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    Default Re: Escorts - how do you handle picture or video requests?

    Indeed, it's risky to show one's face...but if you escort for any length of time, it WILL cost you in life, even if you don't use photos at all (i.e. working for an agency or some other entity that can book you without any images).

    What happened to me would have happened without photos; someone who wants to have you killed doesn't need a photo to arrange it, and anyone can find anyone's identity with about 48 hours and $150...LOL. There is no privacy in this world anymore (and nope, it's not because of the Internet...watch "After Porn Ends" to see what happened to several adult film stars' lives after porn WAY before the Net existed). If you can't handle problems with your reputation, don't work in the adult industry at all. Showing your face in photos isn't going to make the difference between whether you exit this world unscathed or not.

    If I could advise anybody because of what happened to me with that online pimp who hated me for refusing to be pimped by his site, and also refusing to go to his home to sleep with him (and for telling other girls they did not have to do any of the aforementioned to survive as an escort...which is true, but which he hated them knowing...his desire was to corner the market and render it impossible to make a living while not doing whatever he wished), I'd say to simply STAY AWAY from 99% of people in this business. Work, deal with your clients sanely and careful, and simply turn away from ALL chaos. This business is full of crazies (more than other areas of life), and the odds of people causing you harm are great. Isolation sucks, I agree, but the legal system will punish you for having connections (unfair but true) when others get into trouble and you're connected to them. You'll have problems because of the mental instability (endogenous or drug-induced) of many in this world, and you'll have trouble anyway (wives will catch their husbands as your clients, people will shame you, you'll be traced on the Net and people will not want to know you any longer, your future employment will suffer, etc.). Basically, if you can't handle the harm that doing this WILL cause you, don't choose it as a job. Period.

    Everything has a price; showing your face is probably one of the least of your worries when you decide to do this. Much of what will harm you relates to the overarching moral/legal code of this nation, and much of the rest will come from the fact that to earn a living in this world, you will be dealing with chaos, dishonesty, addiction and self-hatred (projected onto you as hatred OF you). Those things will make life VERY tough for you. And a blurry face isn't gonna help you avoid any of that. In return, you will have freedom, probably more income than you otherwise would, and maybe a ton of glamour/travel/luxury if you're successful and better than average.

    It's your choice, and sure, I'd agree that saying no to photo/video that's salacious in any way is DEFINITELY the way to go. But if you refuse to take a photo at a football game with your client, after a while he'll move on to the girl who will. If you expect to be able to retain perfect boundaries, good luck to you in this business; the nature of the beast is that your clients WILL push to violate every boundary you set up. I can promise you that...whatever you say they can't have, they'll desperately try for and/or dump you if you won't do it. So go ahead and refuse photos/videos, but also realize you'll be on hidden cameras anyway (tons of guys do that, and you'll never ever know it).


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    Quote Originally Posted by amytaylor View Post
    Indeed, it's risky to show one's face...but if you escort for any length of time, it WILL cost you in life, even if you don't use photos at all (i.e. working for an agency or some other entity that can book you without any images).

    What happened to me would have happened without photos; someone who wants to have you killed doesn't need a photo to arrange it, and anyone can find anyone's identity with about 48 hours and $150...LOL. There is no privacy in this world anymore (and nope, it's not because of the Internet...watch "After Porn Ends" to see what happened to several adult film stars' lives after porn WAY before the Net existed). If you can't handle problems with your reputation, don't work in the adult industry at all. Showing your face in photos isn't going to make the difference between whether you exit this world unscathed or not.

    If I could advise anybody because of what happened to me with that online pimp who hated me for refusing to be pimped by his site, and also refusing to go to his home to sleep with him (and for telling other girls they did not have to do any of the aforementioned to survive as an escort...which is true, but which he hated them knowing...his desire was to corner the market and render it impossible to make a living while not doing whatever he wished), I'd say to simply STAY AWAY from 99% of people in this business. Work, deal with your clients sanely and careful, and simply turn away from ALL chaos. This business is full of crazies (more than other areas of life), and the odds of people causing you harm are great. Isolation sucks, I agree, but the legal system will punish you for having connections (unfair but true) when others get into trouble and you're connected to them. You'll have problems because of the mental instability (endogenous or drug-induced) of many in this world, and you'll have trouble anyway (wives will catch their husbands as your clients, people will shame you, you'll be traced on the Net and people will not want to know you any longer, your future employment will suffer, etc.). Basically, if you can't handle the harm that doing this WILL cause you, don't choose it as a job. Period.

    Everything has a price; showing your face is probably one of the least of your worries when you decide to do this. Much of what will harm you relates to the overarching moral/legal code of this nation, and much of the rest will come from the fact that to earn a living in this world, you will be dealing with chaos, dishonesty, addiction and self-hatred (projected onto you as hatred OF you). Those things will make life VERY tough for you. And a blurry face isn't gonna help you avoid any of that. In return, you will have freedom, probably more income than you otherwise would, and maybe a ton of glamour/travel/luxury if you're successful and better than average.

