Indeed, it's risky to show one's face...but if you escort for any length of time, it WILL cost you in life, even if you don't use photos at all (i.e. working for an agency or some other entity that can book you without any images).
What happened to me would have happened without photos; someone who wants to have you killed doesn't need a photo to arrange it, and anyone can find anyone's identity with about 48 hours and $150...LOL. There is no privacy in this world anymore (and nope, it's not because of the Internet...watch "After Porn Ends" to see what happened to several adult film stars' lives after porn WAY before the Net existed). If you can't handle problems with your reputation, don't work in the adult industry at all. Showing your face in photos isn't going to make the difference between whether you exit this world unscathed or not.
If I could advise anybody because of what happened to me with that online pimp who hated me for refusing to be pimped by his site, and also refusing to go to his home to sleep with him (and for telling other girls they did not have to do any of the aforementioned to survive as an escort...which is true, but which he hated them knowing...his desire was to corner the market and render it impossible to make a living while not doing whatever he wished), I'd say to simply STAY AWAY from 99% of people in this business. Work, deal with your clients sanely and careful, and simply turn away from ALL chaos. This business is full of crazies (more than other areas of life), and the odds of people causing you harm are great. Isolation sucks, I agree, but the legal system will punish you for having connections (unfair but true) when others get into trouble and you're connected to them. You'll have problems because of the mental instability (endogenous or drug-induced) of many in this world, and you'll have trouble anyway (wives will catch their husbands as your clients, people will shame you, you'll be traced on the Net and people will not want to know you any longer, your future employment will suffer, etc.). Basically, if you can't handle the harm that doing this WILL cause you, don't choose it as a job. Period.
Everything has a price; showing your face is probably one of the least of your worries when you decide to do this. Much of what will harm you relates to the overarching moral/legal code of this nation, and much of the rest will come from the fact that to earn a living in this world, you will be dealing with chaos, dishonesty, addiction and self-hatred (projected onto you as hatred OF you). Those things will make life VERY tough for you. And a blurry face isn't gonna help you avoid any of that. In return, you will have freedom, probably more income than you otherwise would, and maybe a ton of glamour/travel/luxury if you're successful and better than average.
It's your choice, and sure, I'd agree that saying no to photo/video that's salacious in any way is DEFINITELY the way to go. But if you refuse to take a photo at a football game with your client, after a while he'll move on to the girl who will. If you expect to be able to retain perfect boundaries, good luck to you in this business; the nature of the beast is that your clients WILL push to violate every boundary you set up. I can promise you that...whatever you say they can't have, they'll desperately try for and/or dump you if you won't do it. So go ahead and refuse photos/videos, but also realize you'll be on hidden cameras anyway (tons of guys do that, and you'll never ever know it).
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