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    Ok this is my second thread today, I dont want to fill the board with posts, but I have a situation. There is a customer who has taken me private on mfc 3 times this week and spent at least 900 tokens each time, the last one last night he literally just wanted me to talk and do nothing for abt 1400 tokens. Anyhoo just doing my job being flirty I joked abt moving in with him etc, now this guy is 26 and good looking and cearly has money....no reason he cant meet women.....anyways last night he wants me to email him and I do and tell him I can't give my number out for safety issues until I trust him.....ie NEVER.. and he replies with

    "I fully understand you need to trust me first, but please dont take too long to see that Im a great guy. I live in los angeles too and you look like my dream girl, Im an awesome guy and you are a stunner, please give me a chance"

    now I have a boyfriend who I love, but I don't want to lose possibly my biggest customer with 3400 tokens total from him in the last 3 days.....what on earth do I do.....I dont wanna lead him on but this isnt plenty of fish damnit, who falls in love with the damn cam girl!!! I was a stripper so Im not giving out my digits to any guy much less for making $150 from the guy......so how do I engage him and keep his money flowing for now

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    Default Re: how do YOU handle customers falling love.....dont want to lose their money

    Here is another thread from a few days ago that might help you out some And if you do some searching around i'm sure you'll find some more info on SW about this subject

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...ed-some-advice

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    He sounds very egotistical: In his own words he's "awesome", "a great guy", and you "LOOK" like his dream girl, so he's also shallow enough to base his entire perception of someone on looks alone. So, prey on his ego, prolonging your interaction with him by "getting to know him" - you can divert conversations AWAY from the topic of meeting up by inviting him to talk about himself more, as though you want to get to know him more (as though this is something you just do online before meeting up with someone in person) and find out what makes him so awesome.

    You can ask about his hobbies, interests, job, lifestyle, tastes in music, TV, sport... whatever.

    If he likes and respects you that much, he will respect your wishes; he seems more insistent on his own wishes though, so you need to maintain that boundary. A lot of guys out there do this, claim they've "fallen in love", even offering you such-and-such amount of money to meet up. I'd try to find a careful way to make it clear to him that he must respect your wishes enough, without outright telling him to get on his bike, and talk a much about him as possible so that you can manipulate the conversation to him.

    i.e. He's so amazing you just ALWAYS want to talk about him. Yes, this is a sneaky way to lead him on, (but HE is responsible for HIS integrity just as much as you are responsible for yours), but it's a good way to get a guy like this to stay around in my opinion. No amount of information, however, will be enough.




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    Default Re: how do YOU handle customers falling love.....dont want to lose their money

    Every customer (even frequent ones) have an expiration date. When they finally realize you won't meet.

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    You have a bf, end of story....if it's not a good enough reason for him, that's his problem...If he keeps pushing it and has stopped spending, he's expired and now has become a headache....may be time to block





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    haha he doesn't know I have a bf and he literally spends at least 900 tokens a day on me.....i just chatted with him again in private for 1180 tokens abt 40 min ago.....if I tell himi have a bf he prob wont come back and since theyre all in private he may request a chargeback from mfc right? thats doable on his end......im likewtf dude its a cam site not match.com im not here for you to date

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    Default Re: how do YOU handle customers falling love.....dont want to lose their money

    I've had this exact situation however I became more like friends with the guy and he knew I was married although admitted being in love with me. It lasted about a year and a half and he was a nice guy but there are a few things you can state, that I've experienced personally, why meeting someone off of a site is a bad idea for both a customer and the cammer.

    1. This is your job and you have either a slightly different persona or a very different persona online. Remind him you are fantasizing with him and perhaps that can help him actualize the type of girl he might be into in real life. (I'm assuming since he's taken you private to just talk that this is possible)
    2. If you don't want to lose him as a customer by disclosing you are in a relationship, simply state that you aren't in a position to date anyone. It's not a personal reason towards him it's just how things are in your life. You wanna focus on yourself and where you are going and any "awesome" dude should find that mature and admirable.
    3. You could say that meeting off the site could compromise your ability to cam in other places or that it's a rule that would affect you ever getting a cam job.
    4. Going out on a limb on this one...I do fetish/BDSM shows. A lot of my customers crave having a Mistress/slave or Dom/sub relation. I interact with that online and for them it's a connection. You could set that boundary and it doesn't have to be kink.

