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    Duh I think I just had my "worst possible experience"

    I'm not a rookie. I've seen a lot, took a lot of shit, listened to a lot of bullshit, been hit with shit, and smiled through it all. I am not ashamed of what I do, and I can put up with literally just about anything without it effecting my mood. This is my job, I am the fantasy and you are the wallet. I get it and that is why when you ask me for sex for money, I will kindly deny the offer, and keep dancing. But for the FIRST TIME, some little asshole (probably like eighteen) comes into my club and completely makes me feel like a fucking piece of shit whore!

    First of all, the night was starting out a little slow, and he comes up to me. Like most little kids, he tries to talk my prices down. I almost NEVER knock my nude dance prices, but what the hell, it's only 5 bucks less, and it was indeed slow. I did try to sell a topless one, but he said he would only buy a nude dance. So whatever, off to the back we went.

    We get to the back area, I start dancing, and slowly climb on top of him. Stick my boobs in his face or whatever, go to sit on his lap, AND HIS DICK IS OUT OF HIS PANTS. THIS KID IS TRYING TO FUCK ME. I didn't even know what to say... like did he just THINK that I was seriously going to fuck him????? for 35 FUCKING DOLLARS? What the fuck? And the worst part is, it fucking touched me.. ew!

    I dont even remember this dudes name and hes got his dick on my fucking leg!! All I said was "um... You need to put your dick away!!!" I felt violated, and continued the dance at a comfortable distance. But it's still bothering me. I know I could have told the bouncer, but I hate drama and I honestly avoid it. I just feel.... like shit... can anyone relate to this? does this happen?!?!?!?! Is this just a stripper stepping stone? lol?

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    Yes, I've had a guy whip it out during a private dance before. And I immediately went and got the bouncer who threw his ass the fuck out.

    Seriously, why didn't you get the bouncer? Hating drama is one thing, but this is 100% unacceptable. No amount of money is worth that amount of disrespect and you need to acknowledge this. I am shocked that you continued the dance...I honestly believe that you wouldn't feel like shit if you had immediately reacted.

    I honestly used to have a problem with boundaries too. When I was like 16 and 17, I used to end up in a lot of situations where I ended up going further sexually with guys than I was comfortable with, simply because I didn't know where to draw the line and I was uncomfortable with saying no. Thank god I never actually ended up having sex with any of them, but I still went a lot further than I wanted to. I didn't want to cause drama, I didn't want to be called a tease, etc. But I gotta tell you, stripping cured me of that real quick. It is 100% okay to say "NO" in this industry. No matter what the situation is...it doesn't even have to be this dramatic, it can simply be a customer who rubs you the wrong way and you decide not to dance for him. In this industry, you have to have boundaries and you have to enforce them. FIRMLY. And there need to be swift repercussions for customers who cross those boundaries. Honestly, nobody else is going to come along and enforce your boundaries for you. Yeah, that's supposedly what the bouncers are there for, but lets be realistic. Few are proactive enough to take action of their own accord. Unless they are extremely vigilant, they aren't going to know if a customer has crossed the line unless YOU let them know. And in that situation, that is exactly what they are there for--to protect YOU and to physically enforce YOUR boundaries. But like I said, you have to be the one to tell the bouncers what's up. If you get caught in this kind of situation and you don't react, chances are YOU will get in trouble. In this industry, you are 100% responsible for screening your clientele, because nobody else is going to do it for you, unless you are amazingly lucky. So the next time this happens, you NEED to say, "This is unacceptable," and you need to go get a bouncer and have this guy kicked the fuck out. And if you feel your bouncers wouldn't back you up on this, you need to find a new club. Seriously, no amount of money is worth this kind of disrespect. And what drama did you think this would cause? A guy pulled out his erect penis during a LAP DANCE and touched you with it. You have every right to freak the fuck out.

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    You're right! That kid was a disrespectful little asshole and i should have stepped on his balls with my 8 inchers

    I just feel like you girls are the only ones I can relate to about this kind of thing and I need to vent somewhere because my boyfriend would go to my club with a 9mm if I told him!

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    What I found that works: point and laugh hysterically.

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    ^ So simple yet awesome!

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    I've had that happen twice myself. It's the most frustrating thing, in my opinion. Easily worse than prostitution offers, because it's like they think they don't even need to ask for consent...? The first time it happened to me, he whipped it out when I turned around and was about to sit on his lap, but I turned back to look at him just in time. I grabbed his keys in one hand and his shirt collar in the other and dragged him out to a bouncer. Then the guy tried to short me but I SAW MONEY IN HIS WALLET so he gave me money when I pointed it out. Then, I took the entire amount, but he protested to the bouncer that I owed him change. I peeled off his $10 and stormed off to warn the other girls, but he remained in the club for a half hour after that incident.

    I'm pretty nice. I don't even really mind if you're a total weirdo loser who mooches off distant visions of my vagina while you sip your O'Doul's... but when you whip your dick out, it's my opinion that this should result in an instant club ban.

