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    I was working last night, typical Saturday with a few bachelor parties in. I noticed there were a group of 12 with no dancers talking to them so I wander over. They're very interesting, and I flirt with the group for a few minutes before the man I can assume was the best man said "we'd like to buy our stag a dance." I told him the price and he said "no, we want something a bit more special." so I upsold him a 15 minute set for £100, saying I would whip the stag and that they could all watch, that if they all chipped in it would be a lot of fun. The best man went around collecting the money of the group who were all more than happy to oblige, and I was talking to the stag. Then, 2 girls appear and ask if they want more girls. The guys don't give a good response - they're a little tight. I explain to the girls that the group have decided they wanted a 15 minute set from me and that I was sure the stag would be requiring dances once I was done. Girl 1 backed off a little, girl 2 started hanging all over the stag, stroking him and saying "are you sure you don't want me baby?"
    I ignored it, the best man was standing in front of me with the cash ready and looking a bit pissed off at the intrusive girls. He came with me to exchange the money into vouchers and then suddenly the stag appears with girl 2, and said "can we get her?" to which I replied "well you've already paid for me, so if you want her that's another £100". He said "can I swap girls?" I dropped the £100 vouchers on the table and told him he could do whatever he liked on his stag do. I left quickly. I completely lost my rag.
    I complained to management who made me sit down and talk to the girl. She acted all innocent going "but babe he decided he wanted me". I said "I don't care about what he wants, there's nothing either of us can do about that but what I'm saying is I did all the groundwork and you swooped in a took the prize, I don't know what you think you were doing. You might as well have gone in my bag and taken the money out of my purse. You can act all innocent with me but I can see through it." She stuck to her innocent guns and tried to tell me it was all part of the job and I went "Don't patronise me, I know what the job is." Meoowwwwwww.
    I just want confirmation I've done the right thing?
    It annoyed me because it's not the first time she's done this sort of thing - it's never been so obvious and she's hardly done it to me but she and this other girl she teams up with often go and steal customers even when there's only 1 guy, and a girl already talking to him.
    It's a hard call to define the line between not fighting with your co-workers and making sure they don't walk all over you because you're a newbie ITC.
    It is a cut throat business, and she got the kill, but I wanted to stand up for myself, because I never do - I HATE confrontation. But I knew that if I surrendered without a fight she'd see me as weak and potentially do it again and again and again..
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    I think you handled it well. It's a tough call to make between "well, the customer wants who he wants" and ethical boundaries in regards to other dancers hounding guys you're already hustling. I personally think she crossed a line, and it's good that you stood up to her so she realizes you won't accept this behavior from her in the future. It sounds like you were assertive but didn't turn it into a major bitch-fest, so I don't think you did anything wrong.
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    I don't really know what to tell you about this. I've had girls steal customers from me multiple times. I've even had two separate girls on two separate occasions try to actively steal my entire dancer persona...started wearing their hair exactly like mine, dancing to the exact same music, buying identical outfits, and introducing themselves to customers with my stage name. But I just ignored them and went on with my hustle, and they kept digging themselves deeper and deeper until customers were getting weirded out with their act, and then they just disappeared from the club, never to be seen again. On both occasions the girls started working there, pulled their stunts, and then disappeared within a month's time.

    I believe in karma, especially in any type of tipping industry. If she starts following you around and specifically targeting YOUR customers, I'd talk to management again. If management does nothing and she's fucking with you that badly, I'd find another club. But if this girl keeps pulling this shit, one day she's going to pull it with the wrong dancer and will probably get jumped.

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    Stick her tampon in hotsauce!!

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    putting myself in the other girl's shoes, i don't shy away if there's 1 girl sitting with a large group because sometimes other members of the bachelor party want to have fun too. at the worst, i suggest myself and the other girl dance together- this usually works in our favor. but if you said something to me and especially with the best man's glare, i would have backed off the bachelor and tried to have fun with other people in the group.

    yes, i think she was out of line. the only time i would find it acceptable is if the bachelor happened to see her walking by and called to her and told you to leave. you handled yourself very well in that circumstance. bringonthemen made some good points.

    are there other girls having issues with this person? if so, and it happens again, i think getting the girls together to complain to management will definitely get the point across.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alice_island View Post
    are there other girls having issues with this person? if so, and it happens again, i think getting the girls together to complain to management will definitely get the point across.
    The first thing the house mum said when I told her was "Was she with *insert dancer name here*? A lot of the girls complain that they bully them."
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    i think speaking with other girls about it and a group going to the manager is acceptable esp if it happens again. if she tries it again, give her the death stare.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alice_island View Post
    if she tries it again, give her the death stare.
    As mentioned previously, not great at confrontation... Can I do it and go 'dun dun DUN DUN DUN DUNNNNN' at the same time to get myself through it?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8jgWO9PGP4 see 0:34
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    That's why at times doing private party dancing is better. Your not having to worry about other girls stealing dances from you. Sometimes you may work with more girls at a party but you share everything in the end and work as a team.

