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    so i've been dating this guy i met at work for about 5 months. when i first met him i honestly was just going to play his ass out of money like strippers do. somehow we ended up dating. i honestly think he was able to get under my skin because my husband is such a asshole and bf seemed to care more. i remember one time i was hanging out with him and his friends an one of them came out an said that he had a sugar mama (being me), i got so irritated and automatically said fuck that. keep in mind i'ma chic who is used to men doing and taking care of me. i've kinda made a lifestyle out of that. hell when he used to come to the club he used to make it rain and all that good shit. now he never has any money, he lives with me and my family, pays no rent, buys no food hell. the other thing is he for the most part really doesn't being having money to spend. i know it seems and if i'ma just all about money (at least that how i feel like i sound) but money is a big part of any serious relationship its how you live. i make s0o much more than him (he's military but low ranking enlisted) that i honestly do feel like a sugar mama. then he bitches when i wanna fuck (i'm a horny bitch, LOL easiest way to put it) but i feel like hell its the least he could do. his friends say that i'm his warden wtf seriously and he just goes with it. (anything for his friends) like i guess they are used to him living in the barracks with them and then all weekend hanging wit them. fuck seriously they should get over it. please somebody tell me what person in a serious relationship has a whole weekend to hang with there friends? i honestly never hang with my friends anymore (not expecting him to be like that at all) but when i'm not working its usually a week day(here and there) and there working or got homework and when the weekend comes around i'm working its life its not a big deal to me. bf and i used to always say one day each weekend would just be for us now when the weekends pop up we always end up in a argument because his friends want him to go out and he feels like i'm gonna get mad. (i get irritated because we live with my mom and grandmother so damnit bring his ass home at a decent time 1am isn't asking for to much and if it is tuff shit) if u ask me they all act like a bunch of fuckn kids LOL i'm sorry. like he's 26 and they range from 19 to his age but act like omg we can't hangout with whole weekend anymore (they are all single except who is married but his wife is in the Philippines) now days he keeps tryna find reasons to need to make my bmw to work LOL NEVER GONNA HAPPEN and i know exactly why he keeps asking he wants to show my car off to his friends and to his co-workers, i got a bitch wit money who takes care of me fuck dat. i'ma put pink HID's on it, just so folks know its a bitches car. i'm not tryna sound cocky but his ghetto ass(he is from the hood) is going and doing things that he only dreamed of because hes dating me. i love him don't get me wrong but i'm frustrated at the moment. this is just things that i feel and want another persons opinion on.

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    ouch. whole thing sounds toxic. IMO you both love and hate this guy and feel under appreciated so you're finding a lot of faults in him in things that you know are not really big issues.
    cut this shit dead and kick him out. you feel like he's sponging off you. 100% sounds like he is. there's nowhere good to go from here
    sexy motherfucker!




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    So he lives with your mom, drives your car, uses your $ & NO sex...After making it rain in the club for you..You got hustled.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariesgame View Post
    ouch. whole thing sounds toxic. IMO you both love and hate this guy and feel under appreciated so you're finding a lot of faults in him in things that you know are not really big issues.
    cut this shit dead and kick him out. you feel like he's sponging off you. 100% sounds like he is. there's nowhere good to go from here
    He's asleep next to me I so wanna just yell at him get the fuck up. I think he an I are not ready to be living together. I would maybe still date him but he needs his own place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    So he lives with your mom, drives your car, uses your $ & NO sex...After making it rain in the club for you..You got hustled.
    Hold up lol. He lives wit me yes. Drives my car never, thas my baby. Car comes before any man. We have sex on a reg but he complains about it.

    The shit I see wit him is he will spend stupid money on shit then not have money for important shit. perfect example. We went out to eat he paid, but he ordered a long island for 15 dollars a glass lol he damn well know that he ain't got money to spend like that. An he kept ordering them then when the bill came he's all damn 15 dollars a glass, my response well you should have asked to see a price list. Not that sayn he wouldn't have not got it but so you know how much ur spending. I make money but im also smart with my money.

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    Default Re: gf or sugar mama.. u tell me?

    Sounds like you were a good investment. Making it rain in the beginning and now he's gotten that back + interest. Free room and board? Time to hang out with friends. Has sex with you when he feels like it? Wow. Yeah he's going to keep using you until you drop him. Plus he called you a sugar mama? Wow insult to injury. Yeah he thinks you're so desperate to be with him that you'll put up with it. So either keep quiet and keep paying for him or drop him. This will never work out for the better. He doesn't have to do more because you're not demanding anything of him. So keep the umm sugar baby or drop him for a real man.

    I wouldn't be surprised if he was taking your car to pick up other girls. Putting pink bows on your car will not change a thing. So he has money but he can't chip in for rent? He's not spending that money on you and bills? Yes you're getting hustled.

    So when he couldn't afford the $15 a glass drink after he bought too many, who covered that bill? Did you end up paying for your own drinks?

    Also when does a guy complain about having sex? That's a huge flag right there. That fag could be red or more so "rainbow" colored. You may need to back away from this one fast. Moonwalk perhaps?

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    what the fuck did i just read?

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    You got hustled. I have seen this story often where a guy spends money initially on a stripper to "catch" her then once he does she pays for him! Meanwhile he's got a hot woman paying his bills so win for him.

    I would never accept this. Have more self esteem and ditch him because he's playing you big time.

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    So update on situation, I've got him doing more now, but let's see how it last. We sat down this past weekend and I explained to him that I was tired of him being a bum. I honestly felt like he was taking my kindness for weakness. He seems like it was just a misunderstanding but we shall see. This is his one chance he fucks uP he's gone

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    Sometimes you have to have the "come to Jesus meeting"...I hope it works out.

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    Default Re: gf or sugar mama.. u tell me?

    Yeah you're definitely sugar momma status. I feel really embarrassed for you

    I don't think sitting down and having a talk is what he needs. He needs the boot. And you need a nicer sugar baby if you want to go down that route.

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