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    Default Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    So I wanna know: do you have a security buddy that you call when you get there and when you leave who knows where you are at all times? Or do you have a driver? Or nothing at all?

    I think a driver would be the safest but at the same time how do you guarantee he's reliable/trustworthy?

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    ^^ I'd like to know this too. Being independent means you don't have the agency calling you to check how the appointment went, and I'm not sure how you'd go about finding a driver that would be comfortable enough with the escorting process to come check on you/help if something DID go wrong. I wish I had someone that I could text when I arrive and then again when I leave, but none of my friends know about my escorting and I'd like to keep it that way.


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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    I drive myself to all appointments.
    To be honest, I don't have a call in/call out buddy per say.
    However, I do have a guy friend that knows when I'm going to work
    and knows that If I don't call him at x time he should call the cops.

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    maybe try to contact another indy lady to trade off safety checks with - i like having someone call while in front of the customer so they know someone is watching out for me

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    It's called a 'safe-call' when you partner with another working lady like that. Or hire a cheap online virtual assistant who is down on their luck in this economy - people will be an asst to anyone these days as an escort for 6 years you kinda learn these things kinda like cutting coupons!

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    This is where networking comes in handy...having a safe call is a good thing. I have called a friend of mine once, when I first started and even though I screened the guy and checked his references, I was uneasy. It was nerves, since I was still really new, but things turned out fine. I now have a network of local ladies who, if I showed up for a date and I felt the need, I have someone to contact... that way, the guy knows I have someone who is looking out for me. Worst case scenario, I leave a post it on my fridge with the information of where Im going and who Im with, so that if I dont come home, theres a lead. Even if you dont do it, it wouldnt be a bad thing if a guy creeped yo out, to just say you always leave a note at home with that information so that he knows if you dont make it home to throw it away, someone else will find it and follow up on him. I know its sounds dark but if my life is at stake or worse, I want to be found or get some justice.

    For having a driver, I dont recommend it. When a guy calls a lady who is independent and she has a driver, he will assume its her pimp or goon and theres going to be a cash and dash or what have you. They expect a driver if you work for an agency, but if you have one as an indi, they think the worst. Still, its not that hard to find a driver...around here, guys in the network are always putting themselves out there as drivers...whether they used to be drivers for agencies, or are a hobbyist or what have you.

    So yeah, either way, Id say networking is important...

    Oh, and for the simple answer of how I handle security...I screen and check references. That alone shows a guy you are professional and care enough to look out for your safety....not as easy a mark as someone who will see just anyone.
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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    thanks guys for all the answers! I mean I screen and so far everything's been good, but I was really interested in knowing how other girls handle this... having a call buddy or driver is not an option for me cause I wouldn't trust them to do their job right..

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    Well...just to let you know, a call buddy is more of a psych thing on the guy you are seeing than a job per se. When a guy sees you calling someone, it sends out the message that someone is out there waiting on you to call them back after the date..if he has any bright ideas about doing anything stupid, he will think twice. Not sure how a call buddy wouldnt do that "job" right really...
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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    Maybe you could call your personal cell phone (presuming you have a business phone) or call your home phone and leave a voicemail saying where you are. The guy could think you're calling your friend when really you're calling yourself, and like BlkSharpie said, it sounds a bit morbid but it would provide information should anything bad happen.


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    Default Safe Calls

    Using safe calls can be helpful but some care and thought should be taken when setting up your safe call procedure with your call buddy. You need to think things out and discuss it so you are both comfortable and understand the procedure to be followed.

    You may want to think about using code phrases because what happens if a bad client lets you answer or make the safe call but is right there threatening you or acting very irrationally. Code phrases can be set up to indicate that all is good, you're uncomfortable and are going to try and leave, or you're in trouble and need immediate help.

    You need to also consider how your call buddy should respond if you don't make or answer the safety call at the expected time. Sometimes ladies miss making or answering the safety call because they are caught up talking, they're taking a shower, or something or they could be in trouble. Does the call buddy wait a predetermined length of time and call again? Do they try calling the room phone instead of your cell phone? If you still don't answer what is their response suppose to be?

    This is stuff that should be thought out and discussed beforehand so that your safety call buddy knows how to respond, doesn't freak out unnecessarily, and reacts properly when there is a problem.

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    If I feel like I need security, I don't take the appointment. Hands down, not worth my time or the risk if I'm not feeling secure! I have a driver, but he is under strict instructions to wait for me for an hour after I am supposed to be out, then if I haven't shown, to leave and wait the full 24 hours to report me missing - there's nothing else you can really do anyway by calling the cops sooner. I have assistants that I check in with, but again all they can do is worry about me and notify those involved in the screening process.

    I'm told I've been extremely lucky, but I'm very very strict on screening, so I don't know - do whatever feels comfortable to you!

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    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    Default Re: Independent Escorts: how do you handle security?

    Agreed, I was a nervous wreck when I was new....my gut was telling me not to do this job period! lol So Im sure I turned down a good amount of decent dates. Im a lot more in tuned now, but if I felt Id need security to see a guy...I wouldnt see him. Ive been very lucky so far, the worst of my problems is being shorted. Im going to screen my heart out and hope it stays at that til Im done....
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    Full time live in security at the incall

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