Hi Ladies.. so first let me start of by saying I am not a newbie or a troll, but based on the situation at hand and the embarrassment of
the whole ordeal, I just wanted to stay on the dl for this one.
I'm going to try to make this short as possible..
My partner and I have been together for 8 years and have 2 small children together. We've been together since I was 19 and he was 22.
I had been having this weird feeling that he was being unfaithful. women's intuition I suppose. I hacked his facebook.. which
I didn't even know he had until I started snooping around on his laptop. I get in there, and bam.. the truth is staring me
in the face. There were messages from multiple women, but one woman in paticular was saying how much she 'loved him', wanted
him to move in with her, she would have a baby for him, and all this MESS. Apparently she thought I was just his 'baby mama' that
he just so happened to live with or some shit I don't know how these birds think.
Any case, this completely blind sided me and sent me into shock and rage. I confronted him about it immediately, and of course,
his first instinct was to lie to me.. "no we were just talking.. we never slept together.." blah blah. I show him
the proof and then it goes to.. "I only slept with her twice.." and he starts crying (which really.. I've never seen the man cry). Okay.
I'm completely hurt. I feel like he betrayed me in the worst possible way. His excuse for this is that he thought
I had oral sex with his cousin (who he's very close to.).. he did truly believe that I did this, because he tortured me for months on end trying to get me to
admit to something I didn't do. He refused to confront his cousin about it when I told him that I never did that.. but whatever.. it was always
a fight. He says the thought of this was driving him crazy as he really believed this was true, and now he feels like an asshole
because he did end up confronting his cousin about this and figuring out that none of what he thought actually occured.
I also found out that he was hiding a cell phone behind my back and talking to this woman.
He says he doesn't care for her at all, that it was just a sex thing to try to make himself feel better and it didn't.. whatever.
I'm not sure whether to believe that or not, because like.. wouldn't one time fucking her be enough? I just don't understand.
I'm just torn and need some advice. I love this man. I've remained faithful to him for 8 years.. and we have an awesome
sex life. Like, this man has not left me alone for one night in 8 years. I'm just so confused as to what to do now..
what is real.. what the fuck happened here.. I am just all confused.
I feel like I want to move on and get over it, and then other times I feel like I could do way better than him.I want to remain
in the relationship because I do love him, and I love our family being a whole. But he's cheated on me in the past when
we first got together. I pretty much forgave him for that because we were both young, and not in a serious relationship
until I got pregnant.
He was faithful to me (as far as I know) for 4 years. But this affair has taken an extreme toll on me. I feel like..
what did I wrong? how could he do this to me? should I trust him again? should I stay with him? Would I be able
to handle seeing him with someone else if I did leave? Why did he do this to me? Does he really love me? Am I
not satisfying/attractive enough? Just everything.. all at once. I feel embarrassed beyond belief, because I feel like his
friends and some family members knew and didn't say anything to me. In fact, I know he told at least one of his
family members on facebook that he was going out to basically fuck some 'hoe' and that he hopes I kick him out and
all this other shit. But then when the truth surfaces, he's begging me, and is sincerely apologetic (like I said,
he's done this before and his apology seems legit).. he has apologized to me and talked to me about the situation
every time I've wanted to.. which is also something that he did not do in the past. He also wants
to push our wedding date up.. (yes.. we WERE engaged up until this point for the last 3 years.) But when it all boils down I just
do not want to feel like a fool for staying with him, and I'm honestly not sure if I'll be able to get over this because
it has completely taken away all of my self-esteem that I had in the relationship.
I just want some advice from the strong women that I've come to love here.. because I'm feeling completely shook, confused, sad, angry, and every emotion except the good
ones right now.![]()


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