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    Default I need some advice....

    Long story short, I have a custie who has spent a lot of money on taking me exclusive in the past couple months and he has "stuck around" because I have given him the false impression that I would "one day...maaybe" meet up put now I can tell...the fun...has ended. He is getting more pushy about a actual date, and im unsure on what to do. I dont wanna just block him n thats it...cuz who knows maybe he'd still stick around if I let him off nicely


    Let me know what you guys would do? Any advice would be awesome,

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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    Well, you have three options, as I see it.

    1. Block him. Simple, easy, effective. But, like you say, possibly overkill, and you may then have him badmouthing you, or exhibiting some other brand of crazy.

    2. Tell him the truth. This sucks. He might stick around, and respect you for saying that you "thought about it, and just don't think you should meet" or some such crap, or he may just leave, or he may go all kinds of psycho on you - accuse you of leading him on, lying, etc etc.

    3. Tell him a new lie. Sounds like a bad idea, right? We were always told that honesty is the best policy? Bollocks. Find a new lie that lets him down gently while not revealing that you never intended to meet. Say you went on a "date" with a guy, and he went psycho on you, scared the crap out of you, and sorry, but you will never meet another guy from the cam world again. Or say that you have just got into a new relationship - totally unexpected, but what can you do? So obviously, new bf doesnt want you meeting/hanging out with custys.

    I avoid leading guys on, because I hate the inevitable conversation, but if someone had got the wrong idea, or I was in your situation. I would lie.
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    PMing you... I have a feeling I know who you are talking about and I'll explain why....
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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    If he's still taking you private, keep him.
    If he's not, boot his ass.

    I had a guy who asked me if I'd sleep with him in real life.
    In free chat: No. I don't do escort work.
    In paid chat: (Which he DID take me into all the same and paid handsomely for!):... Hmmm... Oh god, I'm not sure... *I have this shocked, innocent-little-girl, pseudo-naive face* ...I've never been asked this before! So I mean.. wow, I am very flattered.. My goodness. How much would you want?... Can I see you on cam??

    I spent ages looking like I was thinking about it... Like I was unsure... (I fucking well wouldn't!)

    He already knew I'd said no to him. If he's paying me to think about it, I'll happily be paid to think about it!

    It doesn't matter how much he's spent on you. If he's getting pushy, tell him that taking your clothes off on a camsite does NOT = fucking in real life. In ANY way. No matter HOW much he has paid you to take your clothes off and do your stuff on cam. If he turns nasty, block his stupid ass.




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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    hmm great advice guys, thanks ! lol whats funny is that awhile ago...when we were in exclusive I told this dude, hey you know what im not really sure if I should meet up cuz i kinda have this thing with a guy friend of mine and dont wanna fuck it up. hahaha It worked for awhile, but hes still as Ive said above asking about a meet up.


    I'll figure something out, im gunna miss the long easy...god very easy exclusives tho if he decides to ditch! AH, Damn HiM !

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    PMing you... I have a feeling I know who you are talking about and I'll explain why....
    Wrote you back!, and omggg thaaank you for letting me know

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    Quote Originally Posted by Incantatious View Post
    If he's still taking you private, keep him.
    If he's not, boot his ass.

    I had a guy who asked me if I'd sleep with him in real life.
    In free chat: No. I don't do escort work.
    In paid chat: (Which he DID take me into all the same and paid handsomely for!):... Hmmm... Oh god, I'm not sure... *I have this shocked, innocent-little-girl, pseudo-naive face* ...I've never been asked this before! So I mean.. wow, I am very flattered.. My goodness. How much would you want?... Can I see you on cam??

    I spent ages looking like I was thinking about it... Like I was unsure... (I fucking well wouldn't!)

