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    Hi.. So I know this is like a business, and I am ready to accept that and start making money! On the flip side, there is so much information im having a hard time recognizing up from down.. hopefully this isn't unusual

    I am by nature a very methodical person, and need to have all the know how before I do something. With that said these are the things weighing on my mind..

    How do you know your safe? I found things about screening but what else do you do? I have a daughter whom I am determined to come home to; so I want to know what I can bring with me 'just in case.'

    Are nerves common your first few times or am I not cut out for this? One guy I met was awesome, and the other was socially awkward and I wasn't prepared.. We didn't have sex and I felt awful. How do you deal with nerves off the bat to prevent not giving a client a good time?

    *This will sound so shallow* What if the guy creeps me out? Don't get me wrong I am not the girl that would only date "hotties" but I have in my life come across men a few times that just give me a bad vibe, is there anyway to overcome this?


    Argh, I hope I don't sound like a bad person with that last one, I'm just scared that I wont be good at providing this service. I am new to all of this but I WANT to do this. So please help if you can, and if any Escorts would like to PM me and help me I would GREATLY appreciate it, I feel so alone in this in a way, despite people in my life knowing what im planning to do. They don't "get it".

    Anyways thanks in advance!

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    I'll put it this way:

    I'm a mother as well. I've been escorting all over the united states for 3-4 Years now and I have never once felt like I need to carry a weapon to protect myself. I have never went on tour and feared for my life thinking I won't be able to see my baby again. You have to know how to read people, know how to screen and NEVER become desperate. Three things I made sure of 1.) The guy was over 35, 2.) He wasn't booking me same day (I required at least 24 hours notice for appointments 3.) He needed at least 2 verifiable entertainer references. With good marketing and these three things, you should not have trouble.

    Take this advice: Live below your means and Save your money. It is possible to make 5-6k one week on a tour and all the sudden you're looking at your bank account thinking "where did that money go?:. Men can smell desperation from a mile away. Never get to the point where you are hardup for money and feel the need to take every client that comes along. That is how you get undesirables and that is also how a lot of ladies find themselves in the slammer.

    I've said this before: What you put out there is what you will attract, if your pictures show a girl spread eagle on a corvette - you're not going to get a lot of guys that want to wine and dine, take you out in public and then private time. However, you WILL get guys that will treat you like a drive thru, a human trampoline..etc. Marketing is everything. Some girls will roll their eyes but those same girls are the ones struggling in today's economy. When you write your ads and design your website - keep the customer you are trying to attract in mind. Write to him. Write for him. You will attract good guys not undesirables and that makes for easier screening.

    If you go to appointments where you feel like you need a weapon - you're doing something terribly wrong. You should screen with confidence. Being nervous is fine. This is not a normal job. However, being scared to death that a guy may be dangerous is not.

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    The beauty about this job is that you are always free to walk away from a client/situation that makes you uncomfortable, so follow your instinct. Losing out on a couple hundred bucks is worth your mental and physical wellbeing if you get a bad vibe from someone.

    However, be prepared to encounter many more socially awkward clients. They're generally the ones most craving human companionship and unable to find it through other avenues because of their awkwardness.

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    Default Re: Feeling Overwhelmed..

    Quote Originally Posted by Bows&Sparkles View Post
    Are nerves common your first few times or am I not cut out for this? One guy I met was awesome, and the other was socially awkward and I wasn't prepared.. We didn't have sex and I felt awful. How do you deal with nerves off the bat to prevent not giving a client a good time?

    *This will sound so shallow* What if the guy creeps me out? Don't get me wrong I am not the girl that would only date "hotties" but I have in my life come across men a few times that just give me a bad vibe, is there anyway to overcome this?
    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    The beauty about this job is that you are always free to walk away from a client/situation that makes you uncomfortable, so follow your instinct. Losing out on a couple hundred bucks is worth your mental and physical wellbeing if you get a bad vibe from someone.

    However, be prepared to encounter many more socially awkward clients. They're generally the ones most craving human companionship and unable to find it through other avenues because of their awkwardness.
    i haven't been doing this for long and i do it part time, so take it for whats its worth. i completely agree with shanna, but i still get really nervous with someone new. i screen carefully by using lovelyme's #3 tip and i really like #1 and #2 screening tips. my regulars don't make me nervous anymore, but leaving anything to chance and i'm buying a tazer soon.

    escorting is teaching me to consider every guys feeling not just the "hotties", i don't look at all guys the same way anymore. i have met an awesome guy, but most are socially awkward. it can be hard sometimes, most guys i see just want someone to make them feel special and once i get them relaxed most are fun to be with.

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    Default Re: Feeling Overwhelmed..

    Wow, all of your responses really made me feel better, I especially like the don't get desperate approach. That really makes sense.

    Thanks ladies while reading this I realized im just way over thinking things; I have great intuition so I am sure I will be just fine

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