TONS of good advice on this Thread! Good luck to you ladies, you'll do great as long as you believe it.
The #1 thing that helped my earnings was CONFIDENCE. Even if you don't feel confident, pretending goes a long way. SuperFlirt by Tracy Cox should be required reading for anyone just starting out. It gives some excellent tips for projecting confidence in the club.
StripperWeb is a great resource and will go a long way in maximizing earnings as long as you follow the right advice.
Good luck to you!
Kelly aka Alex. Retired January 2010.
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Going in for an 'interview' for my first time tomorrow. They didn't use the word audition but I'm bringing clothes and shoes in case... and arriving looking hot, or at least thats the plan!
2 Questions.. Should I tell them I've never danced before? & When I first go in and ask for the manager, should I use my real name or stage name?
Whoops thank you!
What if a girl asks to borrow something as simple as makeup? How do I politely say no without her getting mad at me or thinking I am being rude?
^ I would say I'm a germaphobe so nobody can borrow my makeup. Though honestly you don't need to explain yourself to anyone and can just say no. You're not there to make friends.
Auditions are done on stage. Not a lap. You can tell a lot about someone by watching a 2/3 song stage set.
If a manager/owner says you have to do an actual lap dance for them, they are scuzz. That won't be the dirtiest thing going on in there. LEAVE
Thank you for the quick response! Good to know.
Thought I'd add to this thread, along the lines of "mistakes newbies make..." After returning to dancing, I'm noticing all kinds of mistakes I made back when I was dancing the first time around. Just a few come to mind right now.
Mistake #1: Not exercising or lifting weights because "dancing is exercise." To keep your body strong, you need to treat yourself like a professional athlete. Give yourself the day off after a night of work if your body is hurting. But the next day, get into the gym to lift and do some cardio. I used to only do cardio, which can throw your muscles out of balance and make them too lean. These days, my knees are thanking me for doing quad / hamstring / abductor / adductor strengthening exercises. Lifting weights and stretching are a big deal. Use your free evenings in front of the tv to stretch while you're zoning out.
Mistake #2: Not doing anything before you go into work, to "save up your energy." I used to get into the habit of giving myself a couple of days before a night of work to be a total couch-loser. I wouldn't go outside or do anything productive, and I'd just obsess over the upcoming night of work. Not only did this result in me building up negative energy about working and resenting the job itself, but it was terrible for my mental health in general. Instead, keep to a normal routine as much as you possibly can. On the day that I work, I volunteer, go grocery shopping, go for a walk outside, and then shower and get ready for work. That way I don't spend the day obsessing about my upcoming shift, which helps keep my energy clean.
Mistake #3: Not paying attention to what you're doing with your knees on stage. If you dance just once a year, you have little risk of injuring yourself. But if you're working once a week, those cute little floor moves you do where you're banging your knees into the stage really start to add up. Be as gentle as possible while also putting on a good show. Calculate the "worth-it-ness" of hurting your knees for someone who's throwing handfuls of money at you vs. putting on a big show for people who are tipping you a dollar at a time. Pay attention to the shoes you're wearing, how often you're using your knees as fulcrums, and how often you squat down to take tips.
^^^^ INTENTIONALLY banging your knees into the stage? What the hell could be considered 'cute' abt that? What I am picturing right now looks painful & downright masochistic.
But yes Yes YES pay attention to how you're using your body while dancing. If there is a pole or a wall available, use them for balance & for taking the majority of your wgt while bending over, squatting, etc. Be careful w/ splits & other extensions. Coming down hard into a full split & bouncing up&down on those fully extended hips is hard as hell on them, & there's nothing sexy abt literally being unable to stand the nxt day bc your groin muscles are overtaxed & refuse to support your wgt.
Everything ^^^^ abt free wgts on your off days is also spot on.
^At my dive, we used to do bachelor-party dances on stage, where we'd do all kinds of stuff to humiliate the Bachelor. This included a popular move where we'd put the guy on his back on stage, position ourselves between his legs, and pretend to fuck him (with our bottoms on and everything - it was just a funny thing to do in front of his friends). When you do that on stage, you're banging your knees into the floor. That's just one example of the plethora of stupid things I used to do with my knees. I used to rock my body back and forth onto my knees, put needless pressure on them during my stage shows, etc.
Save the knees!!
All I have to say is dont go around bragging about how good the blow you have is, and dont brag about how your dad kicked out of the house because he found out you were selling drugs.
Urg I seriously hate girls like this that come into my club.
Thank You for all the great advice.
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Love the avatar...looks like a woman dreaming, very creative.