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    thanks for you're support !
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    I am so sorry to hear about your loss!! But I am sure he is in a good place and I think he knows you care. x0x0x0x

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    wetmylipss,

    I am very sad to hear of your loss and I wish I had some magic words for you but I don't. The only thing I can say that may make any sense to you at this time is to take care of your soul. Take each minute, each hour, each segment of your day in steps. Coach yourself. "OK, I'm going to get out of bed and head to the bathroom. I'll turn on the shower first before I do anything, and undress while I'm on the toilet..." To anybody who hasn't been through it, it sounds so ridiculous but to live such a tragedy means that getting through basic steps can feel most impossible. It's OK to take breaks in between but it is so important to keep planning the steps you will take to continue to move forward and get through your days.

    As for your camming. Take it the same way. If you can only be on for 20 minutes then do just that. Just don't stop trying and do allow yourself time to pull it together without feeling pressured to jump back in there.

    If you have a blog I suggest dedicating time to express what you are feeling and invite people to read it. Writing can be extremely therapeutic and for so many reasons. It helps to talk it out with yourself, it makes it real, it makes his life and death real and it can be very validating. It can also help those around you (and maybe those not so close) understand why you are different today than you were yesterday.

    I'd also like to welcome you to a new life. You are forever changed. You are now a much more caring, compassionate and open minded individual. While you are hurting so deeply now know that you are also healing tremendously. Welcome to the blessed side of life.

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    *hugs* i have been there and it's awful. i'm so sorry you are going through this. it is really rough.

    one of the things that helped me was remembering to build/rely on my offline support network. even if it's only a support group for grief or something like that - i didn't have a lot of family or friends. our job can isolate us, and grief can isolate us even more. please take care of yourself.

    sending love and prayers.

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    So sorry to hear about your loss.........*hugs*

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    So sorry for your loss.
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    I am very sorry to hear that.
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    I can't begin to imagine what you are going through Death is a very difficult time and there's not magic cure for it, just time and even then it's a bitch. Give yourself time and work slowly don't push yourself too hard. I hope that you feel better soon though. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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    My condolences are with you! ::big long hug::
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    Wow...I am so sorry to hear that. I would strongly recommend grief counselling or maybe a support group.

    *hugs*

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    Just checking back in to see how you are holding up.

    I was thinking about you today and I really wanted to make sure you understand that when it comes to death and grieving, three weeks is NOTHING! There is absolutely no set time on how long it takes for someone to grieve. Depending on your relationship it can take YEARS, the first year being the worst. Please don't think for a minute that anyone is judging you for being sad, depressed or being low, and if they are, it's someone very shallow.

    For me personally, it took me THREE years before I was able to poke my head out of the darkness. Can you imagine some people never do?

    Take your time. Gather your support system. Keep a clean environment. Eat well. Talk. Talk. Talk.

    Feel free to PM me if you need a shoulder

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    thanks ladies for your comments and your kind words of encouragement i really appreciate it(hugs) i did better today.

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