I'v been visiting my mom, and I always wrote my shitty child hood off as me just being a teen and over stressed adult figures. But since my step dad got out of prison I realize I wasn't wrong or just being a petty pre- teen who hates authority. He's just a douche 75% of the time. Also I'm mad at my mother for putting up with it. I really have forgiven my mom for things that happened when I was younger, being older I can understand (I don't agree but understand) why things were done too me and I was a human stress reliever. But I have been so focused on fixing my relationship with my mom, that I never gave a thought to my step-dad because he's been in prison for 9 years. We never talked much and now I realize we were never really close, I just had this huge ideal of him for some time (ie: that I'm no different than one of his kids, he was not cruel to me, he was a father figure to me.) and none of them are true. Now being around him for a few weeks, I found out I can't stand him. He's constantly cussing and yellling at my 9 year old sister, he's cussed at me for feeling faint at the grocery store (I'm 7 months pregnant) and even started a fight with me to the point where I had to leave the house that I had been invited too by my mother that is two states away from my home. All through this my mom just sits there or just tells me to bare with it so she can have piece and quiet. I'm so irritated with him and trying to keep my relationship with her that I'm just confused. I have tried talking to my mom about it but she's ill and it stresses her out and he's the type to turn everything around on the other person while trying to seem like he's the innocent victim who "understands".
Any other time I would just go about my life and say fuck it, but like I said I have an ill mother I just got a relationship with and my sister is only 9. I'm not willing to ditch them because of him but at the same time I don't want to bring my husband and child around my step-dad unless he changes the negative things about him. What do I do? Does anyone else have family members who you have issues with, if so how do you deal with them?



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