    These are only temporary solutions. Trust me, I'd want to hang on to that guy too but you'll have to realize he isn't going to be around forever. Establish some sort of boundary and take the interaction more slowly. Chances are he's just super excited and that feeling will wear off and being able to tell him that you've "met someone" (which could just be inferring to the bf you already have) won't be as hard of a punch later down the road.

    Good luck with it and take it from me...meeting an obsessive fan, no matter how physically harmless they are, is ALWAYS a bad idea.
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    Default Re: how do YOU handle customers falling love.....dont want to lose their money

    Your actual question was "how do YOU handle customers falling in love...?"

    When I have a customer become very attached I just speak in circles and hope for the best.

    Example

    Lovestruck: I really want to meet, I love you, I'm different than other customers, ect

    Me: Yes, I love performing for you! You seem different! You are my fav customer!

    Lovestruck: Can we meet this weekend for drinks?

    Me: Log on this weekend, I will meet you Saturday night on streammate, MFC, ect


    This has worked for years, literally....


    Frankly 900 tokens isn't very much money anyway, keep a business attitude and you may be able to turn this guy into a REALLY big spender. I would scoff at a guy wanting to meet after only spending 900 a session. Retrain yourself into thinking 900 isn't really much money, that's a champagne brunch date, with no shopping.


    Also, don't tell him you have a bf, because it is none of his damn business; remember YOUR JOB IS TO SELL AN ILLUSION!

    I don't telll my fans anything 'real.' I sometimes drink ice water and tell my customers it's gin and tonic if they ask. Why do I do that? Because it helps me to mentally stay in "fantasy character." Fans are just words on a screen....with bank accounts.

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    I tell them no, period. I do domme/fetish and often these guys do want to take it to a real time level. I tell them upfront my real time is sacrosanct. I don't really care how many tokens they spend, because my philosophy is why waste time with somebody who isn't here for what I want, money. There will be another spender who knows his place; generally he is right behind the idiot thinking he can be your man. I don't suffer fools, even if the spend 9000 tokens. This type always turns into a high maintenance mothereffer, and there can only be one high maintenance bitch in my room, me
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    its not that he spent 900....he's done that 3 days in a row, last we did a private and he wanted nothing but to talk to me for 15 min....then tonight another 21 min private to just chat and later tonight he gotupset i wasnt paying attention to him and we went into private for 30 minutes....1854 tokens!!!!! this guy isnt even loaded, hes in the army, i feel horrible wtf should i do i dont wanna lead the poor sap on he just keeps insisting I need to call him or text him soon and im taking too long to see he's a good guy. My bf thinks its hilarious and i should milk him dry but i think that would be wrong should i just block him? I made $270 tonight without him so yes it would hurt me but id probably be ok

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    I've had customers like this before. This is "prepaying for pussy"syndrome. Look at his points and ask him how long he's been on the site. If he's been there awhile he's done this before. Someone may have already met him so he's thinking "oooh you're a cam model" so you'll sleep with me because you're over sexual already". Yeah I know why don't they get it ? These guy typically pick models that appear to be local to them. So they feel they have a better chance of meeting up. I would drag this out for a year. Most of these guys push for awhile and then move on. I would suggest asking him why he's single and keep yapping away on that one.

    Most likely he's in a relationship or married. Hot guy ? Supposedly a great guy? Why would he be alone? Why?

    What is wrong with him that he's single trying to tip for the reason of "hooking up"? I would drag that out and wait until he just gives up. He will. Generally the better looking the guy the more he's likely to give up. It's the ugly ones that become obsessive.

