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    Simple question for the group, what constitutes a regular in your mind.

    Back story, I was visiting my favorite club the other day and met a dancer new to the club. She immediately caught my eye on stage as she had all the sensual moves that really get to me. When she finished and came off stage, as she walked by me I asked for a dance. We moved to VIP and had a great time. She provided intellegent conversation, a quick wit and to say she had the face of an angel is an understatement. All in all a great visit.

    As we were parting, she asked if I wanted to come back and see her again and of course I said yes. So she asked for my phone to put her number in so that I could text the next time I was coming in hopes that we could meet up again. After she left and I went back to the main floor, I received a couple of text messages from her. The first one was a simple 'I have a new regular', the second one was to ignore the first text as she was sending that to her girlfriend and had mistakenly sent it to me.

    While I'm not going to hold that against her, it seems to me that she arrived at this too fast. In my mind it should take a few visits before I could be considered a regular. What sort of thoughts do you guys have? Can one visit in VIP for only $200 constitute a regular? Was she jumping the gun? A little background on this club, this was a weekday where normal takehome for a dancer would be in the $100 to $300 range, so my little visit with her was a large amount of money for that club on that evening. I learned that from my other dancer friends at this club.

    While I do plan on seeing her again when our paths cross, I'm not going to exclude any of my favorites at this club either.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    "Regularity", for lack of a better word, does not equal exclusivity most of the time. A regular is someone a dancer thinks she can count on earning some money from repeatedly. In other words, a repeat customer. When I was buying dances, there were several girls who might have considered me a regular but I patronized none of them exclusively. That being said, some girls will hit the ceiling if they think you're dancing (spending) on others while a regular customer of her's. i used to dance with a pair of sister years ago but the more stable of the two insisted her sister (the one to whom I truly was a regular) not find out we were doing dances or "all hell will break loose".

    For the record, it seems a premature for this girl to consider you a regular already.
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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    Maybe she was referring to someone other than you when she meant to send the ''I have a new regular'' message to her friend.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    Sounds to me like the text was sent to you "accidentally" on purpose as a hint to you. Regardless, even if my hunch is incorrect who really cares? It's your money to spend as you wish. Her job is to cultivate customers but your time in the club is yours to do with as you please.
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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    my guess is that she's in love with you and probably wants to marry you. bring a ring the next time you go and let us know what happens.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    I'm a little concerned that you so easily accepted her amusing explanation for her little "accident," without it even occurring to you how extraordinarily unlikely it would be for a sentient human being to mistakenly click through the steps necessary to perform the "accident."

    My concern is that if your club game is this raw, you are simply fresh meat at the edge of the stage. There's nothing wrong with being fresh meat -- we've all been there -- but you should be aware that in this phase, you don't even have control of your own money the minute you walk into the club. You may think you do, but that's just the part of your brain that fell for that silly story talking.

    P.S. The real message she sent to her girlfriend was, "New clueless wallet -- thank God, because it's really sucked in here lately."

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    ^^^ Accepted? nope. I know that I control my wallet and spend on who I want to spend on. But I do agree with your take on her real message.

    She will be disappointed if she thinks she can get all the money she wants out of me. I was mostly curious if others thought as I did that one visit was premature to think I was a regular. She provides a lot of what I go to a club for, intelligent conversation, sexy personality, quick wit and a good sales job with a light touch. I enjoyed my time with her and thanked her for it. But a regular...

    And everybody else, thanks for your replies. It meshes with what I thought. However Camille, I think I'll stick to onion rings at this time.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    ^ If you re-read my message, you will see that I used the word "concern" twice.

    So here's my suggestion.

    Write down on a piece of paper how much you intend to spend on her before you walk into the club. Then, the next morning, check your wallet.

    Your wallet will be empty, except for the ATM receipts. And you'll have spent at least twice what you intended to spend.

    My post was a cautionary one, so you are certainly free to take or leave it. However, it's helpful to remember that while self-deception is as human as breathing, it's incredibly costly in a strip club.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    Simple question for the group, what constitutes a regular in your mind.
    Umm... someone who comes to see me on a regular basis ITC... kinda thought it was self explanatory. Exclusivity is not necessary, regularity is....


