Okay, heres the situation. I met my ex husband when I was 19 and already pregnant... We got married when I was 20, and were married for 4 years so we were together a total of 5 years. We've been divorced 11 years now. We got divorced because he had cheated on me...we worked our way through that, we went to counseling and he really did work with me to try and get our marriage back on track, but then when he was assigned a hardship tour for a year (meaning family cannot live with him) I moved back to my home state. During this time, he met someone, and this time we went ahead and filed for a divorce.
It wasnt a bad divorce...when he told me he'd met someone, we hadnt seen each other in about 8 months. After our divorce was final, my ex and I didnt talk again until 3 years ago when he emailed me... Told me that he wanted to apologize for everything, that he was an idiot etc...and that I was the best woman hed ever had in his life and he made a huge mistake. He was still married to the woman he had met during his hardship tour, and I was with someone so I didnt really say much except to tell him I appreciate him telling me that. Every few months or so, hed ask how I was doing and check up on kiddo, but nothing too deep.
Well, we've been in more contact lately, found out that him and his wife have divorced. Over the past year, hes always updating me on his job, things hes doing etc...and telling me that hes nothing like the guy he was that didnt take anything seriously and he has his life on track now. Yesterday he asked me a bunch of questions because he needs it for a security clearance, and needed info about our wedding/divorce dates and my bday info and stuff like that, and we got to reminiscing about our relationship. Last he said was that maybe all of that isnt over for us, and that hed like to come and visit me soon... I really dont even know how to respond to that, and have been turning it around in my mind all day...
I guess that I would just like some outsider views about this. ...I dont know what to think or if I should see him or if I should leave it in the past, but then that would have me wondering what if... its been 11 years afterall, and for the past 3 years, hes been telling me all sorts of things to try and show me hes not like all the things that I was upset about when we were together. Anyway...thoughts anyone?



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My gut really isnt saying anything...like I dont have a bad feeling, but I dont feel all excited either. More like...hrmm..okay...this is interesting....let's seeeeeee



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