I apologize if there was a thread on this topic already (there probably is and my dumb ass simply can’t find it)
I am SOOOOO incredibly hostile and salty right now to the point where my hands are shaking as I type this.
Tonight I was in free chat having a grand ol’ time. I had my first good hair day in ages (I’m in the middle of growing out a faux hawk, it’s been a wild road on the way out of Adam Lambert town and into “looking like a girl again” land) I decided my trip to the MAC counter appeared to be worthwhile as I looked extra polished. The custies were gentlemen; minimal begging and general twatwafflery. The tips were steady with decent privates peppered in between. Then SHE came in.
The first thing SHE did was introduce herself as another cam model, she didn’t say her model name which was kind of nice (I HATE THAT SHIT). I also took it as a gesture of good will that perhaps she wouldn’t try to steal the limelight.
I’m a pretty mellow gal and usually chat up a visiting model if she makes it evident she isn’t there to poach my perverted flock. Then she says, “I’ve never seen you before, are you new?” This evoked some LOLs from the custies as I’ve been on the site since 2008 and others before that. It also upset me because I’ve won prizes before and my name has been in the proverbial lights of the site before. Maybe she was insulting me? I dismissed that thought as paranoia.
I tried to keep the party going but this stupid butthorn kept grilling me about my modeling credentials and bragging about hers. She didn’t seem to understand that I’ve been a cam model since the late 90s when cams were slow grainy piles of rubbish and the stillframe was king. Then she started name dropping people in the industry. She went on about her cam studio and how she used to strip at the same club Jenna Jameson did while Jenna was actually stripping there. The nice thing is that my custies ignored her for the most part.
Here is where my rage kicked in…
She told me that she had been watching me and noticed a bunch of things I did wrong and wanted to “help me out, from one model to another”. She told me I didn’t smile enough (which is BS because all I do is laugh my head off on cam). She told me that I needed to change the décor of my slut station as it wasn’t very “appealing” to her eye. (Apparently a clean bed $3000 of artwork behind it isn’t up to snuff) She also told me that I should be playing games and engaging my customers more and for the grand finale she said,
“As a BBW model, you need to work twice as hard as girls who are more physically attractive”
That did it, I gave her the boot. It did cross my mind that maybe she was a dude.
Look, I know everyone always has something to work on but I have a tight hustle and I make a solid income in front of my webcam. I’m doing something right. Which leads me to my question (something I’ve wondered for over a decade);
Regardless of my abilities (no matter how they are perceived), is it bad manners to blow into someone’s chat and give them “friendly pointers”? I’ve seen it in other chats and I’ve seen other models say they went into someone’s room to help the model in there. I know that some of the “happy helpers” have their heart in the right place but the fucking road to hell is paved with good intentions. I know that not all sites allow contact between models, lack PMs, etc and there isn’t really a way to say it outside of the chat. If that is the case, should it be said at all?
Here is my thought…
I think telling a model she is ‘doin’ it wrong’ is belittling and embarrassing. As models, we must put on an air confidence (even when we feel like crawling under a rock) and these happy helpers (well meaning or otherwise) chip away at that. No model wants to feel schooled in front of a bunch of nasty butthorns. It sends a message that the model who is being corrected might be new/inexperienced and could be subjected to some of the nasty tricks and tactics used to see free flesh. To me, it is no different than working in an office and being corrected/reprimanded in front of clients visiting that day.
Now, a model coming into chat to be positive and say “wow, you are so gorgeous!” Or “way to work it girl!” I can deal with. This holier than thou condescending pretentious wank I can do without. There is nothing I detest more than a fucking “know it all” and frankly, if I ever find out who this knob is, I’ll go Paulie Walnuts n her ass.
I apologize for this long epistle of a rant, maybe you will tell me I’m out of line for being so irked by this. How do you guys deal with models in your chat?![]()



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