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    I've been dancing for five years so I'm use to the typical drama in the dressing room however, this type of behavior is foreign to me. There are a few girls at my current club that are being extremely nice to me. I don't know these girls, I've never talked to them save for a few words, yet they always ask me how my day is, wonder if I'm doing okay at the club (I've worked there for about three months now), and always say goodby to me at the end of the night.

    I'm suspicious. All of the girls are nice to me and I'm not sure why! I'm a very courteous and open person so I do have chats with whoever is around when it's slow and I never talk shit, talk negative, or anything like that. I like talking to the other girls but I don't attempt to make close friendships; just off encouragement and listen to their problems. I'm definitely the top earner of the club so it's strange to me that they aren't hating. Or maybe this is their way of hating on me?

    Anyone encounter this? I know I shouldn't complain when people are nice but WHAT THE FUCK ?

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    I've honestly always worked with girls like that. There were always 2-3 girls who would come up to me and take to me immediately on my first nights. All had good intentions and were my work friends. None ever did anything weird or gave me false info.

    Though I have come across random ones who are jealous/hate you/whatever, but they never act like friends. They act crazy from the start. I mean who has time to waste on hating someone- especially someone they don't know?

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    Ah, you'd be surprised..thinking of my neighbors, specifically.

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    All of the girls that I interact with at work are nice, or at least cordial. In all of my time dancing, I've never had an encounter where a girl or even a customer was rude or mean to me. I'm sure people have said nasty things behind my back, just not to my face.

    From the way you guys talk about your club experiences, I almost feel like I'm living in a parallel universe! I don't know what I'm gonna do the first time someone finally decides to test me...

    IF it ever happens. Maybe it won't. Even as a waitress in restaurants, the hosts would give me difficult tables (ie they just made this other waitress cry by being mean) and these people would just never try it with me. I guess I have that "bitch, don't play with me" underlying look?

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    Uhm strippers are human beings to? Just because you've had some bad experiences, it doesn't mean that every stripper is a conniving bitch out to get you. I've worked at clubs with outwardly nice girls and then girls who had their drama, but at the end of the day we're all just woman trying to make money. If anything, I think strippers understand where I'm coming from more than anyone else I know.

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    & if you're paranoid that they're going to do something to you, you probably don't come off as a nice person. Be nice to the girls who treat you well and if you prove your worth that way, it will make it more difficult for them to turn around and be nasty.

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    I don't know I think club culture just varies from place to place. I am usually nice to girls after they stick it out for a few months especially if I admire their hustle/pole skills whatever, but at some places you just have to keep your head down entirely. You are probably just at a different type of club now. Some places the girls act like a big happy family. But all of the people that I have had casual work friendships with have turned out to be mostly normal and sometimes it is nice to have someone to bitch about customers with in the back!

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    Quote Originally Posted by fionatulip View Post
    & if you're paranoid that they're going to do something to you, you probably don't come off as a nice person. Be nice to the girls who treat you well and if you prove your worth that way, it will make it more difficult for them to turn around and be nasty.
    I am nice to everyone; I don't talk shit and I always smile and am cordial. I can understand girls being friendly but to the point of going out of their way? I'm nice but damn, I don't even do that!

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    This happened to me. I found out the management paid them to be nice so I'd stick around. :/

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    Default Re: Girls at the club are TOOO nice!

    Quote Originally Posted by lighthouse View Post
    I've been dancing for five years so I'm use to the typical drama in the dressing room however, this type of behavior is foreign to me. There are a few girls at my current club that are being extremely nice to me. I don't know these girls, I've never talked to them save for a few words, yet they always ask me how my day is, wonder if I'm doing okay at the club (I've worked there for about three months now), and always say goodby to me at the end of the night.

    I'm suspicious. All of the girls are nice to me and I'm not sure why! I'm a very courteous and open person so I do have chats with whoever is around when it's slow and I never talk shit, talk negative, or anything like that. I like talking to the other girls but I don't attempt to make close friendships; just off encouragement and listen to their problems. I'm definitely the top earner of the club so it's strange to me that they aren't hating. Or maybe this is their way of hating on me?

    Anyone encounter this? I know I shouldn't complain when people are nice but WHAT THE FUCK ?
    Go in, be casually friendly, and go home. Most of the clubs I worked at, the girls were nice in general save for a handful of trouble makers. Those are the ones that ruin it for the whole bunch.

    I also found the attitudes of the girls I worked with to be regional.

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    It sounds like your also nice to them, so why wouldn't they be nice back? My club is like this. It's pretty bad when we assume the worst when girls are nice to us lol

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    Just be cordial, smile, go in and do your job. Don't volunteer personal info right away and always lock your shit up. Same protocol as any other club.
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    Be an ass, & continuously post & annoy people whereby you get rightfully booted out.

    Bk on topic: better too nice than mean, but as said watch yourself.

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    Default Re: Girls at the club are TOOO nice!

    The girls at my club are always nice to each other. Sure we have our little squabbles here and there but overall we all get along. So sounds normal to me. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

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    Yeah varies from club to club.
    I've been at many. The one I'm at now, the new girls are always kinda taken aback by how "nice" we are. We all just come to work to work not torture other women.

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    Some girls try to be nice to try to get you to open up to them (whether telling them positive or negative things about you) and use it against you. All I can say as an experienced dancer is YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS IN THE CLUB. EVERYBODY GOSSIPS. I am so glad that you don't talk bad about co-workers or participate in the he say/she say nonsense. I have been dancing for a while now, and NEVER ONE talked shit about any dancer or snitched. From dancers breaking drinking and drug laws/club rules, dancers screwing customers, sdancers screwing other dancer's exes, hearing personal relationship drama...I never once told on anyone because there is no loyalty amongst dancers. YOUR BUSINESS WILL BE AIRED OUT. You have a few like me who are not a bitch to girls for no reason and don't gossip, but none can really be trusted in this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lighthouse View Post
    I am nice to everyone; I don't talk shit and I always smile and am cordial. I can understand girls being friendly but to the point of going out of their way? I'm nice but damn, I don't even do that!
    I agree you don't need to kiss the other dancer's asses. You are there to make $, so entertaining customers should be your only concern at the end of the day. You can be cordial but don't EVER share personal information with ANY OTHER DANCER. For instance if you hate another don't be in the back talking to one dancer who you think is cool with you and say "I can't stand that bitch" or something. Because next thing you know a shouting match or hands will be thrown by the end of the night.

    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Just be cordial, smile, go in and do your job. Don't volunteer personal info right away and always lock your shit up. Same protocol as any other club.
    YES ALWAYS LOCK YOUR STUFF UP, OR SOMEONE WILL STEAL IT!!! It amazes me how a few of the girls leave their phones or one dollar bills laying around the dressing room instead of carrying it in a small clutch all night. It's one thing to laugh around about crazy customers or something, but these chicks are not your sisters.

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    Pretty much all the girls in my club are nice, its a pretty friendly atmosphere. Any squabbles get shut down by management fairly swiftly and i got told on my audition "everyone works together here, we dont take bitchiness lightly, any shit, you're out, no warnings!" But yeah, most of the girls come in, work, are pleasant and go home. Lots of the girls socialise out of work as a par for the course thing. I got invited along to stuff after being there a couple of shifts. Maybe its just a nice club? But yeah, always be friendly, but protect your privacy and your belongings as you would in a bad club.
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