I have a habit of getting up in my head and stressing out. For example.. at work stripping, like when I am on stage.. sometimes it will look like the guys at the stage want to axe murder me so I will think to myself, "OMG they hate me." And then I will think.. "Well that guy is younger, maybe he just isn't into me because I am older or maybe the way I did my makeup I look like a freak." And then he will ask me for a private dance after I get off stage and I am like, "Okay.. if they look like they want to murder you then it is because they are turned on or something."
And as soon as a woman or especially a couple comes to my stage I automatically think, "Oh shit she wants to pick me apart and I better avoid her or she will get weird on me and then reluctantly I will dance for them and they will be okay or maybe the woman will ask about my boobs, wanting to know if they are "fake" or whatever. I always say they are real!
And last night there were a bunch of baller looking guys in the VIP and I walked by them and the one is telling me to do a dance for his friend and his friend is like, "No!" and laughing and my first thought is they are making fun of me and like it is some kind of joke that one of them would want to even do a dance with me and then I take the guy back and he goes zones out into my boob space like a little baby and sprouts a huge boner.
Are there threads on this? It is like my thoughts are trying to defeat me and I just need self confidence. To my credit though I worked in a horrible little dive where all the girls did was talk shit about anyone who was there to make money, there was no cover and some of the guys were real dicks because they were just there to hang out with their lazy girlfriends. That and the worst stripper drama ever. So I guess I keep expecting the kind of stuff from my old club and maybe I need to begin to realize it doesn't have to be the way it was at the old club?
Anyone else have these kinds of struggles?
Did you find a good way to overcome them?
I just try to meditate when I can to clear the noise out of my head. The noise that keeps telling me I will be rejected if I approach someone for a dance.



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Yes I have had struggles like this when dancing too. You're not alone babe. It is ALL in your head, and you are psyching yourself out and your lack of confidence is showing to the custys and affecting your sales in a bad way. I do this too sometimes at work and have a bad night cos of it! 
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