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    Sometime go to the club and I don't get asked for a dance, or rarely asked.
    What am I doing wrong?
    I'm 6'5" in early 40s.
    I'm light toned African American with hazel eyes.
    Athletic build
    I'm told I'm handsome by women outside the club
    I usually wear t- shirts and jeans
    Im advanced college educated
    I'm nice I think?
    I tip the dancers on stage well.
    I gave a tendency to set on gynocology row?
    Teeth brushed and colonege.
    So what's my problem ?
    Thanks

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    Default Re: Guys who never get play from strippers, why?

    I don't know, as I've not personally had the pleasure of meeting you ITC.

    It could be anything, but if you're not being asked after you tip, clearly something is making the girls uncomfortable. Try talking to them first instead. Buy them a drink... be personable and approachable... other than that, I got nothin'.
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    Hazzard: All clubs are different and no one has the "one approach suits all" resolution to your question . Sometimes all that's necessary is to establish that your friendly and willing to spend the going rate for the level of entertainment that you seek. Hygiene is a lot more important than good looks, but the willingness to spend without making exceptional demands of your entertainer goes a long way to making you approachable in a club.
    It is not always a bad thing to not be approached in a club, as it offers you the opportunity to stage tip whomever appeals to you and inquire if they are available to entertain you. These days I choose this approach when I'm ignored, where once the whole appeal to club visits was that the entertainer approaching me. Other suggestions: wear khaki's and have a discussion without reference to your educational and career accomplishments. Your ability to converse intelligently will come across without going there. My advice is strictly to make you more approachable and I wouldn't know how you operate in your club visits.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hazzard View Post
    Sometime go to the club and I don't get asked for a dance, or rarely asked.
    What am I doing wrong?
    I'm 6'5" in early 40s.
    I'm light toned African American with hazel eyes.
    Athletic build
    I'm told I'm handsome by women outside the club
    I usually wear t- shirts and jeans
    Im advanced college educated
    I'm nice I think?
    I tip the dancers on stage well.
    I gave a tendency to set on gynocology row?
    Teeth brushed and colonege.
    So what's my problem ?
    Thanks
    Tough to tell based on this alone. Could be any number of things, really.

    1) T-shirt: Doubt this is it, but I have no idea what your t-shirt and jeans look like. No holes and clean, I hope? Maybe ditch the t-shirt and wear a long-sleeve dress shirt. Don't go crazy, but it's amazing what a nicely pressed shirt can do. Most dry cleaners have a 'laundry' option - half as much, just as nice.

    2) How much are you tipping on stage? A buck or two won't get you much sympathy - that's just standard courtesy at the rail. Go big or go home if you want extra attention. There are some great threads in Customer Convo about how much to tip rail-side.

    3) Do you ever leave the rail? Unless you tip a huge amount and tell her to come see you, generally, a dancer won't interrupt you while you're on pervert's row. So if you've been sitting at the stage all night, yeah, that's why no one's come up to you. You gotta leave the rail to get approached.

    4) Man perfume: are you putting too much? I can't tell you how many times guys walk in and I can smell them from literally fifteen feet away. I can only imagine what it must smell like to sit on top of them. Blargh. What most stylists recommend: 1 or 2 sprays in the air in front of you. Then walk through the mist once or twice. That's it. (And yes, even if you wear cologne, wear deodorant too - the finest french cologne can't cover up bad b.o.)

    5) Are you smiling when the girls approach? I know this sounds obvious, but if you want the girl to approach, you have to look friendly. Smile, look her in the eye and say hi. Looking away is jerk code for 'not me'.

    6) Because of your size, you could be intimidating. When all else fails... don't be afraid to approach them! Then, once you're in LD-land, be extra-gentle since, you know, you're a friggen giant. Go the extra mile to convey the fact that you're a teddy bear and she'll be safe with you. Just remember to be polite and respect her limits.

    7) The girls in your club could just be lazy. Seriously. If so, see #6.

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    Well, Thanks that helps!
    I was wondering if it was a race thing, age thing, or money thing?!?
    But I have been a dollar type tipper, because that's all I know (having been to 4 clubs in my life).
    And yes, I don't leave the rail much. I did not really think about that.
    I don’t think I come off arrogant ( no one in the real world has ever said that).
    But I am a bit shy when it comes to women, and lack of clubbing experience probably feeds into it all.

    Thanks so much I can’t believe I have received such excellent help so quickly!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hazzard View Post
    Sometime go to the club and I don't get asked for a dance, or rarely asked.
    What am I doing wrong?
    I'm 6'5" in early 40s.
    I'm light toned African American with hazel eyes.
    Athletic build
    I'm told I'm handsome by women outside the club
    I usually wear t- shirts and jeans
    Im advanced college educated
    I'm nice I think?
    I tip the dancers on stage well.
    I gave a tendency to set on gynocology row?
    Teeth brushed and colonege.
    So what's my problem ?
    Thanks
    yeah, I said it....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hazzard View Post
    Well, Thanks that helps!
    I was wondering if it was a race thing, age thing, or money thing?!?
    But I have been a dollar type tipper, because that's all I know (having been to 4 clubs in my life).
    And yes, I don't leave the rail much. I did not really think about that.
    I don’t think I come off arrogant ( no one in the real world has ever said that).
    But I am a bit shy when it comes to women, and lack of clubbing experience probably feeds into it all.

