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    The last two wks have been pretty bad for me, it seems like guys are trying to grope & finger more than ever. I have no patience for that shit on a good nite.

    The worst was on Friday, this drunk asshole approached me before my stage set, one of those ones that is trouble from the get-go -- no matter what I said he found a reason to yell at me, call me names. Okay you SOB, be that way. Was thankful to get called on stage, thinking I'm safe up there with a full rail, if the guy wants to get at me again he will literally have to crawl over everyone else sitting there to do it. Well, crawl he did, b/c as I was upside down on the pole, hanging by one leg he grabbed me between the legs. I saw him coming in the mirror but couldn't get down in time, felt him grab & fell off the pole, landing on my neck.

    Got up in his face & told him to get the fuck away from my rail, had him by the throat. He was pushing back & yelling back at me, telling me who the fuck did I think I was putting my hands on him, threatening, etc. Not that a SC is a regular hangout for white knights but not one guy at the rail said anything to him. Finished my stage set with him yelling at me the entire time, & yelling at the other guys at the rail about what a stinking bitch & whore I was. Two of the guys there got dances from me after, & after finishing w/ them I left.

    Thought I was good to go into work the nxt nite but by the time I was dressed & on the floor I felt sick to my stomach at the thought of doing a private dance. Left early even though it was even busier than the nite before, the doorman knew I was doing nothing but hiding either in the corner w/ him or in the DR. He was pretty understanding, telling me to take a few nites off if I need them to get my head straight.

    Didn't even go in tonite. More than anything, I don't feel safe there. The owner is a binge drinker who refuses to bring in bouncers b/c he doesn't want to pay them, & he is so worried about lawsuits that I don't think he would back up myself or any of the other girls if a customer got physical. I've had a few friends tell me already that this might just be God's way of telling me it's time for a new line of work b/c the uncomfortable contacts have been escalating. I knew what I was getting into when I started dancing, after 3 yrs it's hardly anything new, but as much as anything I'm upset b/c it feels like I have to choose between "Thank you Sir may I have another" or standing up for myself & risk losing my job.

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    Jesus fuck!! I'm shocked, I truly am. I danced for close to a decade and I NEVER saw a guy crawl up on the stage to grab a girl. That is INSANE.

    New club ASAP. I'm tempted to ask you what city you work in. I'm honestly flabbergasted.

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    I work in Daytona. The club I work in is pretty much the best one in my area since all of the others are pretty heavily drug- & extras-ridden. The doorman doesn't put up w/ that shit in this club, he was the one that turned things around b/c the owner was apparently turning a blind eye to those sorts of things ... until they got raided.

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    Uh yeah, sounds like the problem is with the club. I can't believe the staff would allow a guy to not only yell at you but to climb up on stage and pull you off the pole, and THEN allow him to continue to berate you like that. Get out before something worse happens. If this is the best club in Daytona, get the fuck out of there as well. Either travel dance, move, or find yourself a new job because everything you said in your post is royally fucked.

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    (((Aniela)))
    What happened to you is horrible & I'm sorry to hear about it.

    One night a drunk guy came after me, I tried walking away, he followed me yelling at me, it it weren't for the bouncers at my job I don't know what I would have done. I didn't know the guy at all, it was terrifying.

    I have no idea why someone owns a bar, any bar at all let alone an SC & has no security. Night clubs all have problems & need to be prepared.

    I don't know what to tell you in regards to your original question. If that is the best club in your city, that doesn't sound good.
    I don't know if traveling is an option for you.
    If dancing is a good job for you in general, maybe look into a better club in a different area? I don't know.

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    One friend suggested I try moving to day shift, his reasoning being that during the day guys are less rowdy, they actually come in for dances rather than anything else. I've given that sm thought, start working 2pm until whenever & see how it goes. He owns the restaurant nxt to my club & gets quite a bit of his evening business from guys that leave mine looking for a bite, so he understands the kinds of ppl that have been in there lately. As he put it "The nite brings out the crazy in ppl" trying to make me feel better but he's seeing me go nuts b/C of work & is advising me more to get out.

