
Originally Posted by
firemaiden04
Yes, I've had a guy whip it out during a private dance before. And I immediately went and got the bouncer who threw his ass the fuck out.
Seriously, why didn't you get the bouncer? Hating drama is one thing, but this is 100% unacceptable. No amount of money is worth that amount of disrespect and you need to acknowledge this. I am shocked that you continued the dance...I honestly believe that you wouldn't feel like shit if you had immediately reacted.
I honestly used to have a problem with boundaries too. When I was like 16 and 17, I used to end up in a lot of situations where I ended up going further sexually with guys than I was comfortable with, simply because I didn't know where to draw the line and I was uncomfortable with saying no. Thank god I never actually ended up having sex with any of them, but I still went a lot further than I wanted to. I didn't want to cause drama, I didn't want to be called a tease, etc. But I gotta tell you, stripping cured me of that real quick. It is 100% okay to say "NO" in this industry. No matter what the situation is...it doesn't even have to be this dramatic, it can simply be a customer who rubs you the wrong way and you decide not to dance for him. In this industry, you have to have boundaries and you have to enforce them. FIRMLY. And there need to be swift repercussions for customers who cross those boundaries. Honestly, nobody else is going to come along and enforce your boundaries for you. Yeah, that's supposedly what the bouncers are there for, but lets be realistic. Few are proactive enough to take action of their own accord. Unless they are extremely vigilant, they aren't going to know if a customer has crossed the line unless YOU let them know. And in that situation, that is exactly what they are there for--to protect YOU and to physically enforce YOUR boundaries. But like I said, you have to be the one to tell the bouncers what's up. If you get caught in this kind of situation and you don't react, chances are YOU will get in trouble. In this industry, you are 100% responsible for screening your clientele, because nobody else is going to do it for you, unless you are amazingly lucky. So the next time this happens, you NEED to say, "This is unacceptable," and you need to go get a bouncer and have this guy kicked the fuck out. And if you feel your bouncers wouldn't back you up on this, you need to find a new club. Seriously, no amount of money is worth this kind of disrespect. And what drama did you think this would cause? A guy pulled out his erect penis during a LAP DANCE and touched you with it. You have every right to freak the fuck out.
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