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    Suggestion 3 would be to unlearn whatever it is you think you know about dancers and the industry
    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    That stripper money is like a drug that convinces dancers that decent men don't avoid them, that money is more important than love, and that all that is required to bank doesn't make them different than regular women, i.e., the ones whose sexuality is reserved for one man
    Based on posts I've read here and in the other cc, Frenchie reminds me of Shelley Lubben lite. When someone doesn't enjoy their time in the sex industry, and then strives to universalize their own very unique and personal experience, this is the result. Everything negative they experience is a direct result of sex work, and current participants in the business who do not share her views are deluded.
    According to Frenchie, our parents are ashamed of us, and no decent man or woman would ever want to be with us.

    To any legit SO reading this, have enough faith in your gf's maturity and intelligence to trust that she can distinguish between fantasy and reality. Like Roast, I've had customers who have been regular visitors for years, and I have grown quite close to a few of them. Many of my customers (who would NOT be the type to concoct fantasy narratives on a stripping support site) are attractive and witty and pretty fun to par with, but that could never get in the way of my relationship between my partner and myself because, simply put, he's my best friend.

    Daily, we share so many important moments together, sexual and non, that even trying to imagine a fun, hot guy on cam (again, fun hot guys don't troll sw) coming between us is a laughable proposition. To any non-troll reading this (perhaps even the OP, who knows), take whatever insecurity you feel and channel it into strengthening the bond between the two of you.
    Talk, laugh, fuck when you're both feeling it, cuddle when you don't, (repeat) and support each other. Making her camming all about you and your concerns is the opposite of support, so don't dump a whole pile of your insecurities onto her. Through camming, she'll encounter her fill needy, immature men, don't add yourself into that category.

    @Roast, I gotta laugh out loud at the whole 'camming gf fantasy' thing. Any legit SO would realize that we're not swept away by charmers who demand 'ass/tits/feet bb, then private' or buzz us demanding we 'open cam'. The powers of self delusion...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    Ex-dancer here.

    The dancers (or camgirls) on this site are going to tell her to dump you if you have any problems with her, because they have to tell themselves that money is more important than love. Some get really nasty about it, I think because they really can't see the SO's point of view.

    Your basic tradeoff is that you're getting a girlfriend who is very skilled sexually, but one who got that way by working in the adult industry. If all you care about is sex, shut up and enjoy the ride. If all you care about is love, leave.
    I'm beginning to think your a guy from this post...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    Ex-dancer here.

    The dancers (or camgirls) on this site are going to tell her to dump you if you have any problems with her, because they have to tell themselves that money is more important than love. Some get really nasty about it, I think because they really can't see the SO's point of view.

    Your basic tradeoff is that you're getting a girlfriend who is very skilled sexually, but one who got that way by working in the adult industry. If all you care about is sex, shut up and enjoy the ride. If all you care about is love, leave.
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    I'm beginning to think your a guy from this post...


    Exactly what I was thinking, which was only reinforced by 'her" next silly post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    Guess the industry has changed since I quit.

    That stripper money is like a drug that convinces dancers that decent men don't avoid them, that money is more important than love, and that all that is required to bank doesn't make them different than regular women, i.e., the ones whose sexuality is reserved for one man.

    I now work under my real name. Do you?

    I don't get groped, insulted, harassed, or stalked at my job now. Do you?

    Stripping is like a cult. You can't reason with a cultie because they're going to be loyal to the cult.

    Any dancer who thinks the type of man worth marrying is one who wants a stripper for a wife is pretty delusional, or likes some pretty shitty men. Sure, the money is great, but to tell women who are considering dancing that it's all fun and games, peaches and cream, and won't destroy everything but your finances is just plain naive.

    Anything else, "dearie?"

    Troll on, brah

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    Guess the industry has changed since I quit.

    That stripper money is like a drug that convinces dancers that decent men don't avoid them, that money is more important than love, and that all that is required to bank doesn't make them different than regular women, i.e., the ones whose sexuality is reserved for one man.

    I now work under my real name. Do you?

    I don't get groped, insulted, harassed, or stalked at my job now. Do you?

    Stripping is like a cult. You can't reason with a cultie because they're going to be loyal to the cult.

    Any dancer who thinks the type of man worth marrying is one who wants a stripper for a wife is pretty delusional, or likes some pretty shitty men. Sure, the money is great, but to tell women who are considering dancing that it's all fun and games, peaches and cream, and won't destroy everything but your finances is just plain naive.

    Anything else, "dearie?"
    bahahahahhaha wow I feel really sorry for you. Did you even read what we all posted? I think we all reinforced to the OP that this industry is anything but a walk in the park and hence why he should be there emotionally for his partner.

    Just because stripping destroyed your world and made you jaded (probably cause you are actually a man) doesnt mean it happens to everyone. I've worked vanilla jobs, Ive danced 5 years, Im on my second degree at university... honestly the hardest challenge my relationship has ever faced is my degree and the time it takes up in my life. Not dancing. I donno what kind of "sexuality" you were giving out to everyone, but I promise you for me dancing is about as sexual as taking a shit (sorry guys).

    Just because you decided money is more important than anything else doesnt mean we all do. Because of my qualifications I actually make the same amount of money in vanilla jobs, but I choose dancing because it allows me freedom to follow my next dream. Not because I think I can buy shiny things.

    Im still trying to figure out what the hell dancing has "destroyed".. Im married to a successful university educated man who hugs me 15x minimum per day and calls me to tell me he loves me at least 3x per day, have 2 beautiful doggies, more friends then Ive ever had before, I get to study, I get to travel, I was able to fly my parents here and pay for their holiday, I get to go to the gym almost every day, I go out at least once a week for lunch, also dinner and a nightclub.... ya my life really sucks. I should quit dancing before it all disappears. Oh wait... Its been 5 years and my life just gets better and better.

    No dancing is not emotionally a walk in the park, but if you have a supportive partner, friends and family... the hard stuff is really not that hard. Nothing like writing a 3 hour pathology exam. That was hard...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frenchie View Post
    Guess the industry has changed since I quit.


    I now work under my real name. Do you?

    I don't get groped, insulted, harassed, or stalked at my job now. Do you?

    Did you dance under your real name?

    Did you get groped, insulted, harassed and stalked when you danced?

    I suggest that you tone it down HUGE amount and stop bating the other members here. I'm not convinced by any means that you were ever a dancer but your tone here is unacceptable regardless. Reign-in the anger and be civil.
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    I run from bf's when they start to describe themselves as 'coaches' or 'managers'... definitely terms that hint towards the suitcase pimp.
    Oh Canada, we stand on cars and freeze...

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