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    I have had guys pull there itty bits out on me and I tell them put it away, if they piss me off I get the bouncer if there nice about it I simply charge them extra give them a shitty dance and go on my way and warn the other girs I like. But thats just me and I haven't ever done a nude dance so I think in your case I would have gave a verbal bitch slap and been on my way. I can understand how you feel its akward and pisses you off an dits hard to find the best course of action because as wierd as it sounds some guys are retarded and think that happens in lap dances. I have regulars tha ttried this the first dance and came back really respectful the next time.

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    I haven't been dancing for even a year, and this has happened to me 4 times. they always try to do it so sly too, some will whip it out all the way... but two of them tried to hide it sort of. One tucked it "up" in his pants so his head was out and tried to cover it with his shirt then thought he would pull his shirt off when I was going to sit on his lap so my ass would rub on his dick, no buddy. Put that shit away, enjoy the rest of your lap dance which is now an air dance, bitch. The other guy pulled his shorts up really high on one leg so his dick was out, I felt it on my leg... I carry hand sanitizer always and I took my time applying it generously all over myself while I also told him to put it away.

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    ^^ Yeah i think sanitising in front of them will make them feel shitty too haha.

    Had this happen once, sad to say i was never anticipating it and was just sort of shocked so just finished the dance rather than tell him off. I would feel gross if it touched me though and definitely end the dance and make them feel like crap!

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    I lost track of how many times guys whipped out their dicks, from regulars who seemed to think the "relationship" had gotten to that point O_o to the odd random guy but here in the USA it happened mostly with Egyptian and Mexican men as in grew up there, came here.

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    Next time tell a bouncer. I've worked at some pretty shady clubs, and almost all of them will kick a guy out for that. I'll admit one or two wouldn't have cared if he did or not, hence why I quit working there.

    Also, if someone touches you inappropriately or removes their clothing then you need to immediately stop the dance. (This is partly why collecting your money upfront is beneficial--no refunds). But even if you hadn't gotten your money upfront and you stopped the dance I would say just forget the $35 and get him kicked out. If the bouncer can get you your money then fine, but it's better that the little prick be humiliated and dragged out of the club like a wild animal. These guys need to be made an example of so that other customers realize that security isn't just for show--they actually intervene when you overstep the line.
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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    Yes, I've had a guy whip it out during a private dance before. And I immediately went and got the bouncer who threw his ass the fuck out.

    Seriously, why didn't you get the bouncer? Hating drama is one thing, but this is 100% unacceptable. No amount of money is worth that amount of disrespect and you need to acknowledge this. I am shocked that you continued the dance...I honestly believe that you wouldn't feel like shit if you had immediately reacted.

    I honestly used to have a problem with boundaries too. When I was like 16 and 17, I used to end up in a lot of situations where I ended up going further sexually with guys than I was comfortable with, simply because I didn't know where to draw the line and I was uncomfortable with saying no. Thank god I never actually ended up having sex with any of them, but I still went a lot further than I wanted to. I didn't want to cause drama, I didn't want to be called a tease, etc. But I gotta tell you, stripping cured me of that real quick. It is 100% okay to say "NO" in this industry. No matter what the situation is...it doesn't even have to be this dramatic, it can simply be a customer who rubs you the wrong way and you decide not to dance for him. In this industry, you have to have boundaries and you have to enforce them. FIRMLY. And there need to be swift repercussions for customers who cross those boundaries. Honestly, nobody else is going to come along and enforce your boundaries for you. Yeah, that's supposedly what the bouncers are there for, but lets be realistic. Few are proactive enough to take action of their own accord. Unless they are extremely vigilant, they aren't going to know if a customer has crossed the line unless YOU let them know. And in that situation, that is exactly what they are there for--to protect YOU and to physically enforce YOUR boundaries. But like I said, you have to be the one to tell the bouncers what's up. If you get caught in this kind of situation and you don't react, chances are YOU will get in trouble. In this industry, you are 100% responsible for screening your clientele, because nobody else is going to do it for you, unless you are amazingly lucky. So the next time this happens, you NEED to say, "This is unacceptable," and you need to go get a bouncer and have this guy kicked the fuck out. And if you feel your bouncers wouldn't back you up on this, you need to find a new club. Seriously, no amount of money is worth this kind of disrespect. And what drama did you think this would cause? A guy pulled out his erect penis during a LAP DANCE and touched you with it. You have every right to freak the fuck out.
    Holy shit you're just like me, same situations happened when I was 16 and 17. Guys just don't have respect!! (Mostly)

