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    Default What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Is it acceptable to ask another girl's regular for a dance if she isn't working that day? Especially if you were close friends with that girl?

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    I wouldn't. I don't know that it's a "rule" though.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    If you were in the club on her day off, then you are fair game.
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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Good way for the one making the move to ruin the friendship with the other dancer. I've seen this happen a bunch of times, a bunch of ways.

    Usually it's kind of baffling to see how extremely pissed off the dancers will get about this kind of thing, especially if the one girl freaking out that 'her' customer who got 'stolen' is considerably less attractive than the one doing the stealing. That's usually the case. Also, if you ask the guys, quite often they will be entirely unaware that they 'belonged' to any one girl.

    OTOH I can also understand the protective nature of a dancer who has invested considerable time and energy making sure she was providing a customer with exactly what he wanted--especially if he really does prefer her to all others. I'd be protective in that case as well.

    In general, though, allowing oneself to be 'Taken' by one dancer in a given club will automatically and considerably reduce the customer's options and opportunity for entertainment. Much better to nip this in the bud and carefully explain to any and all that he is not anyone's property, and will remain a free agent. They will still fight over the guy if he is a big spender, though lol.
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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Quote Originally Posted by raluger View Post
    Is it acceptable to ask another girl's regular for a dance if she isn't working that day? Especially if you were close friends with that girl?
    Have you been branded or something? Of course you can ask whoever you want for dances. YOUR money, YOU'RE in control in terms of how it's spent and on whom.
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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    IME the unwritten rules vary from club to club and sometimes even from girl to girl.

    For example, in one club where I would categorize myself as a semi-regular, most of the girls will not try to poach me if the dancer is there but swarm in when she is not. Heck, when she is not there a few of the other girls even resort to trashing her.

    In a club that I visit fairly often, however, most other girls won't come near regardless of whether my fav is there. I really believe that I could tape a Benjamin to my forehead and remain completely unbothered by the other dancers. As DJ pointed out, this type of dynamic sucks as it really limits my entertainment in the club, and I have done everything I can to make it clear that I am nobody's property, but I have had limited success. A customer cannot control how dancers treat each other or force a girl to spend time with him when she is intentionally avoiding him because she doesn't want to piss off another dancer.

    Anyway, enough from me. I am very interested in seeing how the ladies answer.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Well, what else is he supposed to do when I'm gone? Sit in the corner, twiddling his thumbs, longing for me & reminiscing about the last dance I gave him?? I would hope that my friend would entertain him in my absence...

    or heck, even when I'm there, I really don't care. He may come to see me, but I don't own him!

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Recent conversation:

    Dancer: You aren't getting dances tonight?
    Me: Noone has asked
    Dancer: I would but I don't want to piss off your regular girl
    Me: Who is that?
    Dancer: Kate
    Me: Ummmmmm......She moved across the country back in October and hasnt been here in five months.
    Dancer: I know but I wouldnt want her to get mad. Have a good night ( and walks away)

    REALLY? WTF?

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    if we are friends, it's fine. i would probably even be pleased that you were nice to someone i love.
    if she's someone i don't care for, yes, i would mind. depending on the reasons why i don't care for that person would affect how much i would mind. by "mind", i mean, affect whether or not i would bother with said customer again.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    If he came in on a night he knew she wasn't working then he's definitely fair game. Obviously if he's her reg he knows her schedule so he purposely came in to spend time with other girls. Ask away!

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    My best friend and I dance for each other's customers all the time if one of us isn't working. Assuming they like us. Even if one of us is working but is busy with someone else. It's not so serious. I'll also ask other girls' regulars if they're waiting for so-and-so. Sometimes they are, And I say okay if she doesn't come by soon I can let her know you're here. (which I actually will do) sometimes they say no, she can't come in tonight. That's good news for me You never know. I'm not doing it to hurt anybody. this is the hospitality industry. I try to approach everybody. And I never get angry just because the man who spent money on me the last x amount of times is spending on whoever tonight.

    To me a regular customer is just someone who prefers me or has a special fondness for me but I know they're not exclusive to me. Girls who think that are just crazy. Even if he were to only see me at my club, he goes to other clubs anyways.