    It's your choice, and sure, I'd agree that saying no to photo/video that's salacious in any way is DEFINITELY the way to go. But if you refuse to take a photo at a football game with your client, after a while he'll move on to the girl who will. If you expect to be able to retain perfect boundaries, good luck to you in this business; the nature of the beast is that your clients WILL push to violate every boundary you set up. I can promise you that...whatever you say they can't have, they'll desperately try for and/or dump you if you won't do it. So go ahead and refuse photos/videos, but also realize you'll be on hidden cameras anyway (tons of guys do that, and you'll never ever know it).


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    Amy as much as I respect you - I disagree with most if not, all of what you have said here. For one I don't know what your deal is here. It seems like you are trying to scare girls away from the business but what you have posted (except your story with the pimp) had been one big exaggeration. you said "But if you refuse to take a photo at a football game with your client, after a while he'll move on to the girl who will. If you expect to be able to retain perfect boundaries, good luck to you in this business; the nature of the beast is that your clients WILL push to violate every boundary you set up" - That's bull. I've been doing this for going on 4 years. I've had clients ask me to marry them, clients ask me to go bareback with them, clients ask me to do anal.. you name it. Each and every time it was "No", "No" and "No. I am still seeing those men today, they pay me my full rate and they do not harass me about doing such things with them anymore. I was firm when I said no and when I told them that it made me uncomfortable - they stopped asking. A lot of ladies don't know how to stand their ground. The hobbyists will try to walk all over you - NOT all. A lady can always opt to not participate in the boards. Clients are easier to deal with that hobbyists.

    The hidden camera thing? another thing I disagree with. I've posted here once before about the video camera detector I use during outcall and I have never once found a camera. The one time I did find a camera was when I was testing the device out to see if it worked. A video camera detector even detects cameras that are turned off. Amy for you to say that most guys will record you is bull. That may have been YOUR experience but that's definitely not most of our experiences are in the hobby. Also I have never had a client try to do physical or emotional harm to me. Every escort has her own experience.

    Amy, I also disagree with you "You may as well just show your face because you're going to be outed anyway" . Again almost 4 years and never been outed. Also I advise ladies to blur their faces not blur them because there is now a software that can easily unblur one's pic. I believe if a girl shut's the fuck up, don't mingle with the ladies in the ladies room and focuses at work - she'll be fine. I personally learned that you can't be an opinionated escort because the girls will TRY and go after you ESPECIALLY if you look better than them. I believe if a girl were to do things right, concealing her identity , NOT telling clients and providers personal info - she will be fine. As an escort, You have to lie A LOT to stay above it all. Hobbyists are like stalkers that will research you until they find your real name so they can out you if you fuck with them. This is why I always say to my escort friends- do not forget whois privacy on your website. It's a cut throat business. There's a lot of hatred and jealousy in it. You have to learn how to ignore them and just do you!

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    Default Re: Escorts - how do you handle picture or video requests?

    Our experiences have been very similar (nay, almost identical), and I agree with much of what you say. I don't have time to bother with some of it, as what you say you disagree with is NOT actually what I said (re-read and quote me correctly). I'm glad you're doing well (that's all I ever want for any woman in any line of work, including this one).

    Be well...xoxo

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elektra Luxx View Post
    i don't want to lose a client by not videoing.
    One client is not the end of the world.

    I do allow it but they have to use my camera.

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    Default Re: Escorts - how do you handle picture or video requests?

    A while back I had a guy message me about doing a custom lingerie photo set. I told him my face could NOT be in the pictures, period. When I sold panties, I was the same way and still did pretty good with sets. So, I get there, we are ready to go and I notice hidden in the corner and red flashing light. I go and investigate and of course, he has one of those flip cameras. So I tell him again, he cannot film me, period! I do not want my face in ANY shots. So I grab his camera as he's apologizing and I delete my shit off there. He also was trying to fuck after the photo set and what I saw on that cameras were a lot of chicks getting photos taken and him screwing them and they never knew they were on camera! These guys are ridiculous!

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    Default Re: Escorts - how do you handle picture or video requests?

    i don't send photos, let them take photos or anything that could be posted on the internet for all of eternity. i also don't do those things because if the guys needs a visual to get off by himself then he needs to visit my ad and stop wasting my time. for established clients i have sent slightly less facially obscured photos that are either in my ad or will be soon. i have zero patience for new clients asking me for these things - i feel it's disrespectful, especially if they are refusing to give me any personal inforrmation to be properly screened.

    lovelyme - i completely agree that clients are easier than hobbyists! honestly i would rather hobbyists just went away sometimes...(of course not really since they unfortunately make up most of the market)...also, where did you get the camera detector?

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    Default Re: Escorts - how do you handle picture or video requests?

    I wouldn't.

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