This thread is crazy, but not surprising. Are PLs not supposed to find the answer to "stripper love" on this forum?


This thread is crazy, but not surprising. Are PLs not supposed to find the answer to "stripper love" on this forum?
My gf is a dancer that I met at her work. In our case, she gave me her contact information without me asking. We then proceeded to write each other online pretty much constantly for some weeks and then she asked me out. From talking about it afterwards, I think if I had tried to initiate it, she would have shut it down fast.





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This thread is a public service announcement for stripper love so we can't close...like moth to a flame..lol


OP:
I haven't read the whole thread, but my guess is that you are a shy, introverted, or perhaps socially awkward guy who likes trying to find love in the strip club because part of a stripper's job description is to be social with you, thus eliminating your need to approach girls or strike up a conversation with them, things that you're not particularly good at. This is going to make the strip club a very dangerous place for you to hang out. Strippers are similar to waitresses inasmuch as part of their job description is to be friendly with you and they have an economic incentive to be flirty with you (waitresses for tips, strippers to sell dances). So what's going to happen is that you are going to be convinced that every stripper that you encounter "likes" you, and you are going to spend lots of money under false pretenses and end up hating yourself because of it.
You would honestly be better off spending lots of time in coffee shops hitting on cute female baristas. Or perhaps sitting behind a bar that prefers to hire cute female bartenders. These are also girls who are paid to be social with you, and who you can try to win over, but who won't end up costing you an arm and a leg by the time they reject you. Are there guys who have met their girlfriend in the club? Of course. But that would require you to meet the one girl in a thousand who would actually grow to "like" you, probably only after you became a great spender with her and got to know her over the course of several months or even years. Do you have that kind of money to drop in strip clubs searching for that one girl in a thousand that you'll probably never meet anyway? Probably not.
Your best bet is to try and be more social and meet girls the normal way, but if you're going to try to pick up a girl who's at work, the strip club is probably the worst place to do this. Like I said, find a laid back bar with cute, flirty waitresses and become a regular there. Drink cheap domestics and flirt with them while sitting at the bar. This will set you back a few bucks a trip, instead of a few hundred bucks a trip.





Sorry I missed church. I was too busy practicing witchcraft and becoming a lesbian.
"If you're good at something, never do it for free." The Dark Knight
"you conjunctively engender an intoxicating combination of wicked, wholesome & insanely intelligent" - a friend describing me
Blessed Be




well, I'm not exactly a dancer, but I'm a woman that and before I was married I allowed more than my share of men to spoil me. (I also have friends in the adult industry some are/were exotic dancers.) I didn't give the men that spoiled me much more attention (most of the time a lot less) than she gave you. it wasn't my JOB to do so per se, but I certainly didn't discourage them, I'm sure I encouraged them in a lot of ways.
when I met my husband things went fast but since I was actually interested in him I argued when he tried to pay for my lunch one day! I knew this was a man I could marry and I wanted to show him that I was a strong woman that took care of herself.
BTW- things with him may have went pretty fast, but even I knew his name before I gave him any reason to believe I was interested in him big time!
I'm sorry if you got the wrong impression, but sounds like she did her job and it was a mutually beneficial evening. you had a good time, and she made some money and possibly a new customer.
sorry if you got your feelings hurt. I just wouldn't say that strip clubs are a place to meet potential girlfriends.
Better luck next time!








All the baristas and bartenders I know are just as hard to get as strippers. Probably depends on the area you're in though. And they have less time to spend with you as their job is to tend to making drinks. With strippers, at least you can pay them for their time if you need the chase.


This guy doesn't "need the chase" though. This guy needs to learn the basics of social interaction with women. A strip club would not be a good place for a guy like him to do that, because he'll be taken in by every hustle and end up spending his student loan money every semester on whichever girl manages him to convince him that she "likes" him. Sure, he'll be shot down too by the cute female bartender at the neighborhood bar, but at least that won't set him back thousands of dollars (and he'll learn a valuable lesson in so doing).
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