    And, not to be mean, but you have no idea to whom she was referring in her message... don't flatter yourself.
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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    granted, I'm in a different area of adult work than stripping, but I can usually tell if a person is going to become at least a short-term regular after one encounter together...there are a few signs that jump out at me, the most obvious being that our personalities/humor mesh well, much like the OP describes in his encounter.
    That said, unless this chica was indeed referring to another person in the 'accidental' text, she's totally compromised the power dynamic between herself and the OP, so I don't share AllGoodThings's concern for the OP's wallet.
    $200 isn't pocket change, but it's not exactly an extraordinary amount of $$$$. If she was that excited about getting a $200 VIP with the chance of a repeat visit I'd guess it's a pretty slow club and/or she doesn't have alot of experience in attracting well-paying customers.
    Don't be a dick about it though, OP. Seriously, it's not worth thinking about. Visit her when the mood strikes, enjoy her company, and feel free to visit other dancers as well- JayATee is totally right, the term 'regular' shouldn't imply (or expect) exclusivity

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    While the answer to the OP's question might seem obvious, I have to admit that in the last few years it seems that I have to see a dancer less and less in order for her to consider me her "regular". In part I blame the bad economy and the cut-throat approach many dancers now have to take in clubs just to make a buck.

    A perfect example - a brand new club opened on a Friday night. I visit it the following Saturday afternoon. There are only 3 dancers working. One of them approaches me and we have a grand old time talking and dancing for a couple of hours. I leave and go back to work. A week later I return, with the anticipation of more bright & shiny new dancers to entertain me. Dancer from previous Saturday sees me enter and squeals "my customer's back!". Uh oh. She walks me to a table and tries to pick up where we last left off. Uh oh. I'm thinking this is a bad way to try and explore a new club. I then did what any self-loathing coward would do - I politely excused myself and ran out the newly remodeled back door.

    So, simple(headed?)guy - yeah....it seems to be happening much sooner than it used to.

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    Default Re: What constitutes a regular?

    Quote Originally Posted by All Good Things View Post
    So here's my suggestion.

    Write down on a piece of paper how much you intend to spend on her before you walk into the club. Then, the next morning, check your wallet.

    Your wallet will be empty, except for the ATM receipts. And you'll have spent at least twice what you intended to spend.
    I take into the club only as much as I plan to spend. I do not have to keep track of how much I spent or how much I have left. When the money is gone, I leave. Only twice in my life has the club been so exciting and fun that I went out and got more money to take back.

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    ^ This is a perfectly good approach, thanks.

    My comments were designed to apply to a specific case only, a poster whose apparent total susceptibility to what barely and charitably qualifies as good ol' SS was troublesome enough to suggest the radical step of writing down spending limits in advance.

    There are times you just need to warn the batter to step out of the box. This is particularly true where the pitcher is going to straight up kill him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by All Good Things View Post
    ^ This is a perfectly good approach, thanks.

    My comments were designed to apply to a specific case only, a poster whose apparent total susceptibility to what barely and charitably qualifies as good ol' SS was troublesome enough to suggest the radical step of writing down spending limits in advance.

    There are times you just need to warn the batter to step out of the box. This is particularly true where the pitcher is going to straight up kill him.
    Thanks for your concerns but I believe that from the misunderstanding here I did not do a good job of explaining my question.

    All I was wondering is how someone could consider me a potential regular after only one visit. That just didn't seem to make any sense in my mind. Now a couple of people here have responded with how it could have come about and that explains it. We did appear to mesh well and I did have an enjoyable time and isn't that why we go to the SC in the first place? I did tell her that I would like to see her again the next time I'm in and I took her putting her phone number into my phone as part SS and part as a way for me to text her the next time I go in hopes that our schedules will match up.

    Another part of my concern, althought I admit I did not include it in the original post, is that I don't want to become involved in a possessive game by one dancer. I enjoy the company of several of the ladies at this club and so far have avoided any entanglements with jealously or exclusivity that could mar an enjoyable evening. While this lady did not raise any flags in our short time together that she would consider me her exclusive property, the 'new regular' remark after the fact did cause me some concern in that area. I am friendly with a couple of dancers in this one club and enjoy spending time with all of them, sometimes as dances and sometimes just sitting to chat and have a drink (which I do tip for time just like a LD).

    But to set your mind at ease, my 'club game' is not all that raw. As UtahMike above, I go to the clubs with only the money I have earmarked for SC entertainment. If I don't have adequate money for an enjoyable evening, I do not go. I do not hit the ATM in the club and I do not buy 'funny money' at the clubs (basically due to the hit the ladies take when they cash it in, the club makes enough money off me in drinks, they do not need to take up to 30% of the dance fees in addition to club fees and tip outs, IMHO) . I manage my money and my time much better than that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    All I was wondering is how someone could consider me a potential regular after only one visit...

