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    or else!!! Laws enacted in the 1700s are being dusted off and used to force the children of the poor to support them through old age until death. There are record numbers of aged people in the Baby Boom Generation. Even if your parent(s) abandoned you in childhood you still have the legal responsibility to support them so says laws throughout Canada and many states in the US. Now ain't that a kick in the head?!


    A 73-year-old British Columbia woman is suing her adult children for $750 a month in parental support, using a little-known filial duty law dating back to the Depression era to stake her claim before the courts.The children argue they owe their mom zilch, since she abandoned them when they were teenagers: “I just do not believe you should have to pay when you’re left behind at 15 years old. It’s not right,” one of her sons Ken, 47, told reporters
    http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/...rticle2180886/
    States with filial responsibility laws are: Alaska, Arkansas,
    California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Iowa,
    Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Montana,
    Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota,
    Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Dakota,
    Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, and West Virginia.
    http://www.pennsylvaniafiduciaryliti...others-keeper/
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    OHHH my goodness....you almost gave me a stroke, then I saw that Florida is not on that list. I can guarantee you that if it were, my mom would already have sued me for this and I would have heard about it already. Shes always trying to get money out of my sister and me...and I recently found out that as soon as my sister left for college, my mom pressured her to send money to her, so she was struggling in college, with a pt job, and while most kids are calling home asking for money, my mom was calling my sister to send more.

    This went on for like 20 years..and she finally stopped sending her money only a few years ago after her husband totally blew up when he saw that she cleaned out their savings, and I stopped talking to my mom 2 years ago..Im a single mom, I cant afford to support her and Im not letting her move in with me. Since then shes been telling everyone that shes going to be homeless and we dont care about her. So yeah...I could totally see my mom getting all excited at the idea of suing us..she would do it in a heartbeat if she could.
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    Ummmm... this is REALLY disturbing! This is tooooootally going to happen when social security dries up! I would have no problem supporting one of my parents, but not the other. And I know the latter would TOTALLY take advantage of this should this law become known. Ewww! I wonder if it would still hold true if said parent never paid child support? No, right?

    I almost want to talk to an attorney about this. Has anyone talked to an attorney about this? Especially if you have an LLC?

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    Incredibly disturbing. I actually cannot stop thinking about this now, even though Im not at risk..its still scary, knowing that people in my position may have to deal with this. And the thing is, I cannot imagine at all that a parent who took care of their children and are good people would even expect something in return for that. I mean, that is what a parents role is...when bringing a child into the world you create a responsibility for yourself, you dont create someone to be responsible for you.. thats just twisted thinking.

    I mean, of course a child would not let anything bad happen to thier parent, like anyone else that we love we want to make sure they are okay. But obligated? By law? The only parents who would turn to that law to be taken care of are assholes, point blank.
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    I would be fucking FURIOUS if I had a hostile relationship with either of my parents, and they tried to sue me for support.

    I can't even fathom either of my parents suing me...both of them are in their mid 60's, not exactly rich, but still I have to fight to treat my mom to a tea when we get together, and then, swear to dog, she still tries to give me bus fare, and my dad tries to slip me a $20
    It's pretty funny, actually. They've never treated me like a child, but in some ways, I think they forget that I'm an adult with my own more-than-comfortable income, and have been for quite some time now.

    Looking at the issue more broadly, I suppose government social supports and individual responsibilities are trade-offs at times, and I could definitely envision filial duty statutes being employed more frequently as governments provide fewer social supports, moving towards an environment more predicated upon 'individual responsibilities'. Like children, the elderly do require more care/services than a healthy working age adult, and someone needs to pay for that. I don't think it's a coincidence that in Canada these laws emerged during the Depression, when gov spending was being squeezed and average income levels were dropping simultaneously.

    It's an interesting concept, in the abstract...what responsibilities DO we have to our parents? Personally, my sense of responsibility stems from the quality of the relationship I've had with my parents throughout my life, in that I'm a better, stronger, more successful person than I would have been without their influence. I could never see them do without, because they've done everything possible to encourage my success, at every stage of my life. I definitely know people who have succeeded despite their parents, however, and if I felt I fell into that category, no way in hell would I want to give either of them a dime.
    The main problem, as I see it, is that a legal statute can often be a blunt instrument that won't always recognize the qualitative difference between the two scenarios. Here, I have to echo BlkSharpie. The types of parents who would morally deserve benefit from such a statute would be the types of people most reticent to use it
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    Unreal. The sad thing is it will affect those who had terrible parents not good parents. Talk about throwing salt in a wound. Likely I have a great relationship with my parents and they can support themselves even without social security.

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    ^^^Yeah, I agree. The very people who've been supportive and nurturing will probably be the least likely to go this route. I can't imagine going 70 years and having amassed nothing to sustain yourself. People have tough breaks but an entire lifetime of tough breaks is hard to imagine unless we're talking medical issues.
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    So, can children sue if their parents won't cover their education or housing or won't buy them a car? It just seems kinda backwards for today's day and age. My parents would totally do this to me.. ugh.

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    On the other hand, the alternative is taxpayers get to support the parents, with about a gazillion percent government overhead.

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    you can count on the inescapable demographics of the baby boom, in conjunction with the huge debts of govt's, to cause this to become an increasingly high profile issue !!!

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    It probably won't be a problem for the baby boomers. But the generations that won't retire for decades do need to have a savings plan right now: 401k is not going to be enough. I have a great relationship with my parents so I wouldn't mind helping if they have problems when they retire (my state is not on the list though).

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    I love my mom, and if I can ever pay off a place near me for her to live you bet I will.
    My dad legally emancipated himself fro me on my 18th birthday, and I had not seen him since I was 14, and he had not paid for anything in my life since I was 9. The letter came about a month after my birthday. Since he was the one who emancipated me, and I never even filled a form out, would I still have to pay?

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    I will help my family till the day they die.Also i come from another culture.I am a Turk. I left home when i married. MY mom paid majority of my college bills, rent while i was at college, sent me expensive private schools when i was high school, always found me the best tutors,gave me a credit card to use, always gave me money when i needed. My father helped too not like my mom but yes he sent money while i was at college, piad my phone bills etc. They never made me work till 23 till i was married. I owned them a lot of thing.Even to my grandmothers. I will always be supporting them forever. They were such a good family to me financially and they support me emotionally too.Now i make good money from stripping. I send them money every month i am paying my little brother's college and living expenseS.I am very proud of.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    When you turn 18 you automatically become emancipated from your parents so idk why your dad would go through the trouble to do that.
    Yeah well he wanted to make sure I didn't ask for college money. It was just kind of a huge fuck you.

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    I wonder how this works if the parent(s) live in one of those states, but the offspring has moved to a different state that doesn't do that.

    How would that work?
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    Quote Originally Posted by zola View Post
    I love my mom, and if I can ever pay off a place near me for her to live you bet I will.
    My dad legally emancipated himself fro me on my 18th birthday, and I had not seen him since I was 14, and he had not paid for anything in my life since I was 9. The letter came about a month after my birthday. Since he was the one who emancipated me, and I never even filled a form out, would I still have to pay?
    Never heard of such a thing.

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