
Originally Posted by
4everresolutions
Alright, first off - it is NOT OKAY that a customer actually got so far as to rub your clit. NEXT TIME - say NO and stop dancing for the fucker. If someone touches you against your will that is molestation, regardless of the venue it takes place in. Go get a bouncer, get a manager, and get the asshole in trouble. If management won't do anything about it; see what you can do about finding another club.
Now; about how to handle the customers breaking the rules....The first thing is to make them aware of the rules. Find out the laws in your area regarding exotic dancing. You can seriously call the sheriff's office and ask if you can't find it online or you feel that the management might be lying to you. Often laws will be strict but clubs expect you to....bend them somewhat (example: men are legally allowed to touch breasts but not nipples - but management will overlook nipple touching). Just because the club is willing to overlook some or loads of illegal behavior doesn't mean you have to do it. Decide what you're comfortable will. Most girls on SW will tell you to follow the rules to a T....which really is the best advice if you want to avoid the possibility being dragged into court on some trumped up sex offender charge. Before you start dancing for your customer, make sure you tell them your rules. Not the CLUB'S rules - yours. For example "So before we start having fun; remember you can touch my thighs, back, stomach and arms if you're gentle; but no cookie or titties. Wouldn't want to have to cut our fun short." or whatever you deem appropriate. Once they know the rules they can't claim "...the OTHER dancers said it was okay"...
Next; when you're dancing your first song for them, watch them like a hawk. Gauge them. If they're pushing their boundaries and trying to rush you to take off your panties in the first 15 seconds, then they'll be more likely to jump the gun and try and stick their hands where they don't belong. The way they act in the first minute or two gives you a huge clue as to how trustworthy they are and how likely they are to follow your rules. If a customer behaves well in the first song, I'm more likely to give him a more liberal dance and put myself in more compromising situations. If you find your custy is breaking the rules early in, reprimand them straight away. Tell them "No" firmly, what they did that is against your rules, and explain your rules to them again. You can always tell them to sit on their hands too, if you don't 'trust them' (although truth is, if you feel they're going to try something again you really should end the dance right then and there). If they break your rules a second time, I would just end the dances right then and there. No big deal because you got the money upfront first, right? Right.
If a customer ever gets nasty or aggressive; don't stick around and wait it out. Don't expect him to regain control of himself. And don't expect that you'll be able to control him. I've broken these stripping commandments myself and it's only lead to trouble. NO ONE should lay their hands on you if you haven't given them express permission. The fact that you're a dancer DOES NOT make it okay for anyone to touch you someplace you're uncomfortable with. You job is to entertain, not to please. Go get a bouncer right away. Get away from that customer and hope the club does IT'S job and kicks him out. I've worked at some skeevy places where management will always side with the customer, and as disheartening as it is, sometimes the assholes are allowed to stick around. IF that's the case, cut your losses, get your money and walk away.
You feel violated because you WERE violated darling, and I'm so sorry that's happened too you. Grow a thick skin and be prepared to stand your ground in this business from here on out. There is nothing worse than feeling used. Hope I helped some. Let me know if you need anything else; I have a plethora of great one-liners for customers who need reminding of rules/guidelines/laws/etc.
XOXO
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