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    Ok so I don't need anyone bashing me for my sex life, not to say anyone will. Anywho, to make a long story short, I had sex with a guy a few days ago(and I ALWAYS use protection). Well after we were done, he made a strange comment like "How do you know I didn't take it off at the end?" because you know sometimes it slides out and the guy puts it back. I never been asked no shit like that. Well I been having a wierd pain, and I never had a guy do something sneaky or disrespectful like that. I'm thinking of going to the doctors soon to get checked out. I don't know if there's anything I can do to the guy for doing that without my permission (even though I consented to sex). I know I am going to be FURIOUS and lose it if I have something since the last time I got checked.

    OMG what would you ladies do???!!! If a guy asked some wierd shit like that, and you find out you have something? (I did some research and they say it may not have a lot of legal steps you can take)

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    First things first, go get checked out ASAP. Maybe even after-hours today if you can. As to how you confront him if you have something, well it depends on what kind of relationship you have/had with him. Was this a one-night stand or something ongoing?

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    Default Re: Stomach/Abdomen Pain

    call him right now and say, "well how do you know if i dont have AIDs?" and hang up. that will make him lose sleep for sure.

    what piece of shit.

    or how about this-

    talk to him about it with a recording device. do not go charging after him upset, go to him calmly and be like "why did you say that to me?" and get him to pretty much say out of his mouth that he said those words to you. also, state clearly you wanted sex with condom. it is hard to do some legal action without evidence especially if its sex between two consenting adults. you could possibly have a case against him whether you have something or not...not sure if you really want to go through that but just saying.

    also,

    these pains might be all in your head. paranoia causes me physical pain sometimes.

    but def get checked out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by socialreject View Post
    First things first, go get checked out ASAP. Maybe even after-hours today if you can. As to how you confront him if you have something, well it depends on what kind of relationship you have/had with him. Was this a one-night stand or something ongoing?
    One-night so far.

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    Well that's a pretty sticky situation. If someone who knows they have HIV/AIDS knowingly/intentionally transmits it to someone then they can be charged with assault/battery or manslaughter (this has happened). Aside from that there's no law against slipping condoms off or transmitting normal STDs outside of HIV/AIDS unfortunately, although there should be.

    As said before, go get yourself tested but keep in mind it does take time for STD tests to come up positive after initial contraction of the disease. Going to the doctor immediately is a good course of action.

    In the future you can use female condoms AND a male condom. This will lessen the risk of pregnancy and STD transmission if some dick tries to take the condom off without you knowing. The guy shouldn't feel your female condom when inserted properly, and they even have spermicidal lubes and spermicidal female condoms that "kill" sperm in some way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCM View Post
    I had sex with a guy a few days ago...I been having a wierd pain
    If you had sex with this guy a few days ago, it is extremely unlikely that this pain you are experiencing has anything to do with an STD you acquired during that exposure (you could have an STD from an earlier exposure, of course). You may be feeling pain from mechanical trauma, but that wouldn't have anything to do with whether he was using a condom or not. By all means get tested and be alert for symptoms, but keep in mind that they aren't likely to appear for several weeks at least.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Laurisa View Post
    Well that's a pretty sticky situation. If someone who knows they have HIV/AIDS knowingly/intentionally transmits it to someone then they can be charged with assault/battery or manslaughter (this has happened). Aside from that there's no law against slipping condoms off or transmitting normal STDs outside of HIV/AIDS unfortunately, although there should be.

    As said before, go get yourself tested but keep in mind it does take time for STD tests to come up positive after initial contraction of the disease. Going to the doctor immediately is a good course of action.

    In the future you can use female condoms AND a male condom. This will lessen the risk of pregnancy and STD transmission if some dick tries to take the condom off without you knowing. The guy shouldn't feel your female condom when inserted properly, and they even have spermicidal lubes and spermicidal female condoms that "kill" sperm in some way.

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    Thanks, very informative!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hockogrocle View Post
    If you had sex with this guy a few days ago, it is extremely unlikely that this pain you are experiencing has anything to do with an STD you acquired during that exposure (you could have an STD from an earlier exposure, of course). You may be feeling pain from mechanical trauma, but that wouldn't have anything to do with whether he was using a condom or not. By all means get tested and be alert for symptoms, but keep in mind that they aren't likely to appear for several weeks at least.
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    In some countries, taking a condom off without consent during otherwise consensual sex is considered rape. That's part of what the WikiLeaks guy got into trouble for, allegedly. Unfortunately, the US has a very substandard definition of rape, imo. Regardless, I vote that you go get yourself checked out for peace of mind, if nothing else.

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    Absolutely, get yourself checked out (and again at three months, and again at six months). Using the female condom with the male condom isn't recommended as that doesn't result in double protection, but typically in slippage or (more likely in this case) breakage from the added friction.

    Female condoms though are very handy for any situation where you can't trust the other person with a male condom, or he doesn't stay hard enough for it to stay on, or there's a sizing issue with the condoms you have.

    Seconding the suggestion about taping him admitting to what he did (after checking your state's laws around recording; in some states, only one party needs to give consent). There are very limited circumstances in which it could be used, but in those circumstances it could be important.

    Regardless, hope you get a chance to get the pain checked out and hope you feel better soon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SabrinaMorgan View Post
    Absolutely, get yourself checked out (and again at three months, and again at six months). Using the female condom with the male condom isn't recommended as that doesn't result in double protection, but typically in slippage or (more likely in this case) breakage from the added friction.

    Female condoms though are very handy for any situation where you can't trust the other person with a male condom, or he doesn't stay hard enough for it to stay on, or there's a sizing issue with the condoms you have.

    Seconding the suggestion about taping him admitting to what he did (after checking your state's laws around recording; in some states, only one party needs to give consent). There are very limited circumstances in which it could be used, but in those circumstances it could be important.

    Regardless, hope you get a chance to get the pain checked out and hope you feel better soon.
    Thanks.

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    What a douche- what do you mean by only once so-far? You're not going back for more after he put you in an uncomfortable situation are you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flickdreams View Post
    What a douche- what do you mean by only once so-far? You're not going back for more after he put you in an uncomfortable situation are you?
    No. I was just saying the # of times to date.

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