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    Sad I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    Well, maybe not a hex but this has been the worst 2 weeks of my life. I will list in order, all the BS I went through and why I am quitting the adult industry.

    Prior to the series of unfortunate events, I recently got out of an abusive relationship. I sent his ass to jail and don't regret my decision. We webcammed together on a popular site but didn't do so well. He also took out a webcam loan and I didn't know about it till the next day but shortly after, i sent him to jail for domestic violence. I wasn't able to pay my loan and the money was spent. I did not make any money on my own. I don't strip or escort and I almost escorted but decided against it. There are no strip clubs in my area and i don't have a vehicle. So I started camming solo and just toughed it out till I got my first check, which was a few weeks away and I needed cash right away for rent. I didn't have it but I was happy because I started camming with the same site on my own and made $50 an hr which is double the amount my ex and I made together. I was so happy. Then I closed the couples account and was going to finally get back on my feet. Two days later, shit started to hit the fan.

    2/22/12- I got fired from the cam site i work with. Not permanently but just till I paid off the loan I took out with them. I had no money and my check wasn't going to arrive for a few weeks. I asked my mom if she could loan me the amount for the loan just so i can get back to work cause I was afraid I was gonna get kicked out of the house. She let me borrow money but it took a week till i could get that. Once I paid off the loan, my account was active again. Unfortunately, because of this, I wasn't able to afford my rent for the month.

    2/22/12- Later in the evening, my new boyfriend calls me. He's not a new boyfriend, he's the man I someday hope to marry. We have been together for 7 years but he broke up with me a year ago to move across country because his health wasn't good and he needed particular treatment. 6 months later, i got a new bf (the abusive one) and that didn't last long. But later that night, he called me and told me that he never wanted to talk to me again because the night prior, he stopped by when I was sleeping. He for some reason thought I was cheating on him with my ex who was in jail because he heard me yell through the door that "I'm busy'' and then he heard my land ladys 15 yr old son who lives downstairs talking. He thought it sounded like my ex and long story short, it was a misunderstanding. I don't even remember waking up to say "I'm busy". So we didn't talk for a few days but he's a good guy, not controlling or jealous. It was just bad timing and confusion.

    2/23/12- My dog passed away. He's very old and has been with me since he was a puppy. I felt like he was a son to me.

    2/25/12- I finally paid the loan off and my cam account was active again but I was too depressed to perform.

    2/25/12- An old friend stopped by my house with a new friend neither of us knew that well. It was the first time meeting this guy. I wouldn't even remember his name if he didn't request me as a friend on facebook.

    2/26/12- The police stopped by my house randomly. They were undercover officers with no uniform and no police car. But they stopped by, looking for me and then they harassed my land lady's son. They bound him down and he's only 15 yrs old. Why? Because they were looking for the guy my friend brought over the night before. What's weird about this is that neither of them actually know my address and I don't know why anyone would think that I even know who that guy was cause I only met him for maybe a couple hrs. But the cops thought I was hiding him and they even got a warrant, went through the house and harassed my land ladys son.

    2/27/12- My land lady decides to tell me that i gotta move out by June 1st. This was horrible news for me because I've been at this house for 3 years, its the best place I've ever lived and a week before this happened, i said to myself that I am so proud to live all alone in this wonderful house. This house is perfect for me and i love this place so much. i have to move out because the cops harassed her son and since I called the cops on my ex a couple months ago, she doesn't want to have to deal with me anymore.

    3/1/12- I pay only half my rent and still haven't been working because I'm too depressed. This is my fault though because I need to get off my ass and work.

    3/3/12- My house was broken into. My nice tv was stolen, my 2 laptops stolen, jewelry stolen, versace sunglasses stolen, my weed was stolen, about $600 worth of art also stolen. And the word "Whore" was spray painted on my wall. Cops for a third time, had to come back. I never had to deal with cops any time in my life but right now.

    3/4/12- I discovered a bald spot on the back of my head. WTF?

    3/5/12- I discovered 2 bald spots on my head and suddenly my hair rapidly started to fall out. I went to the doctor asap and I was diagnosed with a skin disorder called Alopecia Areata. I don't have insurance and my mom paid $100 for the service.

    3/6/12- My mom told me that I'm ruining our relationship.

    3/8/12- I am almost fully bald now. In a couple weeks, I will be fully bald and the doctor pretty much said there is only a 50/50 chance my hair will even grow back. And even if it does, this disorder is very spontaneous and he can't tell me when it would start growing back. There is no cure but this condition is not life threatening. It is life altering and I will now have to wear wigs possibly for the rest of my life.

    Because of this, I have decided to retire from the adult industry. And I can kiss my dreams of becoming a hair stylist and esthetician good bye.

    That is all I wanted to say. My boyfriend says he'll still be with me because I'm beautiful either way. I believe him. But this is literally the worst week of my life. the weirdest part is that I haven't even cried yet. I am still going through the shock part.

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    Sorry you are going through such a hard time. Moving is not really so bad though, you SHOULD move out even if you aren't getting kicked out. Think about it, thieves don't leave personal notes to their victims, whoever robbed you is someone who knows you and doesn't like you. And they know where you live, and they've been in your home already. Staying there is a bad idea no matter what.
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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    Lord....I'm so sorry to hear what's happened! Jeez...talk about a real life series of unfortunate events. I agree on the moving issue though. Actually, if it were me... I'd already be freaked about the cops coming around for some guy I'd only met the day before, and after the break in, you be hard pressed to get me back in that house... The whore thing is definitely personal. I would break lease and get the heck out immediately if it were me...
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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    I am so sorry for all your misfortunes! When you get out, hopefully you'll have a new & positive start. Please keep us updated, If you want you can pm me anytime. Take care

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    Quote Originally Posted by KushKandi View Post
    3/8/12- I am almost fully bald now. In a couple weeks, I will be fully bald and the doctor pretty much said there is only a 50/50 chance my hair will even grow back. And even if it does, this disorder is very spontaneous and he can't tell me when it would start growing back. There is no cure but this condition is not life threatening. It is life altering and I will now have to wear wigs possibly for the rest of my life.