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    The last time this happened to me, it finally prompted me to retire from live dancing altogether. However, I did get my 'revenge'. When the last asshole to whip out his junk refused my polite but stern 'request' to put his dick back in his pants, I lost it. I did a spin move over the back of the VIP chair, slapped a hammerlock on the asshole, personally 'perp walked' him right through the main club area. Going past the club owner at the door, he cleared lined up customers out of the way. I then shoved the asshole out the front door of the club, and kicked him square in the ass as I let go of the hammerlock ... to a round of applause from the lined up customers ! Unfortunately, I had more or less overlooked the fact that, at that point, I was standing on a public sidewalk wearing nothing but 6" heels !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aslinn View Post
    I have had guys pull there itty bits out on me and I tell them put it away, if they piss me off I get the bouncer if there nice about it I simply charge them extra give them a shitty dance and go on my way and warn the other girs I like. But thats just me and I haven't ever done a nude dance so I think in your case I would have gave a verbal bitch slap and been on my way. I can understand how you feel its akward and pisses you off an dits hard to find the best course of action because as wierd as it sounds some guys are retarded and think that happens in lap dances. I have regulars tha ttried this the first dance and came back really respectful the next time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylee84 View Post
    I'm not a rookie. I've seen a lot, took a lot of shit, listened to a lot of bullshit, been hit with shit, and smiled through it all. I am not ashamed of what I do, and I can put up with literally just about anything without it effecting my mood. This is my job, I am the fantasy and you are the wallet. I get it and that is why when you ask me for sex for money, I will kindly deny the offer, and keep dancing. But for the FIRST TIME, some little asshole (probably like eighteen) comes into my club and completely makes me feel like a fucking piece of shit whore!

    First of all, the night was starting out a little slow, and he comes up to me. Like most little kids, he tries to talk my prices down. I almost NEVER knock my nude dance prices, but what the hell, it's only 5 bucks less, and it was indeed slow. I did try to sell a topless one, but he said he would only buy a nude dance. So whatever, off to the back we went.

    We get to the back area, I start dancing, and slowly climb on top of him. Stick my boobs in his face or whatever, go to sit on his lap, AND HIS DICK IS OUT OF HIS PANTS. THIS KID IS TRYING TO FUCK ME. I didn't even know what to say... like did he just THINK that I was seriously going to fuck him????? for 35 FUCKING DOLLARS? What the fuck? And the worst part is, it fucking touched me.. ew!

    I dont even remember this dudes name and hes got his dick on my fucking leg!! All I said was "um... You need to put your dick away!!!" I felt violated, and continued the dance at a comfortable distance. But it's still bothering me. I know I could have told the bouncer, but I hate drama and I honestly avoid it. I just feel.... like shit... can anyone relate to this? does this happen?!?!?!?! Is this just a stripper stepping stone? lol?

    This is what I used to do:

    1. Exit the VIP immediately.

    2. Tell a manager.

    3. If not resolved in my favor, quit.

    Soonrer or later you'll find a club worth all the crap. Think of the first one as a test of your management.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    The last time this happened to me, it finally prompted me to retire from live dancing altogether. However, I did get my 'revenge'. When the last asshole to whip out his junk refused my polite but stern 'request' to put his dick back in his pants, I lost it. I did a spin move over the back of the VIP chair, slapped a hammerlock on the asshole, personally 'perp walked' him right through the main club area. Going past the club owner at the door, he cleared lined up customers out of the way. I then shoved the asshole out the front door of the club, and kicked him square in the ass as I let go of the hammerlock ... to a round of applause from the lined up customers ! Unfortunately, I had more or less overlooked the fact that, at that point, I was standing on a public sidewalk wearing nothing but 6" heels !
    I hope his measly nob was still out in front of everyone!

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    My club is lucky, it has particularly militant doormen. I was doing a dance for a bloke at the end of the night last week, bent over and was about to do some floorwork when the doorman came in over my head, pushed the customer back against the dance bench and went "PUT YOUR TONGUE BACK IN YOUR MOUTH BEFORE I RIP IT OUT OF YOUR FUCKING FACE! IF SHE WANTED YOU TO LICK HER ARSE SHE WOULD HAVE SAID!" lol apparently he was about to try and lick my bum, and i completely hadnt noticed.

    You definitely need to tell the bouncers if it ever happens to you again babe, you dont have to put up with that kind of shit from customers. xxxxx
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    I'm still amazed after reading your post and reading everyone's posts as well that shit happens so often. Where I work we are only topless, and we go upstairs to do dances, no private room or anything, just a bunch of couches so multiple girls can be up there at the same time. bouncers are there watching (mostly) everything. If a guy did this to me I would be like, hell no! I would tell him he needs to put it away or the bouncer can hear about it. It sucks it happens to us because people think we are whores, but next time definitely speak up, don't be afraid to say no, fuck this, even if you need the money.

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    hey it sucks to have this happen . always know this ... your in controll and no one has the right to treat you like that .

    1). tell him put that away you don't do that at work.

    2) or tell keep it out your going to get some protection ... then send the bouncer in .

    3) climb right up on him step on his balls and call the bouncer to boot him out.

    4) don't to forget to get your money and some extra too .. after all he was looking for extras you should get extra money too...

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