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    Default Lap Dances? What do you like and what don't you like?

    Again being a complete newbie, I haven't given a lap dance yet. I've watched a bunch of vids and I've seen some different things. I was just wondering from the customers perspective, what are things you really like in a lap dance? What are things that you really could do without, or just wish they wouldn't do?

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    Default Re: Lap Dances? What do you like and what don't you like?

    I love lots of contact. I sent you a private message.

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    Don't let customers teach you how to do lap dances. No. No. No. Ask the manager at your club what the rules are, and learn from the other girls. If you let the customers teach you, you're going to end up out of your comfort zone and emotionally fucked.

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    Default Re: Lap Dances? What do you like and what don't you like?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sloan1212 View Post
    I love lots of contact. I sent you a private message.
    In which I am guessing you told her you love to lick her tits, grab them, massage and spread her ass cheeks, have your dick rubbed through your pants and touch her crotch... except probably phrased "cutely" like "play with the kitty" or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sloan1212 View Post
    I love lots of contact. I sent you a private message.
    Ew...

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    Only the facts. In my private message to Sasha I asked if she wanted me to send her details of what I like. I, in fact, do not enjoy doing anything the dancer does not tell me is ok. I ask first during a dance. I do best with a happy enthusiastic dancer. Butt cheeks spreading would turn me off big time.

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    Default Re: Lap Dances? What do you like and what don't you like?

    Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact!
    Most important for making the guest feel as if it's more intimate, w/out lots of physical contact. I work in a low contact club & I found this very effective.

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    Sasha,
    have you been into the club you work in on your night off?
    Go with a friend, stay for an hour or two, grab a drink. Watch the girls who stack multiple dances. Notice how some girls do one dance and some girls will do 2 or 5 or 10 in a row.
    Notice what they are doing differently. it's important to do this at YOUR club because you need to get a feel not only for the "rules" of your club but also the norms. Also, plain and simple, what works. What the men at your club like.
    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sloan1212 View Post
    I love lots of contact. I sent you a private message.
    I would love to read what this 60 year old man sent...He's been warned in previous posts about his behavior here.

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    I've always marched to a different beat than most customers around here but eye contact and the impression the girl was enjoying herself were integral to me really enjoying myself. A few of the girls I patronized regularly gave very low contact dances by RI standards but that was not an issue. On the other hand, low contact in RI supposedly means medium to high contact in neighboring states.
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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    I would love to read what this 60 year old man sent...He's been warned in previous posts about his behavior here.
    Isnt there a minimum post count before you can pm someone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sloan1212 View Post
    I love lots of contact. I sent you a private message.
    Really? What could you possibly put into a pm that you can't post on the board?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Natalllia View Post
    Comparing strip clubs to other kinds of sales jobs is not a valid approach, because we are selling a service, not an inanimate object.

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    Yes, yes to eye contact. Yes to slow, sensual movements and you choosing where to touch me (and I'm not necessarily talking about the crotch). No to doing aerobics in my lap and moving around so much so vigorously and changing your body position so frequently that you actually work up a sweat.

    And of course, big yes to finding out where the rules and customs stand in your club. There's a huge variation there.

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    op, definitely consider your club environment. i did work in a club where aerobics seemed to be the best seller, which was extremely odd to me.

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    As the other's have said you do need to be aware of the standards for the club you are in. That being said, while this may help you get some ideas of what customers MAY like (or don't like) please keep in mind that you won't find 5-6 things that all customers like anymore than there are 5-6 things that apply to all dancers. What one customer likes...another may hate. One customer may like conversation during the dance ...the next one won't. One may like to touch within your boundaries...the next won't want to. Whatever you do realize it is about the customer (with in your limits)....I had a dancer repeatedly nibble on and blow on my ear even after moving away and telling her I don't like it. Next dance...she did it again because she ''liked it and it turned her on and it was what she did". While I doubted her reason...it didn't matter and session was ended and haven't gotten dances from her since.

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    slow, sexy and sensual. Do what you feel is right. Dance as if your the one receiving the dance, if you were the customer what would you like.

    And a big yes to what Mediocrity said, your in charge. A customer can give all the requests in the world, but that means nothing. Your in charge and you control the action.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Don't let customers teach you how to do lap dances. No. No. No. Ask the manager at your club what the rules are, and learn from the other girls. If you let the customers teach you, you're going to end up out of your comfort zone and emotionally fucked.
    If I want her to roll a character sheet for an Elf Sorceress donning a G-String of Seduction (+5 to CHA, +10 to Persuade checks) who enthralls me with her wily charms, then that's our business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lestat1 View Post
    If I want her to roll a character sheet for an Elf Sorceress donning a G-String of Seduction (+5 to CHA, +10 to Persuade checks) who enthralls me with her wily charms, then that's our business.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sloan1212 View Post
    Only the facts. In my private message to Sasha I asked if she wanted me to send her details of what I like. I, in fact, do not enjoy doing anything the dancer does not tell me is ok. I ask first during a dance. I do best with a happy enthusiastic dancer. Butt cheeks spreading would turn me off big time.
    Yeah and given that she's a noob she has no idea what's really ok and what isn't.

    Hon, the answer is that you have to operate within the club rules and the rules of whatever state you're in. DO NOT listen to the customers here. It is not their call about what a lap dance consists of, and even if you get everyone to tell you what they want in a lap dance you are never in a million years going to please everyone all the time. Please talk to your manager or watch the other girls. Asking this question on the internet is just asking for trouble, mostly for you and emotionally speaking.

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    I'm not understanding the warnings to the OP to not ask customers here. It seems like a lot of good, harmless, suggestions have been made. Customers could have really gone crazy on a question like this, like "tit sucking, HJ's, BJ's, etc."

    I second eye contact, showing enthusiasm, slow, sexy moves and no gymnastics. I had a dancer once do some kind of flip deal on me, slamming her pointy heels down on the wall behind me - an inch from my head. She was climbing all over me but in a bad way. It was ridiculous.

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    Soft, sweet and slow. I like the dancer to be as comfortable as I am, so share your boundaries up front. Eye contact and slowly removing your outfit is a big plus. (I dislike the "Its $30 plus tip while the dancer quickly strips and mounts me" start to the experience. But thats me).

    Kind of you to ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RonClubn View Post
    I'm not understanding the warnings to the OP to not ask customers here. It seems like a lot of good, harmless, suggestions have been made. Customers could have really gone crazy on a question like this, like "tit sucking, HJ's, BJ's, etc."
    Because you have no idea what's allowed or not allowed ITC/state she's in, and just because one dancer does something doesn't mean it's really ok for her to be doing it and certainly not for a newbie to imitate it. In my state, there's a lot of things that aren't allowed and even brushing up against that line can get you in big trouble.

    I'll reitterate, OP, DO NOT learn LDs by what the customers tell you they want. Learn what's allowed, set your boundries and STICK TO THEM. If you don't like something don't do it, if something makes you uncomfortable, stop it, that's the only way to do LDs.
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