    Because of this, I have decided to retire from the adult industry. And I can kiss my dreams of becoming a hair stylist and esthetician good bye.

    That is all I wanted to say. My boyfriend says he'll still be with me because I'm beautiful either way. I believe him. But this is literally the worst week of my life. the weirdest part is that I haven't even cried yet. I am still going through the shock part.
    I'm really sorry to hear about all this but I really want to point out that a lot of these troubles are simply lack of money. I can relate, been through some similar stuff and am determined im going to get ahead financially and have a nice cushion for myself.

    I have to ask - did you mean that you are getting out of the adult industry because of your baldness? I hope that isn't why because ( and I really hope this does not offend you) there are several VERY popular cam hosts who actually shave their heads. It's a fetish and you would be very unique. Maybe consider giving it a try?


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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    i'm sorry all this is happening fiy, i know some ladies with alopecia who do special hair extensions and wigs- you would have no idea they have it. they look fantastic. they specialize in working with women who have hair loss. i think that could be a good business angle for you- women get cancer, have alopecia, hair loss from stress, post-pregnancy, bad hair dye jobs, car accident, etc. i found these women's condition made their clientele more comfortable and not feel so alone.

    also, please move asap. i am concerned for your safety.

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    I am so sorry to read about everything you are going through, you probably don't see it now but I believe that something good will come out of all bad things. It will drive you to make the change you need and probably wouldnt have done otherwise.

    Regarding your hairloss, I have a good friend who works with women with hairloss, they do amazing work. this is the website:
    http://www.lucindaellery-hairloss.co.uk/

    this is in the UK but I am sure you can find someone similar in the US

    I send you a lot of good energy, you are blessed to have a boyfriend who loves and supports you, XXX

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    So sorry this is happening to you, that is seriously a rough week! *hugs*

    For alopecia, if I were you I'd go ahead and try things like Rogaine for women or Nioxin, which has a treatment that is supposed to stimulate hair growth. You never know, it might help -- especially if your hair loss is related to stress, which it sounds like it could be. Also make sure that you're eating healthy and taking a multivitamin. Don't assume that you're losing your hair forever, give it some time.

    Wigs are also pretty good these days. My cousin has to wear a wig because of chemotherapy, but she posts pics of herself all the time on facebook and you can't even tell.

    And why on earth would you not be able to be a hairstylist or esthetician? You work on other peoples' hair, not your own. Even if you went to beauty school and had issues because no one could practice on your hair... no big deal. You can still do it. Even if you want to stay in the adult industry, there's no reason alopecia should hold you back. I know it sucks big time, but don't let it get in the way of what you want to do with your life.

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    ur in very emotional distress at the moment, don't make any long term decisions other than what u gotta do right now. ur just not in the emotional state to do so yet. once u pick urself up some, create a plan and go from there. u really have been to hell and back and ur mind and feelings are all over the place. i am here to offer my sympathy, support and (((((hugs))))) it hurts me to see someone in so much pain. it will get better, the worst is already over and it can only get better from here on.

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    I agree with moving and would add that you shouldn't let anyone come over for awhile. Let shit die down and certainly try to avoid bad stuff in the future by having a good talking to with your friend who brought that guy over. Do you have home insurance? It covers stuff that is stolen so long as there's a police report. If you do not have that, consider getting it.

    Here is a link on earthclinic you might find useful about alternative treatments for alopecia:
    http://www.earthclinic.com/CURES/alopecia.html

    And, I agree that you should try the fetish angle. You could always buy a wig, but it's not like it's easy to fake not having hair so that could potentially be lucrative and let you feel potentially more comfortable with your condition. Because you've gone through such an extreme amount of stress, I'd think that it's likely a short term baldness though you should still take care of yourself and clean up any possibly deficiencies so your hair grows in nice.
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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    Talk about bad luck girl... well the only way is UP! Keep your head up girl

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    I know this is a couple of weeks old but - I hope you are in a better place mentally today - I'm sorry to hear that so many bad things happened in such a short period of time- the positive is that it sounds like you have replaced a bad relationship with a good one - it is really hard to feel secure in a home that has been violated - so maybe the move is another positive - you paid the cam site so if you do decided to return that door is open - Biotin is a supplement to help with hair / nail regrowth - results take awhile but it is fairly inexpensive - hugs and best of luck

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    Default Re: I think someone has put a hex on me; I am now retiring from the adult industry.

    I'm sorry all this has happened to you. I'm sure you've heard the term "a blessing in disguise." As much as everything hurts, its the way you react to the situation that really matters. Looking at some of your situations from a positive POV can really help. I know it's easier said than done but you should look at all this as an opportunity to make adjustments in all aspects of your life. I assume that you have a negative thought pattern. All the stress and negative thinking may have contributed to your hair loss. I can also assume that you aren't eating well, as you said you've been too depressed to do anything. Exercise will do you a whole lot of good. Also, try journaling. I found that writing really helped me get out of the long "funk" I was in. Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions regarding anything.

    BTW, how is everything coming along? I just saw the date in which you created the post. Hopefully you can fill us in on what you ended up doing?
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