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    So after a 3 yr break, I'm getting my old dancer stuff out from the boxes and seriously think about going back. A girlfriend who I danced with and myself checked out a different club last night. The housemom was super nice, said I could start whenever I was ready. My question is how do you develop & maintain thick skin in this business? Is it something that you just learned over time? I left dancing 3 yrs ago to get sober. I've maintained full sobreity for 3 yrs now. But when I used to dance my feelings were covered up so I'm a little nervous of how I might feel. I have full intention on staying sober, I have a great support network in my personal life and I'm back in school. Plus I know I'd make a lot more money sober than when I was drinking. So anyway, how do you act/react when someone says or does something totally not cool? Do you just let it go in one ear out the other? I'm wondering if developing thick skin is something that you practice on or does it just come with time? Thanks girls!
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    Default Re: Developing & maintaining thick skin...

    It depends on the person. To some people it comes naturally, but some others take time developing a thick skin. Also, the culture plays a big role.





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    Congrats on your sobriety!!! I started dancing with a bit of thick skin that seems to keep getting thicker the more that I work. I think it just takes time. Let it roll off your back. When a customer comment gets to me or irks me I just remind myself "Ok this guy is a douche and Im not his cup of tea, theres plenty more guys who would love to pay for my attention in a respectful way, NEXT!" Thats really the truth! If the guy does something really crazy, I can always grab a bouncer or manager to put him in his place. I think, at least for me, most guys are polite and only a few are straight up rude to your face so I dont spend time worrying about it. There have been times when I was in a bad mood and said something back, but its only gotten me more money. I think they were embarrassed and think throwing money at the situation makes it go away, but I wouldnt recommend yelling at a customer, lol.

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    Whenever someone's pissing me off (either at work or people out in the world making dumb comments about strippers), I try to think about all the positive people I've encountered while stripping. There have been some rude customers and some dumb bitches making stupid comments... but there have been even more nice customers and people who were interested in what I do. In this line of the work, I think the douchebags are just such utter douchebags that it's really easy to let a few stupid comments blind you to everything else and make you zero in on all the bad. Sometimes you need to step back and really reassess how much good there is than bad so you keep things in perspective.
    Don't try to win over the haters. You are not the Jerk Whisperer.

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    Congrats on being sober. I can't really hear stupid shit people say because my huge fake 32E tits get in the way. You should do the same. Keep your eye on the prize and tune everything else out.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    You ladies are the best! Thank you for your advice.
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    I only get horny when I've tucked a few benjamins in my thong; it's a money fetish.."

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    No offense to the gentlemen who attend strip clubs, we all appreciate you but to the douches who go to strip clubs to say something nasty to a stripper. We know who you are. You are pathetic. You don't know what matters in life so you chase after all the wrong things, you think the size of your penis is the most important thing in a relationship and no amount of convincing will ever change your belief. You are so wrong, pridefully, egotistically wrong. You never learned to treat women like human beings, like people, like partners, like friends, like equals... You spend all your time with porn and you don't know how to hold a conversation. You fail miserably when you attempt to date non family members and so you think you can come to a strip club and take out all your frustrations on a stripper, someone you have to pay not to run away from you, because socially you failed and instead of getting a clue you dwell on your anger and spend the rest of your time jerking yourself raw or raping unfortunate boys and girls. So next time you tell me I am too fat or too skinny or whatever else you can think of.. Take a look in the mirror. That's a metaphor btw, it doesn't mean to actually look in a mirror, it means look at what a miserable wretch you are and instead of blaming everyone else for your problems begin to realize that your life sucks because you suck and it isn't someone else's fault, it's your fault.

    Seriously when you put it in perspective you don't even need a thick skin. Welcome to my world.

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