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    @marie, hahaha! you've done what i think is an acceptable, rational and professional approach. if it still happens despite trying to handle this in a professional manner, you need to turn up the bitch factor. this bitch is taking $$$ out of YOUR pocket, and it isn't ok! try the death stare first. if she doesn't get the hint, lean over and quietly utter 'you need to get up NOW'. i hate shit like that in front of custies, believe me. an utter cunt i work with has pulled this crap on me. but if management won't listen to you or other girls, it may come to a disgruntled custy complaining to management about her.

    i had a girl try and do this to a group several girls and i were going to go to vip with. i said, in a voice she could hear and loud enough for the waitress who came by, ' somebody needs to get the manager'. even my custy was getting pissed off. the cunt left, but i was hoping our waitress (who hates the girl too) would get our manager to shoo her away. well our bouncers saw her and gave her crap for trying to ruin a vip room for quite a few girls. i did go to management later and many girls were pissed at what she did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariesgame View Post
    As mentioned previously, not great at confrontation... Can I do it and go 'dun dun DUN DUN DUN DUNNNNN' at the same time to get myself through it?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8jgWO9PGP4 see 0:34
    I have absolutely nothing relevant or helpful to add about your situation, but had to comment anyway because I love that clip. That whole Luke Perry episode was so full of win. I love when old gems like that turn up in places you least expect it.

    And that's foul you had to put up with that from those bitches. Good for you for confronting her tactfully.
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    mariesgame, I would of kept the money and just took him and I deffo would have told her about herself later, I know if your working in London you prob don't have the option to switch clubs because most there are bad, hopefully she will get the message and not bother you again x
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    are you still working at stingfellers???

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    This chick was way out of line. I woulda just told the stag... too bad he already paid you and taken his hand and led him away. Don't let this bitch push you around.

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    If you had the money in your hand you should have stuck to your guns with the whole "I've already been paid you have to pay for her too" thing.
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    If i already had the money in my hand i would have just said "sorry babe, ive already been paid" took his hand and walked him off. Once the money is there, the deal has been done, whether the stag wants me or not. Unless it was a friend (who would help me out too) i wouldnt have been happy to back off. If it WAS a good friend i would maybe have tried bargaining "well how about you give me another £20 and we'll give him a lesbian show" or something. Id have done a shorter show with two girls for £60 but only if it was someone i got on well with who would do tha same for me.

    I hate doing stage shows, they are £80 and each girl only gets £20, it requires two girls and its literally just a dance and then a topless dance on stage. We're not allowed to beat them or anything!
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    Ok Im not a dancer yet but that gets a bitch a stare and a slight bump! Lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by NationwideStrippers View Post
    That's why at times doing private party dancing is better. Your not having to worry about other girls stealing dances from you. Sometimes you may work with more girls at a party but you share everything in the end and work as a team.
    Erm.. Trying to recruit girls are we? You sent me a similar message on twitter. Thanks for the troll!
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    He said "can I swap girls?"
    I would have not allowed her to snatched him out from under me, and I would not have laid out the vouchers.

    What she did was uncalled for.




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    I would've killed that stupid bitch!!! But in a very passive aggressive way. A dancer did that to me one time, I was sitting with a customer, she came over, plopped her ass down for a sec then stood up and said "who's ready for a dance?" After she was finished & walking away I "OOPS, I'm so sorry I didn't mean to pump into you so hard & make you fall on your ass!!!" All while looking her right in eye with "don't ever fuck with me again look". And she stayed away from me ever since! I have found overall management doesn't do anything, you have to take matters in your own hands and play your own innocent card right back at them. If you don't stand your ground, you'll get eaten alive in this business.
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    Honestly, i know its hard when another girl comes over and steals the limelight. Theres been a girl who is from the same area as me dancing in my club the last couple of weeks on saturdays. She sounds like me, is a chunkier version of me, with fake boobs and bigger hair. She was wearing a similar kind of thing to me most of the night and was basically cleaning up. I didnt think anyting of it until the end of the night when i found out she'd been telling customers (who were drunk) that she was me if they had said "i want a dance off anna" and then when i went back to them later in the night, were insisting that they had had a dance off me already. But she is a dirty dancer, so i told management, and thy kept an eye on her. The next time she was back i changed my outfit completely once i saw what she had on, it worked and management told her off for dirty dancing and trying to blame me (ie say she was me) if the bouncers said anything. She was drunk and im t-total at work so they knew it wasnt me but it just made me hustle harder.

    But i wouldnt get involved with conflict at work, its pointless, but once you have the money in your hand, its yours, some customers dont understand (still) that girls work on their own income, they dont get paid to be there, so if they want to change girls, tell them theyd have to pay again cause you already have the money and once its in your hand, its yours, and always smile. I play the sweetness and light card with all girls who i dont know very well, i genuinely am quite pleasant but its always better to be thought of as "that nice one" as opposed to "that bitch" if you are in a new club, there are horrible girls and you are not into confrontation. Just be quietly confident in your own abilities and dont let dancers walk all over you, cause you can be sure as eggs is eggs that they wouldnt give their money up for you.
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    I would have not allowed her to snatched him out from under me, and I would not have laid out the vouchers.

    What she did was uncalled for.
    so what would you have done?
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    If a girl did that to me, I'd be furious. I think you handled it well by sitting down and talking to her, hopefully that sends her the message not to do it again. I hate girls who are like that.

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