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Hello, My Name is SashaRae! (10 Megawatt smile). How would you like to make Myrtle Beach memorable? (15 Megawatt smile)
Sasha,
for me learning to talk to the guys was the hardest part of the job, if that makes you feel any better.





I like to hear a realistic and believable compliment, offered at an appropriate time so it doesn't sound forced. I like to hear funny stories and jokes, especially about the club. When it comes to a lap dance or private dance, I like to hear your rules.
EDIT: It's not just what you say, but how you say it too. A sexy joke is one thing, but a sexy joke whispered in my ear so closely that I can feel your breath, well that's something else altogether!

normal down to earth conversation. dont tell me your 2months preg and need 800$ to get an abortion. dont call me babe, honey, etc. if you come off as a hustler im not going to believe anything else you say. some guys want alot of conversation first.......but with me once she tells me her name i usually ask for a dance or let her know im not interested.
the girls who I spend the most on are normal down to earth girls.





Well, I am a customer now so I'll reply.
When I go in to strip club, I want someone fun, who doesn't call me pet names but takes the 5 seconds to find out my real name (or at least the name I want to go by), who asks me about myself, and spends a few minutes with me before trying to get dances. And smile! And don't stink (I have met some nasty, rank strippers and no matter how awesome they were, no dances from me).
If I am with my husband, I don't want her all over him or all over me but rather to be interested in BOTH of us, and who asks for permission before perching on his lap and fawning attention all over him. Show a little respect, I guess, to the fact I am there.
"You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories -Stainslaw J. Lec
Confuscius say: "Man who pull bra stap get bust in face"
This is why I'm actually starting to like the "wanna dance" strippers - cuts right through the bs. I grow tired of the phony, let's pretend we're on a first date and get to know each other routine / hustle. I'm there to watch and get LD's, not deal with the pressure of having to keep long, stimulating conversations rolling or answer endless questions.
I like dancers that at most chit-chat a little right before or after LD's but then move on to other customers or the stage - maybe later asking if I want another. I also like when a dancer whispers into my ear during an LD and acts real into it, instead of that burned out, dead behind the eyes look.
My fantasy trip to a SC would go like this... I walk in, a dancer walks right up to me up with a sexy, evil grin, grabs my hand and just says, "Let's go" and leads me to the back for a set of mind blowing LD's. I'll set a personal high for spending if that happens!


Pap & Ron pretty much share my thinking...except I wouldn't like to be bum rushed as soon as I walk through the door. Although I would appreciate if she introduced herself in passing.





Do's: Music, Sports, the club, the weather, movies, books, hobbies that you enjoy.
Dont's: Your kids, your BF, your Husband, your psycho ex, other dancers, management.
I'm not one for prying conversations. I'm not going to ask you questions about yourself. A little light conversation is really all that's needed. Don't get me wrong, I know it's not always easy...

Just talk to me like you would anyone you were attracted to in a regular bar. "Hi, I'm Sasha Rae...would you like company?" Assuming Im in the mood for company...sit down, and ask me how my day has been. From there, if you keep asking me (non-personal, non-intrusive) questions I will keep the conversation flowing for you.



Gimme a warm smile, your name, a handshake if you prefer, and a "So how's your night going?" and I'll probably open right up. It's quite nice, actually, when you're not trying to force seduction from the first second. Then it comes off like bad porn. I'm sorta the opposite of Ron - I like a good, friendly, two-minute conversation - no heavy petting required really.
There's a book called, "The Art of Conversation," which helped me learn how to warm up a cold room and keep the convo going in awkward situations. The book's prose is a little flowery, but it has some simple, practical tips on how to keep a dialogue going with a total stranger. Found it very helpful.
thanks guys. I tried to have a normal conversation with my first customer but it just ended up being awkward and he didn't talk much. I asked him to tell me about himself and I think I may have offended him because he asked if I wanted to know he was married with four kids. a w k w a r d. :/



Don't sweat it, Sasha - a lot of guys are in there precisely because they're socially awkward, making your job ten times harder from the get-go. The other night, I literally witnessed this while I waited for my drink:
Smoking Hot Dancer: Hi there!
Business Suit: Hey.
Dancer: How are you? (extends hand) I'm Sasha. How's your night going?
Suit: NO. NOOOO. Uh-uh, not here, honey, keep going. Keep going!
Dancer: (stunned pause) Ew. Weirdo. (leaves)
I'm standing next to another guy and we both overheard this and wanted to punch the suit. The dancer is a sweetheart and did absolutely nothing wrong.
SCs can be a proctologist's dream - wall to wall assholes.



