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    Default Advice with a fwb-type situation... gah

    **There's a TLDR at the bottom, kinda have to do the full story for my own processing. **

    So 3 weeks ago my so and I broke up- it was pretty abrupt. Things had been going super well, but his job is sending him to another city. We mutually decided that the ldr wouldn't work for either of us, and that we would keep in touch and likely re-attempt this when he's back, sometime between 8 mos and 2 years from now.

    Obviously in the meantime, we're both technically single. I'm definitely not looking to get into a relationship at the moment, but would love to have a consistent source of sex for obvious reasons.

    So rewind to when I first started dancing- probably a month in. This guy comes in that I knew from work. We never actually worked together, but he used to work for my boss and stopped by every once in a while to say hi. The whole time I worked there I was attached. Anyways, I was surprised to see him, but it apparently had gotten out at my old job somehow that I was working at the club now. He said, "yeah, [boss] said you were working here now and I had to come see for myself." He got a dance, we had a good chat, he found out I was with the bf, and that was it.

    Then Tuesday night he stopped by with a buddy who is a regular at the club. It was a dead dead night, so while buddy got dances off his fave, I sat and chatted with him for probably what amounted to a few hours between hustling whoever happened to show up. When I said he was single he says, "Oh awesome!" and then attempted to explain that he meant something other than that, but failed. There was a lot of eye contact, he kept touching my shoulder etc., and had at least 5 drinks, which at our club is enough to slaughter an alcoholic. One and I'm feeling mighty unsteady... and I drink a bit.

    Anyways, the night is winding down and he invites me back to buddy's place for a few drinks, and I think, yeah why not. I'm on the rag, I've got a broken rib, so no danger of anything happening.

    Well a shared 26 of absolut later, and anything happened. Several times. And also when we were sober in the morning.

    His phone was dead, so he gave me his number and said "call me" about four times.

    We texted a bit this week, then Saturday night, one of the other girls wanted to party with me, and he asked if we'd come back to his place after we were off. I said, "sure, I'll text when we're done"

    By the end of the night I was getting texted every few minutes with, "hey what's it look like?" "you guys be done soon?" "?" etc...

    Finally we were done, show up at his place, and he's drinking with my old boss...

    Anyways, me and my friend had too many patron shots and then smoked on the balcony for apparently almost an hour. Talked about a bunch of stuff. He kept trying to come outside and talk to us, and we kept yelling at him to go back inside because we were talking about him.

    Went back inside, smoked some pot, boss went to sleep, friend passed out in a chair, and I vaguely remember sitting on the couch, taking off his pants, and then woke up in the morning in his bed. Also my friend says him and I were making out between smoking and the pot, and he yelled "Quit kissing me, you taste like an ashtray"

    My friend says later, "I know it was a good night because I woke up and there was pants".

    After a morning of more fooling around, we all watched a movie, smoked more pot, talked for a bit. He says to me, "You're definitely crazy and I'm not sure how I feel about that."

    Anyways, I'm new to the whole fucking without commitment thing outside of one night stands. So advice from those who know would be helpful.

    Also, he's really good looking and ripped, but he's like 5'5" and has a small dick. And is super vain, like pictures of himself, monogrammed towels type vain. So if I'm still okay with sleeping with him, I must actually like him, which I probably have to avoid. It is really good though.

    TLR: Guy I know from old job discovers I work at strip club, then figures out I'm single. Requests partying, fucking ensues, mutually want more. How exactly does this stuff work?

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    Default Re: Advice with a fwb-type situation... gah

    Are you boinking my brother in law? because this sounds just like him


    Ummmm just go in with no expectations and your eyes wide open is the best advice I can give you. I had a FWB situation and we developed feelings for each other.
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    Default Re: Advice with a fwb-type situation... gah

    Don't let him actually spend the night, jmo. And don't spend the night there, either.
    Really I think you're in no danger as the small penis prevents the release of the bonding chemical oxytocin.
    You'll be fine.

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    Default Re: Advice with a fwb-type situation... gah

    He seems annoying. Call him over to your place and then kick him out before you go to sleep... He's getting a free lay, why are you doing all the work?

    I think he will get clingy through-out time.

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    Default Re: Advice with a fwb-type situation... gah

    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Are you boinking my brother in law? because this sounds just like him
    It's funny too cause his bro just got married... but it's to a barbie type, so pretty sure not lol.

    Really I think you're in no danger as the small penis prevents the release of the bonding chemical oxytocin.
    Thanks for the advice, also this made me laugh way too hard.

    I think he will get clingy through-out time.
    Yeah. This is my big red flag too. Especially since the Wednesday morning he was surprised because his intention had been just to 'have a few drinks and get to know each other a little better'.
    Whereas mine was, "yeah, I'd hit that."



    Thanks everybody, I guess I'll roll with it as long as the sex is good, and when he turns into a bitchy drama king, he's out. We'll see how long that takes...

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