This is an interesting point. I am noticing that trend in my shows as well.
This is simplifying it quite a bit, but... do you ever think that we will get rid of bullies? All kinds of bullies, I mean. People who feel the need to make fun of others and to degrade others so they can feel better about themselves? If not, then I doubt that we will ever be clear of the sigma attached to porn... that it's all we're good for, that it's degrading for women to do it, etc... because there will always be people who need to see us like that.
When men come into my room and call me "whore," it's because they need to feel powerful and need to feel like they are using me. I am a morally inferior person. The part that will always baffle me is how they are morally superior using my services. I'm not saying I agree with others' view on the morality of porn/camming. I'm just questioning the mentality of those who believe we are scum and how, using what we are offering, are better than us. I guess it's just always been like that and, as mentioned, has to do with training. I was watching an "old west" show the other day and was listening to how the men were talking about/treating the prostitutes. But, for the most part, those girls were owned.
I suppose some could argue that I am owned too, since I pay 2/3 of my income to a company who "pimps" me out. But I can quit whenever I want to and get a different job. I choose to continue doing this. I have to remind myself of that some days.
Anyway, back to my main point. Views on certain portions of society exist because they help uphold the overall social fabric of the community. In language, the meaning of certain words exist because of their relationship to other words. All words need other words to give them definition... or at least the give them the ability to be expressed as concepts... or, if you're from the camp that believes that we need words to conceptualize things, then some words are COMPLETELY dependent on other words for their meaning. Before I get going too far on this...
Think about man/woman in those terms. Women comes after man and is defined by man. Woman does not exist unless man exists, because the concept of "woman" can not be known in the absence of the concept of "man." In a dichotomy, the second word depends on the first for its meaning AND its existence. However, the reverse is also true. Since woman has existed, man has gained definition by his relationship to woman, both similarities and differences, but mostly differences. He is only "man" because he is not "woman." And who defined what "woman" is?
When woman redefines herself by stepping out of the prescribed gender roles, she is no longer "woman" as defined in the man's mind (and in his training perhaps). If she can no longer be called "woman" then she must be called something else. Perhaps "bitch"? Maybe "whore"? How about "slut"? Do none of those fit? Then maybe he'll just have to "act out" exactly how he feels about your deviation from your role. Maybe he can hurt you or get you to hurt yourself? Why? Well, who is he if you are not "woman"? How have you redefined him? And if you are redefining your role in the dichotomy, you are (be definition?) redefining his role. Wait a minute... I thought the woman was supposed to be the one who was defined by the man? Well, if man had redefined himself first, that would be true. But you, woman, had to go and do it. Now what? How is he supposed to act when you have proven yourself powerful enough to cause him to question who he is in his essence? Do you SEE how BIG that is?
Where am I going with this? This bully thing again. I'll stop there. You're all a bunch of very smart ladies, so I know you get it. I love this thread.

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