stand up for yourself- otherwise I'd say this should be in the bitch,wine,complain thread.
    Actually i was not wining. I needed advise cause i was very very mad . She made me chase her and i have to wait and beg for my own outfit . I emberssed to ask her anymore but she did not emberrased for anything.

    Your advice is great i never thought about it.Getting deposit is great great idea !

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    Default Re: She got my money and outfit...

    Ok yesterday i asked again, i asked my outfit any money she said get over my face i am getting ready. I said u will just walk to the your locker and give it to me i dont wanna chase u all time blah blah. Than she got mad getting loud and louder. She black mailled me calling manager which they are dating i guess. She said she would got fired me. She told manager and other girls i wanted drugs from her etc. Finally after manager she gave my outfit but no money. She pulled bull shit. I heard from other girls last night she is gonna beat my ass etc. Cant believe i became guilty cause i wanted back whatever i lent her. I got very upset She got my stuff no thank u , made me chase her and beg to her for getting back finally she pulled bull shit card. Thank God managers did not fire me they wont cause i am the only foreigner dancer, only dancer does pay house fee without " i dont make money drama" only dancer drama free... I dont know how to deal bitches like that i knew she was gonna do that before she fighted with other girls but oh well she was with one of managers. DId not get fired.She is telling everyone i cant speak English and she will beat my ass blah blah she cant do anything. Yeah i have not very well English but my verbal skills better than written skills. I guess she will attack me i have pepper spray for perverts and stalkers oh well i will use as well.

    I already trashed the outfit by the way... i cant wear anymore

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