    Thanks so much I can’t believe I have received such excellent help so quickly!
    Being a dollar tipper and never leaving the rail is probably why in all honesty. If all I ever got was a few bucks and you never make yourself available for me to talk to I can't possibly give you any attention. Try tipping $5's a few times and maybe hanging back at the bar so a dancer can approach you. Or ask your fav lady at her stage (after tipping her) to come see you after her show.
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    yeah, I said it....
    Totally disagree. African American isn't automatically a disqualifier.
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    Totally disagree. African American isn't automatically a disqualifier.
    Automatically? No, of course not... However, being a part of certain ethnic groups definitely decreases your chances of being approached in the SC. I mean, I can provide links to a number of threads where lots of girls say they don't appproach black guys, indian guys, mexican guys, etc etc if you like?

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    Its because you are sitting at the tip rail. Lots of clubs have spoken and unspoken rules about approaching customers when at the tip rail. If a girl breaks that rule, she risks a beatdown from other strippers, so it NO ONE at all approached you at the rail, odds are that this is the case in this club.

    Find a nice comfy table farther away from stage, approach the stage when you see a girl you like and tip her big, ask her to come over.

    I don't think its a race thing because you are older, and coming in alone..that is usually stripper catnip. Re-locate yourself, tip the girls you want to come over bigger, then report results. Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Addison View Post
    Automatically? No, of course not... However, being a part of certain ethnic groups definitely decreases your chances of being approached in the SC. I mean, I can provide links to a number of threads where lots of girls say they don't appproach black guys, indian guys, mexican guys, etc etc if you like?
    No thanks. I've been part of those threads on numerous occassions. It depends on the guy and the vibe they give off. To point out to him that he may not be getting attention ITC only because he's African American is absurd. Especially since his follow up post says to me that the problem is where he's sitting and what he's not spending.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    No thanks. I've been part of those threads on numerous occassions. It depends on the guy and the vibe they give off. To point out to him that he may not be getting attention ITC only because he's African American is absurd. Especially since his follow up post says to me that the problem is where he's sitting and what he's not spending.
    I don't remember saying, "only because"... Hmmm... *re-reads post* oh ok. Because I didn't.

    Kessler had already covered all other points. I didn't want to be redundant and re-state points that had already been made. Instead, I pointed out another reason why this may be, one that no one else wanted to mention... To point out to him that it's unfathomable that he may not be getting attention ITC because he's African American is absurd. It's okay, it's not a secret. We all know this happens.

    However, we can agree to disagree. You say race has no bearing in SCs, I think (read:know) it does. *shrugs*

    But anyway, no need for further back & forth. Back to your regularly scheduled trolling.....

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    Yes...I think everybody can agree that race unfortunately does play a role in just about every situation & to look past would be foolish. As stated above I do think the OP has gotten some good advise as to get more play as he put it.

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    I do avoid Mexicans and Cubans. But to say a whole club of strippers avoids this guy 'cause he is Black? Find that hard to believe unless he is in some honky tonk ass town.

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    I really wonder if this whole thread was concocted just to lead to the race discussion, especially with a setup like "I am clean, smell nice, am considered handsome and am in good shape, I tip the dancers on stage, I'm well educated, but, oh yeah, I'm African American." With that said, I'm going to give this the benefit of the doubt in my answer.

    The reality is that it could be any number of things. Look at this from the perspective of a 20-something year old dancer: You are a 40-something year old guy in jeans and a t-shirt hanging all night on perv row. And, for all we know, you are also wearing a scowl and look like a psycopath when you are at the tip rail, or you have a leering look on your face when you tip, or your body language is very aggressive or defensive, or, etc., etc., etc. And, of course, the dancers have no way of knowing your education level by looking at you. Now I'm not saying that race doesn't play a roll with some dancers, but if you were sitting at the bar in a suit, looking relaxed and perhaps even smiling a bit, then I would be stunned if some girl didn't hustle her ass over there to give you some attention.

    Anyway, just my
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    I agree Rick..It was a good description..But as you see how it unfolded.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Addison View Post
    I don't remember saying, "only because"... Hmmm... *re-reads post* oh ok. Because I didn't.
    Well dear, let's see. You bolded the African American part of his statement and offered nothing more than a "yeah I said it". Which effectively implies that you're saying he doesn't get any attention simply due to that fact that he's African American. Or did I miss something? Shall I go back and quote your message exactly? Oh wait, I just did...

    And no, I never said race has no bearing. I said in this case I doubted it.
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    I OP's question has been answered by male & female here, thank you for the responses.

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