i just feel like some times stripper veterans arent nice to NEW strippers that need help. all they do is bitch about noobies with the lotion thing, like, how about some encouragment and useful advice ?
i just feel like some times stripper veterans arent nice to NEW strippers that need help. all they do is bitch about noobies with the lotion thing, like, how about some encouragment and useful advice ?





Welcome to stripperweb!
There are a TON of threads specifically for newbies... you should check them out
As for vets being mean, unfortunately that's the business :/ It's very competitive nowadays. Thankfully you have SW to guide you and help you get ahead of the gameRead, read, read!!! Get the newb threads outta the way and work on over to Hustle Hut. Good luck!


You just have to grow thicker skin around it. Don't take anything personal. You'll be dealing with a lot of assholes, lol so mentally prepare yourself. What helps is reading through all of the useful information on this site, so when you're at work you know what to do and how to make the best out of your night.
The lack of money is the root of all evil. -Mark Twain





I hate to sound like this, but ITC it's not my job to teach you your job, nor is it my job to encourage, advise, make friends with or otherwise help you make money. Why on earth anyone would expect this I've no clue. It's a cut throat business girl.
However, the ladies on this site are wonderful, and will be nice and help you in any way you need.
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ITC= In the club(Sorry just thought I'd throw that in there...lol) And JayATee is right.. this is a cutthroat biz. It's best to keep to yourself and make your money. BTW, lotion is a big NO NO.. Put it on at home after your shower. Many a girl have slipped onstage due to lotion smeared all over the floor.




Its good you have found SW, this is the Mecca of stripper stories and advice, this is where you come to learn lol.
Im always nice, polite and civil with new girls at work but as has been said, you dont get training on how to be a stripper, the girls that are there are there to work and earn money. Its not like going to an office job or working behind a bar where there is always someone helpful to show you how to do things. Its competitive and you have to figure out what works best for you.
You have to keep on top of the do's, don't and general etiquette by keeping your eyes and ears open, dont expect to make friends but its a plus point if you do. For every newbie that turns up to audition there will have been 50 more who turned up, worked a few shiftsand then disappeared never to be seen again, stripping is not the job for everyone and there are very very VERY few girls will hold your hand and spoon feed you what to do, everyone started somewhere, we all had to learn too at some point.
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I don't think this is anything new. The first time I danced was 11 years ago. The girls were so awful to me that I didn't go back until 5 years later when I found sw. Once I found it and read all the info, I was golden!





^FO' SHO!
If you think strippers are mean, just try being a CamGirl! Talk about cut-throat, those ladies scare ME!
Anyway, if you're crying already and need that much hand holding, you won't get far as a dancer. Buck up and tell us what you WANT to know or we won't help you. I can't read your mind and magically discover what you're having trouble with and what you want advice about. There's TONS of threads with general advice for new dancers, but anything beyond that you'll have to ASK for SPECIFIC information.
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That makes me sad....
I'll help you out if I can!





OP, don't take it personal. Those are your competitors. Don't expect to get advice/encouragement from anyone.
I feel like who ever does the hiring should tell/remind newbie girls about little things like this, but then again its common sense not to roll around stage/get on a pole with fresh greasy body lotion. someone can get hurt bad.

Yeah the girls will be bitches at first, just read up on expected newbie conduct in the threads, do NOT wear any slippery lotions and keep to yourself at first. No reason to take it personally, but you are their competition and new girls come and go all the time. Don't expect support from any of the girls at your club. Try to learn the unspoken rules at your club so you can start blending in as fast as possible.
A word of caution for you: when I started, the dancers who ignored me were the ones I got along with the best later on, after I stuck around long enough. The girls who offered me unsolicited "advice" initially had me thinking that they were just being concerned and nice and helpful, but after I got used to the industry I realized they had intentionally told me stuff that wasn't true in an attempt to make me nervous, make me get in trouble, make me lose confidence, break my hustle, and ultimately get rid of me. If you are looking for some honest advice from a girl you work with, MY advice would be to approach a DJ, bartender, or bouncer and ask who they would recommend to give you some pointers. Of all the people there, they will know which dancers are the drama queens, which are the liars, which are the thieves, and which are giving dirty dances on the sly.





