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    I love what you said! I don't hold a sign that I'm a cam girl but I'm not ashamed of it either! My attitude is, no secret, no shame!


    Quote Originally Posted by LeaLovesyou View Post
    I am open 99% of the time but never give out my cam name or site. I have noticed some jealousy out of close friends...I guess sometimes you just find out who your real friends are, when it comes down to being open about yourself. At the end of the day if I lie I just feel like I am doing something wrong. I think to myself is camming so bad I have to lie about it? So I just say Fuck it! I am who am and I Do not have a boss breathing down my neck telling me when and how to do something I hate for 8 dollars an hour. SO its ok to be Yourself and get paid doing so
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    I am open to all about what I do, and even the details. I have a very "if you don't like it, you can fuck off" attitude. It's a great way to know who I want in my life, and who I don't.
    I also like to be asked questions about it. People make soooo many false negative assumptions about the industry, and I like to be the one to give them a new perspective, if possible.
    Oh, but husbands parents don't know. My husband asked me not to tell them out of respect for him. So I don't. But I totally would if he didn't care. They already consider me a pornstar because I posed for Playboy. lol I refuse to lie to them though, but they never ask.
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    I don't mind telling people...I've told people who I know word can't get back to immediate family..but the only reason i've kept it secret is my husband. He's a little embarrassed about what his family will say and think(there really southern) and he doesn't want my family thinking bad about him(even though were a really open family) but obviously the job is a bit taboo especially for a married woman & mother. Not to mention, we have a couples page and I can only imagine his embarrassment if someone in the family found out what he does lol.

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    Put it this way, it's on a need to know basis for me. If you need to know, you will know and if you don't its none of your fucking business. So basically I only tell people like certain professionals (accountants/lawyers) that I would hire and would expect 100% confidentiality from, and perhaps if I needed one-a potential roommate. I have told my mother, but this is mainly for my own safety as someone does need to know if something (god forbid) were to ever happen to me. There are men out there that are stalkers, in fact I had a close call with one the other day. I was at the train station getting a train and a guy came up to me asking if I was kinkykacy from one of streamates sites. I shot him a "WTF" look and denied, denied denied. Later on he came into my room on streamate and said "hey I saw you at the train station"...I noticed he was never a customer so I immediately blocked his ass. Now I think this guy is benign, but for all I know I could be wrong. I know if my mother did not hear from me in a few days she would call police and tell them to search my computers.

    I always tell other sex workers that they need to let at least 1 person in their life know for their own safety. Someone that loves them like a mother/father/SO/adult child/other family member and not just another co-worker or "bouncer/security". Because at the end of the day only someone who cares about you will actively persue police contact and investigation. Trust me I have seen it before where a sex worker thinks she is ok with only her co-workers knowing yet when something scary happens that other co-worker does not want to talk to police.

    I would never tell a kid who asks me "what do you do?" or a random stranger. That said I am active in the sex worker activist community and have put my name out there by going on radio shows.



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    Quote Originally Posted by loveshooks View Post
    I'm really close to both my parents and we have respectful relationships as adults, rather than parent/child, so hiding things from them has never been an issue.
    You're really lucky, Loveshooks. My parents (especially my Mother) and I do not have this. I am definitely the child and they are definitely the parents.

    I hope I can be more like your parents when my child is an adult.

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    I was probably overly open about it to start with and told people at my old work before I left to cam full time. I guess I was just happy and wanted people to know.

    My mum knows, my brother knows and my best friends know. My brother doesn't want any details, but he's my brother and probably doesn't want to hear about my sex life either!

    Sometimes I tell random people, like hairdressers because I do like to see a reaction. At the same time, I can judge who will or won't be ok with it. I enjoy what i do and i am proud about it. A lot of people know very little about the industry and find it all very interesting.

    I would not tell someone if my gut told me that they would have a problem with it. I am not ashamed or shy about what I do. I enjoy it and am proud of myself, and I know perfectly well that this IS a real job! However, I just do NOT HAVE TIME for anybody who is going to be judgemental about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by amberose View Post
    I understand the perspective of "it's not their business," and I agree with that for myself to an extent, but it really becomes a gray area for me when that means lying and making up stories. Idk, for me there's tension when anybody asks me how "school/work" is going and I feel reluctant to tell them the truth - it's not that they're being rude for asking, it's just me being frustrated with the situation.
    I completely understand. I hate lying and making up stories about work. Especially since, when I actually do have a regular job, I'm very talkative about stories and the goings-on there, so I feel like, to people who know me, it's sooo obvious when I'm lying about a job because I get super vague. But I just don't go there with camming, unless one of my loudmouth friends brings it up.