    He will continue his " brain washing" about how great he is so you'll just have to "yawn" your way through it. $$$$

    Personally I never give these guys false hope because I hate being harassed about it. I give them a " NO" right away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikayla View Post
    its not that he spent 900....he's done that 3 days in a row, last we did a private and he wanted nothing but to talk to me for 15 min....then tonight another 21 min private to just chat and later tonight he gotupset i wasnt paying attention to him and we went into private for 30 minutes....1854 tokens!!!!! this guy isnt even loaded, hes in the army, i feel horrible wtf should i do i dont wanna lead the poor sap on he just keeps insisting I need to call him or text him soon and im taking too long to see he's a good guy. My bf thinks its hilarious and i should milk him dry but i think that would be wrong should i just block him? I made $270 tonight without him so yes it would hurt me but id probably be ok
    I'm not understanding why you feel bad. If it wasn't you he would just be spending the money on another girl. He tells you he is not loaded and he is in the army, none of this makes it so. He is on a pay to play site; he knows the deal. I am trying to understand what is wrong about taking his money on a site where he purchased tokens already. Again so he has dropped a few 100 dollars, if he didn't have it he likely wouldn't spend it. Remember you have no way of knowing anything he tells you is the truth. Also yes guys will spend money just to talk to you and just for attention, if they didn't I'd be broke, because it's pretty much all I do.

    Now that said if it bothers you then just tell him you aren't interested and refuse his privates.
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    I agree with Rina.

    It's just like the person that perpetually dates strippers that he meets at the club in order to get freebies. Part of their 'game' is making a her feel like she has done something special to deserve his undivided attention.

    If you dropped off the face of the earth tommorrow, he would spend those tkns on another girl, and whatever he isn't spending on you he is spending on another model. In order to get what he wants, (sex, a relationship, or more attention, ect) he is exploiting a weakness he thinks he sees in you; sometimes it's an insecurity, sometimes it's ego, ect.

    Also, people in the military make upwards 6 fig salary, and if he is enlisted he can have about 25,000 +, EXPENDABLE income.

    Meaning, he doesn't pay for housing (BAH), food (chow hall, or supplemented), clothing (yearly compensation at least), and that is for low-ranking servicemembers. I am a Marine veteran.



    In the off-chance that he does seriously love you, you should still avoid meeting him, because his judgement has to 'off.' Whatever site you broadcast from prohibits it, it's not safe and if he really respected you he wouldn't want you to put yourself in danger.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikayla View Post
    Ok this is my second thread today, I dont want to fill the board with posts, but I have a situation. There is a customer who has taken me private on mfc 3 times this week and spent at least 900 tokens each time, the last one last night he literally just wanted me to talk and do nothing for abt 1400 tokens. Anyhoo just doing my job being flirty I joked abt moving in with him etc, now this guy is 26 and good looking and cearly has money....no reason he cant meet women.....anyways last night he wants me to email him and I do and tell him I can't give my number out for safety issues until I trust him.....ie NEVER.. and he replies with

    "I fully understand you need to trust me first, but please dont take too long to see that Im a great guy. I live in los angeles too and you look like my dream girl, Im an awesome guy and you are a stunner, please give me a chance"


    now I have a boyfriend who I love, but I don't want to lose possibly my biggest customer with 3400 tokens total from him in the last 3 days.....what on earth do I do.....I dont wanna lead him on but this isnt plenty of fish damnit, who falls in love with the damn cam girl!!! I was a stripper so Im not giving out my digits to any guy much less for making $150 from the guy......so how do I engage him and keep his money flowing for now




    You got your problem right there. You're in this dilemma because you led him on. When he wanted you to e-mail him that night or last night you should have declined. When he wanted your number you should have declined and not led him to believe that you must "trust" him first. That's where the ball have been dropped. Now he believes that he has that chance to have some sort of an encounter and he will try everything he deems necessary in order to accomplish that. I know you like the money but you have to love your peace of mind better. No matter what you have to always carry that vibe that you're in control, independent, and that you can make it regardless; because the minute these guys just like him can smell your weakness like a shark to a bloody carcass in the ocean they will use that to gain leverage. I was in your situation once but I decided that in order to relieve the stress I was going to be honest. So it's not like I'm acting all innocent or telling you something I wouldn't do because I've been there. If it meant losing a customer so be it and I did but I felt more at peace afterwards. I would whether lose a customer than keep up with the front and lies. There's so many others to replace him that would make understanding clients and realize that this is all business. Next time be up front and let the ball roll in his court. If he comes around great, but if he doesn't then K.I.M. (keep it moving).

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