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    Ok ladys what do you do about these customers that what to get to know you off the site. They spend money on you but the want a straight answer to weither or not you can be "theirs" They send their number and want to hear from you.
    Do you just say no move on and lost that guy as a customer or how do you tease them and string them along to keep spending money on you?

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    Default Re: A Cam boyfriend?

    "I don't meet off of the site sweetie". Is my standard response. If they fuss too much i just block them. Not worth the headache to make a few dollars here and there.

    It's usually in the terms of service of the site that you can't give out any contact info to custies off the site. you can get your account closed for that...just FYI and something that you can tell the custies if need be.






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    I don't meet off site, but I'll pretend to be your online girlfriend starting at $200 a week for no sex

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    I'm everyone's "girlfriend" if they pay me for it

    As for meeting, stick with the whole: "I only meet people I've gotten to know well, lets get to know each other better!" and use that line for the rest of your life. Even if you've known them online for 5 years. They like the chase. Once you're literally attainable, its all over. No more $$$.

    TBH, I would probably consider having dinner with a spendy regular if he lived somewhere cool and he gave me money to purchase flight + hotel and then some. But that's as far as I'd go, and it would have to be someone really spendy and a fun location (i.e. Europe).

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    I love telling guys, "Honestly, I don't believe in 'online dating' and I would never date someone I met on the internet. Ever." I tell them that simply by having met me on a cam site, they've automatically disqualified themselves from being a prospect. I even go so far as to say I've been a stripper who's dated club regulars and I still wouldn't date a guy from the internet. When they hear they have less of a chance with me, online, as they would have in a strip club, they pretty much drop the debate. I feel like its a pretty authentic argument and on the whole, its true. I've never gone on a date with anyone I've ever met, online (that wasn't for pay). Nothing that comes from the internet has ever developed into a real, mutual relationship.
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    personally, i don't stray into that territory.

    it's really easy for the custy to get possesive, and feelings can get hurt.
    i just say straight up from the beginning 'i think your awesome, and this friendship means a lot to me, which is why i feel i can tell you i will never ever meet up with anyone from online, i just wanna be honest and dont wanna string you along :x not you per se, but there's a lot of creepy people out there! thanks so much for understanding :3' or something to that degree

    yea i've lost the odd one here and there being butthurt, but most at least act like they understand, or else they lose me for good
    and that would be just terrible wouldnt it

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    Quote Originally Posted by KillKeely View Post

    it's really easy for the custy to get possesive, and feelings can get hurt.
    i just say straight up from the beginning 'i think your awesome, and this friendship means a lot to me, which is why i feel i can tell you i will never ever meet up with anyone from online, i just wanna be honest and dont wanna string you along :x not you per se, but there's a lot of creepy people out there! thanks so much for understanding :3' or something to that degree [/IMG]
    As your a "newbie" to SW I dunno if you've been camming long but....

    "friendship" is a horrible word to use as a cam girl, you know how much money you have been missing out on by saying that? "dont wanna string you along" Yikes women cmon lol...no no noooooo !!!! U gotta play the game, make then believe that Ohhh Mmyy Goddd maaaybe just maaybe one day this princess of a woman will give me a chance..let me give her all my attention (money) and see if she does. That my dear is hustle.

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    I just straight up tell them no.

    I may well be missing out on some of the money that girls can make by doing the "lets get to know each other better first", but that isn't something that I am comfortable doing. I used to play that card in the strip club a LOT, and stopped after a few bad experiences - guys who go along with it, spend a LOT of money, and then get really, really angry - to the point of being physical. It scared me, after seeing a couple reactions like that - and although guys aren't physically next to us on cam, they ARE more likely to try to find our "real" selves, and come after us that way, or try to "out" us, or threaten our families, etc. I also had one guy try to tell my manager (at the club) that I had promised to have sex with him and see him OTC, and nearly got me fired - that same kind of guy could e-mail your camsite with the same kind of BS about you offering to escort, and get you suspended.

    For me, its not worth the risk, or the bad karma! (I like to think that I make people happier in this job - yes, I want your money, but I also want you to feel like you got what you wanted, so you will come back and give me MORE money - I don't want guys to feel cheated, scammed or lied to. I've got to a point in my life where it just doesn't work with me.) But lots of girls do really play guys up that way - its a choice that you are going to have to make for yourself.

    What I will say, is that if you choose to be "honest" and say no - that doesn't mean that you have to be a bitch about it or leave them without hope! I just laugh, and change the subject. If they push, I say that I only exist in the wonderful fantasy land of the computer, but I'm always here in internet-land for them! There are ways to say no that don't feel like a slap in the face, and don't meant that you have to lose the customer.

    And if you choose the other route - be very careful to never actually promise anything! Saying things like "I'm not sure, I've been burned before meeting guys, so I want to go really slow and spend lots of time getting to trust you on here (IN PVT!)" and "but I hardly know you - I don't know if I would want to meet you yet" are the way to go, rather than giving specific time frames or saying "Oh we'll definitely do that....sometime" or "I can't wait till you fly me out to meet you". Not only are direct promises hugely misleading, but camsites usually don't allow escorting (with the exception of AW) and record your shows/e-mails, so that if a guy gets pissed with you continually saying "later" and e-mails the site or takes it to the police, you are recorded as taking someone's money and promising them sex. That's a serious issue. Keep it in the realm of "maybe" to be safe.
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    Default Re: A Cam boyfriend?

    Only recently started posting on the boards, although I have only been camming for about half a year. so not too long but not completely new either.

    I am also NN so perhaps my 'hustle' is different, but I suppose my point is to approach this 'bf' scenario with whatever you're comfortable with!
    different hustles work for different girls, and I find I don't have to 'string my custies along' (for lack of better words) with the bf thing to get their tips.
    of course keeping in mind what works for me might not work for you, and vice versa. i just do what i'm comfy with
    I like to tease, have fun, joke around, although most of my income is on the tip based system.
    I think that might be a factor as in I'm not trying to get privates all the time. I def see where you're coming from though ^-^

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    Default Re: A Cam boyfriend?

    I think if I was a stripper in a club and a guy wanted more from me..to take me out or w.e I would have to give him a full out "Noway sorry, thats not my job" but because Im online I think different.

    Good point tho ManyRoses.

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