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    Default Not sure of this relationship with this guy?

    This is related to the thread I created a few months ago.. http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...you-his-number

    There's this guy from okcupid..who texts me every now and then. I think he's a decent guy..but something is telling me not to be official with him? It's always the same dinner, lunch, breakfast date. We never went anywhere besides eating together at a restaurant. After we're done hanging out. He doesn't text me very often. Until two weeks ago he brought me to his home. Just the two of us. He wanted to watch a movie at his house. So he drove me there which was 45 minutes away. When I got there..he put on this t.v. show..not a movie. He wanted to kiss me. But I rejected him. He seemed kind of pissed off. So my questions is..does he like me? Does he want me to be his girlfriend? Is he trying to use me as a bootycall? He hangs out with his family and friends alot. Everytime we hangout..it's always the TWO of us. The first dinner date..he showed me pictures of his family and pictures of his ex-gf whom he dated for 7 years. And another one who dated him 4 years.

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    Default Re: Not sure of this relationship with this guy?

    It doesn't sound like you're that into him. From what I gather in your post, it doesn't sound like he's into you much either. The thing that leads me to believe this is the fact that you used the word "decent" to describe him. You should wait for a guy whose not "decent" but amazing. If something is telling you to not be official with him, then don't be with him. Listen to your instincts.

    Also, I think it's really weird that he showed you pictures of his ex-girlfriends on your first date.

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    Default Re: Not sure of this relationship with this guy?

    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    This is related to the thread I created a few months ago.. http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...you-his-number

    There's this guy from okcupid..who texts me every now and then. I think he's a decent guy..but something is telling me not to be official with him? It's always the same dinner, lunch, breakfast date. We never went anywhere besides eating together at a restaurant. After we're done hanging out. He doesn't text me very often. Until two weeks ago he brought me to his home. Just the two of us. He wanted to watch a movie at his house. So he drove me there which was 45 minutes away. When I got there..he put on this t.v. show..not a movie. He wanted to kiss me. But I rejected him. He seemed kind of pissed off. So my questions is..does he like me? Does he want me to be his girlfriend? Is he trying to use me as a bootycall? He hangs out with his family and friends alot. Everytime we hangout..it's always the TWO of us. The first dinner date..he showed me pictures of his family and pictures of his ex-gf whom he dated for 7 years. And another one who dated him 4 years.
    Unless you're interested in casual sex with him, which you don't seem to be, I'd ignore him from now on. He sounds like he's just looking to hook up with someone. The only good thing you really say about him is that he's "decent," which sounded like a half-hearted notion. Kind of like, "Oh, well, I mean he's not a serial killer or anything, so that's pretty cool." He's not making you a priority or putting any effort into getting to really know you or spend quality time together. I vote to drop him.

    Also, I just skimmed your previous post, and he sounds like he was a bit of a loser from the start. You can do better.

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    Pictures of 2ex girlfriends on 1st date? This is a sign of insecurity. Another way of saying see these women I had? Well you should want me too. I think he's used to women throwing themselves at him so he's not really used to making moves to get the ball rolling. Plus he's probably not used to being rejected when he moves in for the kiss.

    From my view he sounds like he's looking to just " hook up" but he wants it to be on you that you made the move .

    Also that other post was back in 07/2011 it's 4 months from being a year later and nothing much has changed with his "non communication".

    He wants you to be a booty call that's it. That's why he's getting annoyed when you get together and you're not pulling up your squirt for him.

    Also the texting on random days at random times it what is known as E-maintaining. You're just in the rotation of "contacts" for the booty call week. When you don't budge he'll move into the next " hopefuls" and start the next series of "try outs".

    Another way to know that you're just the "booty call" is that you've never met his friends or his family. You're pretty much on the outside of his world and it's been almost a year. I suggest just enjoying the dinner and movies but never go to his house again. It seems he has no plans to go anywhere.

    Now during the holidays did he call you for Thanksgiving, Christmas? Was he the first message that came in for NYE? How about Valentine's Day? Did he just mysteriously disappear for the whole month of February? If they're all yes then he's just looking for someone to use.

    OKcupid is alot like PlentyOfFish. Many are just using these sites to "hook up".

    Are you a friend of his on facebook? That's something else that you may want to look into . BTW I would never , ever sleep with this man! Ever.

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    Great response ladies. He texted me a few days before Thanksgiving saying it's his favorite holiday. He's spending time with his friends and family while eating dinner. He didn't invite me though. Besides those holidays listed above..no he did not text me. Unfortunately..I am his friend on FB. He told me to add him because he wanted me to see his pics of him snowboarding. Which was ONE group pic of him and his friends together. So what I do now..? Delete him?

    Oh I forgot to add...he had lunch with his 7year ex-gf 2 weeks ago. I wonder why he tells me he could STILL be friends with his ex. The breakup was last year from what he told me. And why is he showing me pictures of his family and friends which I will never meet?
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    Like I said, you don't seem interested in using the guy for dates/meals and he's definitely not a keeper for any other reason, so I'd just delete him and ignore any attempts he may make to contact you. No need to even talk to him about it, IMO. He just sounds so damn lame that anymore effort towards him would be a waste. It's a shame that so many guys are that way, but don't let the douchebags convince you there's no one worthwhile out there.

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    Almost sounds like he's using you for a rebound and wants to be with the ex. I'd dump him and fish again.

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    Out of all the girls in the world..he's using me? I just unfriended him on FB just now.

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    Yes, perhaps to make her jealous. Men will do that which makes no sense. Has he brought up sex at all?

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    Nope. But he wants some SEXY pics of me. The ones of me in my panty and bra LOL. I didn't send it to him though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    Great response ladies. He texted me a few days before Thanksgiving saying it's his favorite holiday. He's spending time with his friends and family while eating dinner. He didn't invite me though. Besides those holidays listed above..no he did not text me. Unfortunately..I am his friend on FB. He told me to add him because he wanted me to see his pics of him snowboarding. Which was ONE group pic of him and his friends together. So what I do now..? Delete him?

    Oh I forgot to add...he had lunch with his 7year ex-gf 2 weeks ago. I wonder why he tells me he could STILL be friends with his ex. The breakup was last year from what he told me. And why is he showing me pictures of his family and friends which I will never meet?
    Delete and ignore!!!! Tell him " Sorry This isnt working out. I dont think we should keep in contact. It was nice meeting you, but we dont click" Then IGNORE AND DELETE. Move on, he isnt going anywhere with you, he seems boring (and crazy). Show you pictures of the Ex, and going out to dinner with her. RED FLAG. 7 years isnt a joke, either party will likly have feelings. A year isnt long enough even, that feelings may stll roam. He is showing you pictures, because he either crazy or has nothing else to entertain you with. I met a guy on a dating site, who showed me pictures of his family and then thought we were dating after the 1st date and said I was cheating when I went out - crazy. He is just looking for a booty call, if he wanted something more serious with you two, he would make it known, he would commucate better, he wouldnt be seeing his ex. It seems like he wants you as a FWB, but he really sucks at his "game" so he is playing stupid tricks and goes around in circles like a little boy.

    There are plently of men, find someone better!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    Out of all the girls in the world..he's using me? I just unfriended him on FB just now.
    It doesnt matter.. as long as it has a pussy they'll use it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    Nope. But he wants some SEXY pics of me. The ones of me in my panty and bra LOL. I didn't send it to him though.
    Good job. I mean, if he showed to you pictures of some other girl he may do the same with yours and claim you were serious or something.





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