    Customers keep talking about Tampa clubs, I know they have full nude there which I don't think I could handle. I've heard the $$ out there is pretty good tho, if they have any topless clubs I'm starting to wonder if it's good enough to be worth a 2hr commute each way. Looking into travelling elsewhere now.

    As to the lack of security, the owners have smtg like 7 or 8 other clubs & this one is little more than a write-off for them, from what I've been told. They could really give a shit less.

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    I would get out of there hunny... Maybe some other clubs really aren't as bad as some ppl may say. I could not handle men being so disrespectful AND the fact that the manager doesn't have your back is extremely upsetting. I would recommend definitely taking a break, and checking out some clubs and just see them for yourself.
    Good luck with everything, & I hope you find the best thing for YOU.

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    I have an appointment in the Casselberry area today, so gonna bring my dance bag & boots w/ me to check out sm of the clubs down there.

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    So sorry that happened to you! Good luck to you, sweetheart!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    I have an appointment in the Casselberry area today, so gonna bring my dance bag & boots w/ me to check out sm of the clubs down there.
    that sounds smart

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    that's really awful. i really don't think any deity would require someone to physically or sexually assault you to send you a sign. if this indicates anything, it's that you work in a club that attracts monsters and that you will feel better when you are far away from that club, whether it's in another line of work or at another club. i'm really glad you're listening to your body as it's trying to tell you something which is this-club-is-not-a-safe-place.

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    Sweetie, come try the Cocoa Beach clubs. No way in hell that shit would go down at any of the decent clubs there. If a guy did that to me at my club the guy would be out on his ass so fast he wouldn't have time to blink except for maybe where there bouncers "accidentally" slammed his head into the door a few dozen times. We get a lot of Daytona girls; the money is not mind-blowing but it's decent if you're hot and can hustle. Topless lapdances and no champagne rooms; house fees are pretty low and you can make champagne room type money with the right hustle and the right customers. Also, contact can be pretty heavy but I don't let customers lick or suck me or touch my vagina and I don't bite or grab dick through their pants or any of the "grey area" dirty stuff and I do just fine. PM me for specific clubs. I'm about to go to bed but can get back to you in a reasonable amount of time.

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    You need to travel your butt out of there. Or else you're going to permanently screw up your mind, and your self-esteem and everything else. Humans can be pretty nasty. Stay where there are the better ones, not the worst ones. Get out of there. the longer you stay the longer you'll get used to it and just lose yourself and lose your soul and lose your common sense. Travel, work elsewhere, like the other girls say. Try West Palm beach if you have to. or wherever. Just get out.

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    Please do not work in that club anymore, travel to safer ones.
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    I can relate to you for the fact that being a stripper can feel degrating at times and depending on the type of assholes you come across very uncomfortable. There are days when I really enjoy what i do, but there are other when I really wish i was somewhere else. But the type of club really makes the difference, sounds like you are in a low-scale club, try applying someone else. If you still feel the same way then, yeah its time. I danced when i was younger for only 1 year, then i stayed away for 6 yrs! I came back more matured and with a different attitude. Sorry for your exp, Good luck!

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    OMFG!! Where in the hell was your support staff?!? I am so sorry that happened to you.

    That is disgraceful. A grown man physically and sexually assaults a (nearly) naked woman hanging upside down on a pole in a room full of people. Every man there who watched this and did nothing to stop it should be ashamed of himself. White knights or no, we're talking about the immediate safety of another human being.

    If a man were to assault a woman like that in another environment, would a room full of people still silently watch it happen?

    That club is not safe for you physically, and it sure as hell is not a supportive or healthy work environment. You do not deserve to be treated that way. The owner/management of that place and places like it make me so angry. How dare they be so dismissive and careless with your safety?
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    I will be going back to work tomor nite, but won't be staying there any longer than I have to. Casselberry wasn't looking too good so gonna try Jacksonville tomor. Thnx so much to everyone who's replied, my initial wondering was should I get out of dancing entirely -- I know that I can't stay at this club if more of same is going to happen. God help me if the owner so much as asks me how I'm doing. Gotta learn to keep a civil tongue in my head so I don't get fired before I have sm place to go.