    ...I did tell her that I would like to see her again the next time I'm in and I took her putting her phone number into my phone as part SS and part as a way for me to text her the next time I go in hopes that our schedules will match up.
    Dude, you just answered your own question. If you want to try and extricate yourself from her web I would suggest that you never use that phone number. If you text her even once to see if she is working she is going to consider you her regular and deservedly so...

    By the way, regular and exclusive have different meanings. You do understand that right?
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Dude, you just answered your own question. If you want to try and extricate yourself from her web I would suggest that you never use that phone number. If you text her even once to see if she is working she is going to consider you her regular and deservedly so...

    By the way, regular and exclusive have different meanings. You do understand that right?
    Yep, I understand. and I do understand the differences, however not everybody does.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    Yep, I understand. and I do understand the differences, however not everybody does.
    Which brings us back to square one. It's your money and you get to decide who to spend it on. Her definition of what constitutes regular is actually irrelevant.
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    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    Thanks for your concerns but I believe that from the misunderstanding here I did not do a good job of explaining my question.

    .........I took her putting her phone number into my phone as part SS and part as a way for me to text her the next time I go in hopes that our schedules will match up........
    I'm not sure it's worth belaboring this point, but I'll post this just to complete the cycle.

    I understand that you were asking about whether she claimed you as a regular too soon. Everybody understands that. You asked it repeatedly, and clearly, and there was never any confusion about it at all.

    However, there was no part of your original post suggesting that you knew her putting her number in your phone and "accidentally" texting her girlfriend was SS. That's what you're posting now, but it was nowhere in your original post. In fact, your original post clearly shows that you bought the whole BS story she told you about her "accidentally" texting you about your new-found "regular" status. It's right here:

    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    After she left and I went back to the main floor, I received a couple of text messages from her. The first one was a simple 'I have a new regular', the second one was to ignore the first text as she was sending that to her girlfriend and had mistakenly sent it to me.

    While I'm not going to hold that against her, it seems to me that she arrived at this too fast. In my mind it should take a few visits before I could be considered a regular.
    See, you believed the whole "she sent it to me mistakenly" BS because you were not going to "hold that "mistake" against her."

    That's what alarmed me originally, and why I went down the road of cautioning you about being in over your head.

    If all the exchanges you've received in this thread have helped you regain your perspective and footing, then by all means, go forth and have fun.

    P.S. Everybody on the blue side -- with a few exceptions -- will tell you that they are masters of the universe when it comes to money. They know all, control all, survey all that is their kingdom. But regular customers get killed, cleaned out, fleeced and hung out to dry in the wilderness every single day. The dancers know it because they've done the fleecing, the skinning and the hanging. The customers know it because they wake up and discover they have become skeletons hanging in the wilderness.

    Knowing one's vulnerability -- admitting that we are on some level all PLs -- can actually be empowering and prevent you from doing colossally stupid things. And I don't mean spending a lot of money, because that's often the keys to the kingdom. The danger is overspending for you, on whatever mental budget you are on, all on one lone dancer for all the wrong reasons when the power dynamic is so lopsided that you may as well just hand her your wallet, your PIN code, your car keys and your house keys when you first walk in, just to save the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by simple(headed?)guy View Post
    Simple question for the group, what constitutes a regular in your mind.

    Back story, I was visiting my favorite club the other day and met a dancer new to the club. She immediately caught my eye on stage as she had all the sensual moves that really get to me. When she finished and came off stage, as she walked by me I asked for a dance. We moved to VIP and had a great time. She provided intellegent conversation, a quick wit and to say she had the face of an angel is an understatement. All in all a great visit.

    As we were parting, she asked if I wanted to come back and see her again and of course I said yes. So she asked for my phone to put her number in so that I could text the next time I was coming in hopes that we could meet up again. After she left and I went back to the main floor, I received a couple of text messages from her. The first one was a simple 'I have a new regular', the second one was to ignore the first text as she was sending that to her girlfriend and had mistakenly sent it to me.

    While I'm not going to hold that against her, it seems to me that she arrived at this too fast. In my mind it should take a few visits before I could be considered a regular. What sort of thoughts do you guys have? Can one visit in VIP for only $200 constitute a regular? Was she jumping the gun? A little background on this club, this was a weekday where normal takehome for a dancer would be in the $100 to $300 range, so my little visit with her was a large amount of money for that club on that evening. I learned that from my other dancer friends at this club.

    While I do plan on seeing her again when our paths cross, I'm not going to exclude any of my favorites at this club either.
    A fool thats come in every week and splashs lots of cash on you. Probly thinks he going to marry you some day. Play with those feelings, bleed the sucker dry.

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