    I have a couple of customers I really do like spending time with but I know I can't let myself get too attached like that. *le sigh*

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    I think the best way to handle this from a customer's point of view is to have more than one favorite girl. I have, depending on how you look at it, either three or four favorite girls at the club I frequent. They all know each other. They all know that the other two or three are also favorites of mine. Each of the first two will and have gone out of their way to tell me when the third girl (A notorious late arrival) comes in to work. Each of them has let the third girl know that I am about ready to leave so that she can get her dances from me. They all know that the third girl always goes last, right before I go home. If there's any jealousy in there I've never seen it, I have no reason to believe that it exists. I think that as salespersons, each of them understands that they always get theirs and as long as I get to enjoy myself in that peculiar fashion I'll keep coming back. I'm not a great amount of money to any of them individually, but I am worth a steady amount of money to all of them collectively.

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    Interestingly I would sometimes switch regulars with other girls. Sounds weird but for instance at one club I had a regular who wanted dances from a black girl. I was friendly with one of the dancers who was black and she was gorgeous so he got dances from her. In return she had a regular who desired dances from a brunette with a natural chest who had muscular arms and legs. I've also picked up regulars from other dancers and in return lost a few. That's the way of clubs.

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    this is what i would assume which is why i probably wouldn't bother with that customer again. i would take it as a hint.
    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    If he came in on a night he knew she wasn't working then he's definitely fair game. Obviously if he's her reg he knows her schedule so he purposely came in to spend time with other girls.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    If I'm a regular to a dancer and come in on her day off or on a day that she is working the rule is I can get dances from anyone I want to. No one in a SC owns anyone.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    I have no problems with girls sitting with 'my' regulars on my days off or even when I'm working. As many posters have already stated, a customer doesn't belong to anyone, and the whole point is to keep someone coming back long term so variety is always a good thing. What pisses me off about this sort of scenario is that most of my coworkers will become territorial over these regulars then turn around and get mad at me and throw a bitch fit when said regulars approach me wanting to spend money on me again. So just remember that the keyword sharing is involved.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    I don't care of girls dance with my regulars. I've never had one "stolen" so really doesn't worry me. I would not ask another girls regular to dance out of respect, but if he asked me I would not decline. I think it's tacky when girls target other girls regulars, they usually just end up looking desperate and obviously money hungry, but each to their own.

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    Default Re: What's the rules on moving in on another girl's regular?

    Quote Originally Posted by Behmer View Post
    I think the best way to handle this from a customer's point of view is to have more than one favorite girl. I have, depending on how you look at it, either three or four favorite girls at the club I frequent. They all know each other. They all know that the other two or three are also favorites of mine.
    I too find this a good practice. Part of my criteria for being my favorite is they need to be OK (or pretend to be) with me having other favorites. With turnovers of girls I'm more in the 1-2 or 2-3 girls range. Gives some flexibility if one is not there or fully engaged with a high roller on a particular visit.


    Quote Originally Posted by Behmer View Post
    Each of the first two will and have gone out of their way to tell me when the third girl (A notorious late arrival) comes in to work. Each of them has let the third girl know that I am about ready to leave so that she can get her dances from me. They all know that the third girl always goes last, right before I go home.
    I don't have any particular "batting order", warm-up girl, closer, etc LOL. Continuing the baseball theme the notoriously late one would risk being shut out with me. You snooze, you lose!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Behmer View Post
    I think the best way to handle this from a customer's point of view is to have more than one favorite girl. .................. I'm not a great amount of money to any of them individually, but I am worth a steady amount of money to all of them collectively.
    It's when one girl to whom you represent a significant portion of earnings thinks you're being hijacked that a problem might arise. A girl making a drink and $20 or $40 a visit from you isn't likely to care but a girl whose been pocketing a couple of hundred a week from you somewhat regularly will.
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    I don't go frequently enough for this stuff to become a problem, but I have noticed that in this economy, girls are more frequent to jump the gun and proclaim you their property. I've had two different girls in the last six months or so tell me not to get dances from anyone else. This decree of ownership came following a string of lap dances in each case. I go to the club once a month MAYBE so by the time I come back, everyone's forgotten me and usually the same girls aren't up to bat anyway. I just find it interesting that girls assume that you WANT to be their regular after three or four lap dances.

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