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    Default How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    I just had a death of a close friend from childhood and she was only 48! How do you start camming after that? The pain is bad. I miss her so much. But she is out of pain. I mean the last thing you want to do is start masturbating on cam for some damn man! Any advice?

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    Sorry to hear that. I feel the best thing for you is to take some time off away from performing because the last thing you need is breaking down in front of people on camera. Or worse yet, you get a little short and start snapping off at them. If you still need the money and can't afford to take time off then you can announce in your topic that you're ready for discussions and not nudity that day. Maybe in this case it will be good to have one of your regulars listen to you in exclusive chat.

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    Thanks Daisy that is a good idea! I was torn because I need to grieve but I need to make my bills and car payment and my mother's birthday is on the 29th!

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    Default Re: How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    You will know when you're ready to come back . Time heals -

    I lost my pa in December - I took a month or so off cam - and it's been a naturally migration back . The last thing you want to be doing is sitting there fighting back the tears and forcing a paper smile - Grieving is natural - surpressing it is dangerous.

    I am very sorry for your loss.... be kind to yourself , only you will know when the time is right . We are all different , and there's no set time for grieving .

    If you MUST work ( It's not always possible to take time off, I know that ) .... work only what you need to , try some light meditation before loggging on to clear your mind , try and put yourself in a different state for an hour or so , just to see yourself through - and whatever you do .... don't feel guilty . I felt guilty as soon as I got back on ... Have I recovered too fast , does it show I didn't care enough about my Pa . I realise now , no it doesn't , but I don't want you to go through that too .... We all do what we have to .

    Sending love and healing vibes your way .

    Missy .

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    Thanks Missy I will take your advice! Meditation never entered my mind. I will try that I need to go on cam this week but not today.

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    Sorry for your loss Tee

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    I'm very sorry It's not easy...My grandfather died at 1st december and I was in a very deep pain..but I had to work(restarted work after 3 days) and I was just sitting there...couldn't smile or talk...so it will be better if you start camming again whenever you think you can do it!
    I hope you will feel better

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    Default Re: How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    It's really easy to say take time off but for me that wasn't an option. I couldn't let my kids go hungry while I tried to recover. The only thing that really helped me was jsut being an actress and pretending I was someone else.

    Sometimes I could only make it 15 minutes at a time, but even if I only made $5 it's $5 that I didn't have before.


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    Default Re: How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    Sorry for your loss, like others said perhaps take some time off to allow yourself to recollect yourself, that is if you can take time off.

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    Yeah today is a definite no! I mean this woman helped raise me and helped me with boys when I was a teenager. I was like her shadow I wanted to be right where she was! She had the best personality, I am 40 and she is or was 48! We never head a fight or said a mean word to each other. She was the best taught me how to cook mexican food. Taught me about life. She could keep you laughing. She was the best friend anyone could ask for, I hated that she was in so much pain before death. But she is in a better place now with no pain. Thanks for listening. I have posted also on my facebook page.

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    Default Re: How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    I just literally took one day off and then threw myself into my work and kept my mind on the money. Sadly, it is the same thing that everyone pretty much has to do. When death is that unfair, it generally makes everything around it feel inconsequential no matter what the job.

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    Thanks everyone I really appreciated your help. This is gonna be hard. But maybe the guys will take my mind off it while on cam. Times like these I wish I had another job instead of this one.

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    Default Re: How Do You Start Camming After A Loved One Dies?

    wow camgirltee, she was such a great friend to you... i;d be devastated myself. Im so sorry for your loss. God rest her in peace.
    take a few days off if u can... but if u can not... work withOUT showing your face, so u can hide the sadness... just go threw the motions, like a robot.

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