It was a mix of both types of girls for me. Some of the initially friendly girls were misleading and some are friends to this day. There were 3 penthouse pets who bailed me into a corner at Spearmint Rhinos and there was one girl who truly tried to help. It is like any job in that there will be cattiness. You do need to develop a thicker skin and that will help you with some of the customers too.
When you have experience you can choose how you will act towards new girls but for now you just have to go through the same process nearly every experienced dancer has.... by the way, no need to grow balls it will limit your repeat dances. Old enough to show your naked body to strangers, old enough to handle club politics.
Damn, this thread sounds worse than the locker room. Some of you guys need to chill the FUCK out. Srsly.
The girl is new. What seems like common sense to us may not be common sense to outsiders. I remember once this girl (non-dancer) innocently asked, "how do strippers spin and slide down the pole so easy? Do they grease it?" Of course, I gasp! No way! Then she says she thought that would make it easier, less friction, less pole burn and I could kinda understand why she thought that...
I also don't believe that girls need to be thrown to the sharks and 'just figure it out'. Then one day they'll earn respect? the fuck? Is this real life? I respect everyone. I would never be malicious to another girl just for the sake of being some big, bad vet. I answer questions honestly and in a polite manner. If more vets were willing to show newbies the way, maybe the industry as a whole would be in better shape.. smh
ANYWAY! I'm rambling. You have something better than those mean ass bitches. You have stripperweb. As has been said, read, read, read!! seriously!! I read everything I could find on this forum, spent hours learning, and by the I got into my first club, I overheard some girls talking about me referring to me as "the girl who claims she never danced before." lol
I'm a newbie myself. I've been dancing less than a year, so who knows? Maybe in a little more time, I'll be some mean ass bitter bitch myself, however, in the mean time, bring your newbie ass over to me, I'll take you to the sink and calmly explain to you why you need to wash all that glitter off of your face (yes, this happened).





Yeah, what's with all the catty bitchiness?? I know alot of you may work in some nasty ass, cutthroat clubs but not all of them are like that. She came to SW for support not to get hated on.
OP, please don't take what some of these bullies say to heart. Most of us on SW are very supportive and we ALL have been new. Unfortunately this biz will jade you and you may become miserable (as you've seen from some of the posts above).
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Yes and way to turn me into a liar when I told her there were wonderfully helpful, sweet LADIES on this site. Christ. I agree she needs to do some research before asking specific questions. No question was really asked in the post. It was simply a comment on how she'd been treated thus far. And while she shouldn't expect to be coddled, you guys don't have to make it worse and treat her the same as she's been treated ITC already. The point is that she needs to know there are resources here. There are girls who will be friendly and hold her hand HERE. We all started somewhere and if she's found this site early on and needs help that's what we exist for. If you don't want to help her ignore the damn thread. Don't make it even worse. When I first started this site is what helped me make it. I'd hate for it to work the exact opposite for a new girl. This isn't the club. FFS.
OP, we're not all like this on this site. ITC is something different entirely, most of us though will help when we can on this site. Don't let this one lame ass thread deter you. There's lots of knowledge and help here.
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Lokikola, how about directing her to the threads instead being downright rude?? This isn't the club. No need to be snarky. She's not your competition HERE.





Alright I'll ask OP what D'you want to know?
A few small but fundamental truths in Stripperland:
1)ANYTHING slippery is BAD. Baby oil, lube, lotion, suntan oil all can cause serious injury. Not everyone has health insurance or can afford a massive hospital bill and recovery time. Something that mundane can have serious consequences. That's why a lot of vets yell @ n00bs about slippery shit. I have seen it happen a couple of times.
2)Glitter is like herpes. It doesn't go away.
3)Keep your money with you in sight at all times.
4)Baby wipes and breath mints are your best friends.
5)Always lock your bag or lock your stuff up...
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...n-Stripperland
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...38#post2298038
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The best way to deal with bitchy dancers is...being a bitch to them too, but only as a last resort obviously.
The club I am dancing now (is a stage only bikini gogo dive in NN, Va) has a few mean girls that love to make a living hell of the newer dancers. I mean, an older dancer actually pissed the bag of a new dancer who started there less than two months ago; that's how bad they are. I tend to stay neutral to the newer ones.
I remember when I first started dancing over there in September 2011, as soon as I walk into the DR to get ready for my first set, one of those dancers started opening her mouth with "useful advice" (you know, things you already know, unspoken rules, or things that aren't true about dancing). At first I tried to be polite and just said thanks; she kept talking, and then is when I had to be a bitch to her (I told her, in a very bitch manner, "I had been doing this for a while, do not come with that shit to me. Now, I have to go on stage.").




To be honest, and no sarcasm is meant here at all... because there is a whole section called 'NEWBIES' and I figured she already knew where it was. And by the way, if someone inside the club asked me for help, I would help them, because there is no 'stripper bible' sitting in the dressing room to answer a new gal's questions but here there is as its been said before, a shit ton of great info. You don't know what my work ethic is like so please don't try to attack it.





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