justwondering, after posting earlier, I've been watching this interaction for a while, not really feeling the need to say anything else since I've agreed with the others. But it's clear from your last, verbose post that well, a) this is all real and b) you've been spun around like a top on a merry-go-round.
As Yoda, Rick, AGT have said previously, it happens to everyone - vets, newbs, everyone. Myself, included. In fact, one of the primary reasons I joined this site less than year ago was to a) learn about a dancer's motivations, b) learn how to be a better customer in general and c) how to enjoy this skill that is SC-going. Because it is a skill if you want to maximize your enjoyment and respect the dancers simultaneously. We're guys, we're dense, so this shit don't come easy. It's even worse for guys like you. More on this in a second...
You'll find a wealth of knowledge here that surpasses anywhere else - do yourself a favor and look up how many times a customer has wandered in here and said, "My situation's unique - she really likes me." 1% of the time, on a very, very rare occasion, like winning-the-lottery-odds, it is unique. But most of the time, the majority of the time, it's not. It's the same tale - guy gets seduction hustled, gets spun in little circles and doesn't know he's gone all Inception, living a dream within a dream within a dream. And that dream ends the minute you walk out the door, only you don't know it. You want to think, "I'm the 1%," when instead, you should be thinking, "I need proof that I'm not the 99%."
Okay, back to you. You said you don't have a lot of experience with women. I believe it, and I give you props for saying so. But that only makes this hustle all the worse on you. As far as I can guess, it's a pretty rare thing to a) have a woman be physically intimate with you and b) have that kind of affection and attention showered on you. Add the fact that you are a new-comer to SC's... well, it's a fucking lethal combo. Your brain goes: "Hey, the physical touching/kissing is there and the affectionate words are there - why wouldn't this be real?" And you don't have the SC experience yet to realize/warn you that it's not. Not at all.
Keep this in mind: if it was real, she'd be pursuing you like you want to pursue her.
This is what I meant when I said instead of looking for ways to prove that you're the 1%, look for ways to disprove that you're the 99%. You start from a place of 'it's not real,' unless all the factors involved move you to place of 'it's real.' It'll be fucking obvious. I'm serious. If you have to ask, it's a 'no' - good rule stated by AGT, Yoda, etc.
Part II
Now, onto your pursuit of her. This has nothing to do with SC-going. Just something I gotta say to you (again, more on this in a minute). Let's say she really was into you (she's not, but I'm just using this for the sake of this post) - I don't want to see you fuck that up if/when the time comes, whether it be with a dancer or a civilian. Number one rule: DON'T BE CREEPY. No matter how good your intentions are, don't do anything that could even be remotely interpreted as creepy... like looking her up online and then telling her about it.
Go watch SWINGERS. Watch the scene when Jon Favreau calls the girl at the bar a zillion times after she gets her number. This is so fucking painful to watch because, I'd be willing to bet, every guy has done this at least once. I did it when I was 15 - and it was so painful, I remember it like it was fucking yesterday. I realized after it was over, holy shit, I must look like a stalker, pathetic and fucking creepy. But I know my intentions weren't terrible - I was just a socially awkward, lovesick kid who didn't know any better. Some things never changeBut back to you --
I want you to know better.
My 15-year old self is reaching out to you ---- don't do that again. EVER. Discipline yourself. If you meet a girl, and you get her number, email, whatever, send a simple, 1-2 line email. Great meeting you, you seem cool, would love to grab coffee or whatever. Keep it short and simple. If she responds, great! If she doesn't... wait a few days, then try one more time. That's it. If she doesn't respond, let it go. Don't do anything. NOTHING. Don't let thoughts of, "Maybe she lost the text" or "Maybe she erased it by accident," or "Maybe it ended up in her spam folder." No. If after two emails/texts, you get nothing, she's not interested. Plain and simple. And trust me, you want to find someone who's interested in you for you. Hold your head up, say 'fuck it,' and move on.
I don't think you're a bad guy. Just a little clueless due to lack of experience. Nothing wrong with that UNLESS you don't make an effort to learn from your mistakes.
So read the threads in this forum to glean as much as you can about SCing. And maybe stay out of the club until you're sure you can switch the fantasy on and off. And go watch SWINGERS![]()



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