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    This is a long post. Im not sure if this the right area for something like this either.

    My husband and decided we were going to try doing threesomes again. We did it in the past and had fun. We thought a friend of his would be fun so, we started hanging out a bit. A few nights ago we all went out for drinks and decided to test the waters to see if he was into me. I flirted a bit with him. Nothing crazy, I just tried the body language stuff. This is how it went.
    I would lean into him when I would say some things but, he was hesatant to lean in to me.
    I brushed my knee against his and he just decided to move back a bit.
    I did the whole meet eyes for 3 seconds and look away. He was into the flirting eyes.
    I noticed him checking me out when I "wasn't" paying attention to the group and just looking around.
    We exchanged a few sexual playful teasing. He reached across me to set his empty drink on the bar and said, "sorry for reaching I didn't want to straddle you." I said, "oh you can straddle me." He sat down next to me and said, "I will do alot more than straddle you."
    Some of it he responded to and some of it he pulled back from. When my husband was away he seemed a bit more relaxed. I think he is just worried about putting moves on his "bro's" wife. My husband thinks we should just come right out and ask him if he is into it. I would rather hang out with him more and get to know him better before being so blunt. He has been friends with my husband for a couple of years. I have only physically been around him a few times until recently and that is why I want to hang out a few more times before popping the question on him. I would rather feel him out a little more before just being blunt.
    I guess the question is I can't tell if he is into me or if I am just freaking him out? Maybe you all can help me. Im not throwing myself at him, its just innocent filrting. He did invite us BOTH to his house next week which is a first. Normally only my husband goes. However, I dont know if he was being nice or what?

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    He's into you but doesn't want to cross bounderies from what I can see. Has your husband ever talked about a threesome around him before? If I was hanging with a buddy & his wife was hitting on me I wouldn't feel cool about it unless there was a talk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by flamerose View Post
    I guess the question is I can't tell if he is into me or if I am just freaking him out? Maybe you all can help me. Im not throwing myself at him, its just innocent filrting. He did invite us BOTH to his house next week which is a first. Normally only my husband goes. However, I dont know if he was being nice or what?
    You do realize at this point he just thinks you want to cheat on your husband with him, right?

    When a married/taken woman comes on to me with no indication of consent or even awareness from the SO, threesome is not the first thing I'm thinking about!
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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    If I was hanging with a buddy & his wife was hitting on me I wouldn't feel cool about it unless there was a talk.
    Yeah, I feel like it's not quite fair to leave the guy in the dark like that. You're putting him in a difficult situation, and though he seems to be attracted to you, he also seems to care enough about his friendship with your husband not to make an actual move. And I understand why you feel a little frustrated, but look at it from another angle--would you really like to have a threesome with a guy who tried to fuck you (as far as he knew) behind his friend's back? I've had threesomes that ended up really toxic because of situations like this.

    There's a big difference between having a threesome and fucking your best friend's wife when her husband is not around. My personal feeling is that a guy who isn't into sharing a girl isn't going to leap at the opportunity for a threesome with her and his friend just because he's going to get his dick wet. Females may be like that to a certain extent, but a lot of men are not fond of the idea of having two dicks in the bed. I agree with your husband, I'd just come out and ask the guy what he thinks about the threesome thing.

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