Nothing about bills, rent, tip out, abusive relationship, lack of business, negative comments about other dancers. General conversation that isn't too personal. Try to learn something about the current sport that is in season at least to the point of ''good game'' last night. One thing that can impress is if you can remember a little thing or two about the customer if you know he comes in on a regular basis. Such as the sport he likes, his job, his kid (if previously discussed)...most important....HIS NAME. Nothing is more impressive than to return two weeks later and have the lady not merely remember you..... but REALLY remember you.





Sasha, just be sexy and fun and the rest will work itself out IMHO.
Some customers are just going to be difficult, period. This is due, in part, to a natural defensiveness that some club customers have. Just keep it fun and try to draw them out a bit and see what comes of it. A little sexy edginess doesn't hurt either if you can pull it off, but not all dancers can.
Yoda's point about not saying anything too personal is a good one, but I'll also say that many customers are not like Yoda. Many guys WILL ask you personal questions and if you simply tell them that you don't really want to talk about that stuff you will probably shut down their interest in you. IMHO you should decide, upfront, what you are comfortable sharing about yourself and make up answers for those things that hit too close to home, such as questions about where you live.
In any event, good luck and just keep it fun and sexy!
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Rick is right and, unfortunately, you'll have to "stumble" your way through the initial phase until you learn to gauge who to approach and how to approach them. Personally, I'd rather not be approached by the 99% of dancers I wouldn't be interested in buying a dance from, but that's just me. When I was buying dances, my mind was generally set before entering the club exactly who I was there to see (or exactly what type of girl I was interested in seeing). The best sales pitch in the world (and I got plenty) never got me to change my intentions. In other words, don't let the fact you get declined get you down. Even the big earners get declined maybe 2/3 of the time.
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill
Most guys with tattoos will be very happy to talk to you about them, what they mean, when and where they got them, and what their next tattoo is going to be. If you have tattoos yourself, you've got a conversation already. If you don't, you could ask his advice about it, even if you don;t really want one. ("I've thought about getting one, but I'm not sure? Is it very painful? What do you think would look good on me?")
If he is wearing a hat or shirt with a sports team logo, have him tell you about the team. Or ask him to explain the game and how it is played. Ask if he ever played that sport and get him to tell you his stories.
Same sort of thing if he is wearing a shirt or hat for one of the armed forces. Here, you can ask where he was stationed, etc.
Vacation destination shirt: ("Oh, have you been to Disney World? I've always wanted to go! What rides did you like?)
None of those things? Ask him about his car, his pet, or his hobbies.
Just keep in mind that he probably does not want to talk at length about any of these things. What he wants to do is get you nekkid in the back room, rubbing up against his manly chest, and purring.
I thought I would add what was, to me, a surprising conversation, and which also turned into a series of very pleasant lap dances.
The dancer asked me, "Do you like my pussy lips? A guy last night told me they were disgusting and ugly."
Said pussy lips were about an inch long, and I must admit they were different.
So I told her I liked them very much, they were very pretty, very sexy, and I was enjoying myself very much by looking at them. (And this was true.) So she showed them to me quite a bit for the next half hour.
Was it SS? Maybe. Was she really insecure and unsure of herself? Maybe. Anyway, it was a fun conversation for me. It isn't often a guy gets to discuss a girl's pussy lips with her.


My best strip club experiences involve conversations that I don't even remember. It's all about setting the mood by being seductive, sensual, and by creating the illusion that you actually WANT this particular guy. Now there are some definite mood killers. Asking if the guy has a girlfriend, wife, or kids is often a mood killer. Talking about your boyfriend, husband, or kids might be a mood killer. Best to leave your respective personal lives at home. Just assuming that the guy wants a lap dancing robot is also a bad idea. A lot of strippers do this nowadays. They come and sit next to you and don't say anything once there. Just wait for you to buy a dance. Like they're a vending machine for lap dances. On the same note, I find "wanna dance" girls annoying. This has come up before, but girls from non-Western cultures are actually the best at knowing how to approach a guy seductively. Basically, just exude femininity and sensuality and it doesn't really matter what you're saying because it's all about the chemistry that is being created between you and the guy.




If you are willing to do for one year what other's won't, you can spend a lifetime doing what other's cant.


I do not delude myself that you are attracted to me. I do not care that you are not. What I want from you is to be friendly and pleasant as you entertain me. I expect to pay for this. It does not bother me that your motivation is to get money from me. I am happy to spend money on you. I do expect a fun experience in exchange for the money I spend on you.
If you girls just play the fantasy it will work on all guys even those of us who say we are just there to drink or just wanna have fun
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