    Family - obvious reasons. We get along very well as long as I'm the "good one." Honestly, I think my sex work is a hell of lot better than every other cousin of mine getting knocked up over and over, mooching off of parents, stealing, drug-use... but yeah, knowing them, my shit would be a much bigger deal. They live over 300 miles away anyway, so I see no point in causing drama there needlessly.

    Friends/Acquaintances - I used to be very open about stripping with all my friends and most acquaintances - hell, even most strangers, if they asked what I did. I told most of my friends when I was transitioning to camming, and I don't even know if most of them remember anymore, but I wouldn't bring it up again. They all acted so weird about it. It was like, stripping was one thing, but camming made them either geek out awkwardly or just go silent, look away, and change the subject. I think actually doing sexual acts on the internet was a different ballgame to them and too much for them to handle. I also learned a lesson from stripping. Many people were cool about it, but then there were the awkward guy acquaintances who would come in without warning to see me... or ask a bunch of questions and just clearly have this "fantasizing" look on their face that just skeeves me out if I'm standing right there. Just having these guys imagining or seeing me dance around topless was already frustrating enough. (I mean, it was one thing if a friend said "I want to come see you dance" and I said ok, but they would just show up and skulk around.) I can't even imagine how paranoid and creeped out I'd be thinking that maybe the guy on the other end of the keyboard was one of these creep-o male acquaintances who wanted to check me out on cam... I just... I can't handle that.

    I'm in no way ashamed of what I do, but I am rather anti-social. I hate lying but there are things I hate even more: I don't like to answer endless questions when I'm just trying to relax/drink/finish my meal, and I don't need creepers skulking into my online business. If someone finds out, I don't deny it. I act like it's no big deal - but it's just better for my sanity and peace of life to not volunteer the information.
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    At the moment it's my little secret....other than my husband knowing. I'm a pretty private person in general so it's not like me to tell everyone. So for the time being I don't tell anyone....and am pretty vague about the work I do from home. If it comes out to everyone one day (which probably will)....so be it. I'm not ashamed about what I'm doing...in fact I'm thrilled that I'm able to give my kids a better life than I've ever imagined.

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    Family: Hells no. I don't think they'd hate me or anything, but I they'd be disappointed amd that's not something I want to deal with. I just let them think I'm a bartender that way I'm happy and they're happy. My sister might have figured it out cause I've kinda stopped trying to lie about work on my twitter, though I've never mentioned it openly.

    Friends: Some know, some don't. It's mostly cause I don't feel the need to talk about it unless the topic of my job comes up. Whether I then go with stripping/camming or bartending depends on who I'm talking to and how awkward I think they'd find the subject.

    Strangers: I tell them I'm a dancer/model. If they ask further, I'm honest about it. Any stranger could potentially become a friend and I don't see the point in hiding what I do in those circumstances.



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    I avoid discussing my job with others. It's not about being ashamed. I'm not ashamed, and I love my job, however I know how judgemental people can be...especially family members and people from my church. I really don't need a bunch of holier-than-thou people starting a bunch of Facebook statuses about me ("Please keep Fox in your thoughts, y'all, cuz she needs prayer." LOL!).....

    Oh, and I find it very annoying when someone (almost always a female) asks a bunch of questions about my job. They almost always say "So what do you have to do?" "Wow, how do you find a job like that?" "I should tell so-and-so to come talk to you, cuz she's looking for work." GRRR!

    Also, I hate having to do any kind of phone interview (you have to go through some shit when applying for medical assistance, etc.). I've had to do with this female interviewers, and they always get all curious about my job and even say things like "Wow, sounds like an interesting job...something I could get my daughter into." *sighs*

    The funny thing about it is that I'd be more comfortable discussing it with someone I'm unlikely to see very often. When I got my first tattoo, I told the hot tattoo artist that I'm a cam girl, and he thought that's so awesome...haha! If I were to reveal this to someone from church, they'd shake their head and say "I'm gonna pray for you." HAHA!
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