    He already knew I'd said no to him. If he's paying me to think about it, I'll happily be paid to think about it!
    ^ Yep CTFU .....I hate when I tell a guy from the start..." NO, I am not meeting offline, in real life, in real time, etc", but they take me "Exclusive" anyway just to keep on pressing the issue..Actually I lie I don't hate it since I feel like since you are "trying" to push my boundaries I am going to push your wallet..LOL and Yes I do just that ----> "I spent ages looking like I was thinking about it... Like I was unsure... (I fucking well wouldn't!) " hahahahahahahhahaha
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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    I'm dumb, a guy took me exclusive today to ask about meeting up and I just straight up told him no :/



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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    I didn't have a member who expected that im gonna meet him one day. But i had a member who " fell in love" with me. Taking me for a really long pvts. I never lead him, never gave him any chance of meeting....just because i was smiling and being nice to him and saying some jokes..he fell for it....couple of months later he realized that im there to earn money and not to find a bf, husband. So he went nasty on me, taking me multiple pvts at the same time wiht different names of courses or "spying" on me.
    Well, I didnt get any more long pvts wiht him, but there are so many members who are gonna be falling for you and taking you for long pvts...if you decide to block him or whatever...the dry patch its not gonna last long.

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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    Keep dragging it out. Let him keep thinking *one day*. Then when he is adamant about meeting up, tell him your car broke down and you need a new one ASAP so you have to be on cam a lot or he has to give you the money for one. Excuses excuses, but its his fault for confusing fantasy with reality

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    here is what u can do....send him to me, ill take the extra $$....

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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    Whether you lead him on or tell him no - You're gonna lose him either way. There's nothing you can do, but to just lose him (unless you accept of course).
    Just tell him that you like to keep business and pleasure separate, and you're just here to work and just don't go out with customers!
    & Remind him that, if it was that easy to go out with him... Wouldn't he know you would have gone out with maybe 100 by now? You're not an easy girl!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Su Su View Post
    Just tell him that you like to keep business and pleasure separate, and you're just here to work and just don't go out with customers!
    lol
    I disagree with this 100%.
    Never... NEVER!!!!!!!!!!! tell your customers you;re online to work.
    that if you want them to return..............

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays

    lol
    I disagree with this 100%.
    Never... NEVER!!!!!!!!!!! tell your customers you;re online to work.
    that if you want them to return..............
    I agree. I never say 'work' or 'money' for that matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vlodina View Post
    I agree. I never say 'work' or 'money' for that matter.
    For the most part, I agree! My only exception to that is when I am busy convincing them that I am a raging nympho, and say things like "Ooooh, gosh, I'm soooooo horny! I have suuuuuuch a high sex drive - thank GOD I do this for a living, or I would be humping everybodys' legs, I'd be so horny!! Hahahahaha!" or talk about how awesome my life is "I get to masturbate for a living - I have the best job evaaaaa!" - as long as it still sounds like i am having FUN, I like reminding guys that it is still work...
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    Default Re: I need some advice....

    Would it be wrong to say something like " you will have to compensate me 4 this" and make him send gold my way beeeefore I "meet" him. But then of course wouldnt. Would I get in shit with SM or anything? or would it be his fault for believing me?.
    Then i;d be like " oh im sry i had something very important cum up i couldnt make a date yet...blah blah blah" but keep his money...teehee

    I guess im asking because its more direct , not a maybe or should or possibility.

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    No ^ I wouldn't do that. Because now you're giving him specifics that the original " maybe" is now going to actually happen. I would just keep playing around the idea but wouldn't give him any specific time tables or dates of any sort. This will cause him to hold you to your word and that could get ugly fast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CinnimonKiss View Post
    Would it be wrong to say something like " you will have to compensate me 4 this" and make him send gold my way beeeefore I "meet" him. But then of course wouldnt. Would I get in shit with SM or anything? or would it be his fault for believing me?.
    Then i;d be like " oh im sry i had something very important cum up i couldnt make a date yet...blah blah blah" but keep his money...teehee

    I guess im asking because its more direct , not a maybe or should or possibility.


    if u do this oohhhh there would be hell to pay im sure!

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