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    um, i wouldn't blame you if you SHOT that psycho. i'd say not necessarily quit dancing, but definitely get out of that club. take a few days off to relax and pamper yourself if you need to, but definitely hit the road. that place sounds horrible!

    ladies, if there is some psycho in the club like this, just hit the dressing room or bathroom until he's gone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    Sweetie, come try the Cocoa Beach clubs. No way in hell that shit would go down at any of the decent clubs there. If a guy did that to me at my club the guy would be out on his ass so fast he wouldn't have time to blink except for maybe where there bouncers "accidentally" slammed his head into the door a few dozen times. We get a lot of Daytona girls; the money is not mind-blowing but it's decent if you're hot and can hustle. Topless lapdances and no champagne rooms; house fees are pretty low and you can make champagne room type money with the right hustle and the right customers. Also, contact can be pretty heavy but I don't let customers lick or suck me or touch my vagina and I don't bite or grab dick through their pants or any of the "grey area" dirty stuff and I do just fine. PM me for specific clubs. I'm about to go to bed but can get back to you in a reasonable amount of time.
    I work in Cocoa Beach as well and was going to suggest the same thing. Everything rareaspasia said is spot on.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aniela View Post
    Customers keep talking about Tampa clubs, I know they have full nude there which I don't think I could handle. I've heard the $$ out there is pretty good tho, if they have any topless clubs I'm starting to wonder if it's good enough to be worth a 2hr commute each way. Looking into travelling elsewhere now.
    I work in Tampa, also. I do well but I work at Mons which is nude, and they can be picky about hiring. I´ve worked in topless/nude optional clubs but I´m not sure how good they are since it was only a few shifts.
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    Yes 100% time to leave that club ASAP, never work for anyone who isn't upmost concerned about the safety of their employees

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    Cocoa Beach/Tampa is way worth the drive. You will make your gas money back and leave with money. The clubs are all easy to get in to, I've never gotten rejected from any. You should never go back. No amount of money is worth your safety.

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    Doorman overheard me the other nite on my phone telling one of my mates that I'm looking for another club. He brought it up later in the nite, & seriously wanted to know what I thought I would find if I started working smwhere else. I said I'm not going to any of the other Daytona or NSB clubs, screw that, I know how they work. One of those clubs got raided last wk for drugs & prostitution, & they were paying off the cops too. I'm still at this club for the moment, won't come in if it's packed b/c I literally shut down but I'm looking into travelling up to Jacksonville. I wasn't really surprised that he's trying to convince me to stay, of course he's going to act for his own interests & the interests of the club, but I can't help but be galled that he would advise me to stay "As your friend, Ruja!" as if a real friend would advise me to continue working in a place that I don't feel safe.

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    thats crazy

    daytona is bikini too... mollys, lollipops and biggins...and diamond dolls i guess over on US-1..

    sorry to hear that happened to you

    and yes the club in casselberry isnt that great, i hear the rachel's near the airport is better

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    Did you ever try Jacksonville? I'd try there before Cocoa Beach or Tampa unless you can get in at Mons and want to dance nude.
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    Daytona is bikini, but Biggins (my club) is Daytona Bch Shores so they are topless.

    Sry been so long, update - I did try Jacksonville, got hired at the Gold Club which I can say is the type of place I would have liked to have started when I first began dancing. Granted I was not there long - 2 nites! - but from what I saw I would recommend it. It's a much larger club, avg 25 girls for nite shifts but good $$ potential & security up the wazoo. Did 2 nites there, but the 2nd nite just literally looked around at the place & said, 'I can't freakin' do this anymore.' Guess I have just burned out.

    3 wks later I got a flt job that required moving to TX, so now here I am in the Dallas area. Flying is going well, just don't have that much to do (it's a charter-type job rather than airline) so wanting to find smtg on the side. Dancing is still on the *very* back burner but don't really want to go back to it. Will see what happens.

    Thnx again so much to everyone for the support. It's always done me good to come on here & read or post when I need a reality check.

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