I recently got hired as a cocktail server and have been getting back into working a JOB job for the first time in 8 years and all I have to say is WOW!
I expected cocktail serving to be very cut throat, especially in this town. Here cocktail servers are a dime a dozen. My first night was absolute chaos, as the club offers NO TRAINING whatsoever. I was hired with absolutely NO EXPERIENCE and had absolutely NO IDEA what I was doing. I get it, the club hires people who are new so they can train us, etc...but they offer no training for the new, so I have gathered the club is testing new girls...ONLY the strongest survive and they want only the strongest girls working. There was so much to take in my first night, and on my second night, I was having alot of second thoughts about working in such a toxic environment, but I am a tough cookie.
I spilled a few drinks lol, made a few mistakes, and learned from them. By my third night, I felt sooo confident! I really am a natural at this!! Believe it or not, I actually enjoy interacting with the customers lol. It is a toxic work environment like I said, a very high stress job, but I have learned very quickly to associate with the people who make the enviornment as enjoyable and professional as possible. There will always be people whom bitch and complain about work, but it is YOU who allows their behaviour effect your work environment.
The first night the girls all seemed to be very hardened and cut off from the new girls, and I get it: new girls come and go so quickly it is kind of pointless to "get to know" your co-workers. But by the third night I have made alot of aquaintences. I am trying to align myself with the right people: people who do not DRINK on the job, are professional and hardworking, etc. I have introduced myself personally to all of the HOSTS and they have responded well to this. It also helps that I am "italian and jewish" as all of the hosts are italian or jewish lol. They welcomed me with open arms. I am not there to make friends, but I want to be friendly and as professional as possible with everyone I come across.
I have made very good money for only my first three nights, better then camming. Not quite stripping money yet, but I am certain that I have walked out with more money then some of the dancers on the few nights I have been working. There is alot of potential for me to make money. I am making an hourly, tips, get a percentage on BOTTLES and can make money promoting the club. I know the money can only get better from here, as I gain experience, and make good with the hosts. The schedule has been difficult on me as I am not used to working until the sun comes up, and it is HARD work on the body, but I will eventually get used to the hours and I know I can use the excercise lol. I actually enjoy this job, as crazy as it sounds, this is probably going to be the best job I ever had. Although I have set hours, i can pretty much do what I choose when I get there. There are no set sections, so I can serve whomever I wish, whenever I wish. I can go on breaks when I choose, etc. The management though very stern, is flexible as possible with the schedule.
The customers LOL the poor things. I actually like denying them the dances. They get all pissy like little kids "but I wantttt youuuu to dance for me" lol. I have to think of a few good comebacks for this, but the best PART about working in this place is the fact that I DO NOT have a specific section to serve. Therefore, if a guy does not tip, is a jerk, or wants more then I can offer, I do not have to go back and continue to serve his table. I can move on to other tables. If people ask why I don't dance I have come up with a few good comebacks including " I just like to watch" "I like to torture you" "I am a heartbreaker, but I promise I will ease your pain with a few beers," etc. They all seem to laugh at my response and then within two seconds have a dancer in their lap to distract them lol. It is a free for all which can be bad but good, if you leave your table unattended for too long, someone else can serve them as long as they have a half of a drink or less, another server can and will swoop in to serve them and make that tip.
I have decided to maintain my dominant side in the club as well, instead of being a bubbly kiss ass with my customers and letting them down gently, I treat them like the pieces of meat, and reverse the role. I comment on their looks, allow them to walk by me and talk about their "tight asses" If they try to cop a feel I back off and tell them "you can look but you can't touch" LOL.
It has been difficult the first few nights but I am feeling alot more confident in myself and abilities. I was most concerned about being around alcohol, as I am a recovering alcoholic. I have not had a drop to drink in 3 years. I have faced this fear head on and I am glad I did. I feel very strong being able to work around my arch enemy alcohol. It has been so empowering. I admit I had a lack of confidence in my abilities as well, the past few years. I didn't think I could hack it with a real job. I thought camming was the answer, but it was only creating a bigger problem in my life, which was NOT TRYING. This was not the solution to my problems. I have always had problems showing up to a "normal job" on time, creating a work/life balance, being miserable, not taking responsibility and then just giving up and quitting. Instead of trying to get to work on time every day, having a boss, abiding by rules, I got into camming which seemed like it was the answer to all of my problems as I didnt have to maintain a schedule, could "be my own boss," etc. It is about time I face my fears head on, and I am glad I did. Making it easier on myself to be not responsible did not solve any of my problems, it simply made them worse, and eventually I did not believe in myself. I did not believe I could ever maintain a normal job again, have a boss again, etc. Now that I have taken this step I feel I can accomplish anything. I also feel that I can make alot of connections which I never would have made if I did not leave the house and camming. These connections and my newfound confidence in myself and abilities makes me positive that I have a bright future ahead of me when just a few months ago I was wallowing in the life I had created for myself. POINT? If you want to do something get out there and do it! Life is too short to limit yourself. If you have second thoughts, still DO IT, because you never know until you try. I am so glad I tried. Although it has not been easy I will continue to give this my best. If it doesnt work out, I feel the enviornment is too stressful, I will have sooo many connections that it will not be difficult for me to find an even better opportunity!
LOL WOOOO HOOO I made it until 6:45...with my new schedule I have to stay up at least until 9 am. I would not have been able to make it this long without good ol SW! Now it is time for my morning dose of nyquil so I can sleep until mid afternoon lol. I have been suddenly waking up at NOON and having to go into work at 9 pm...makes for a very long day lol. Goodnight!!



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