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    Hi all I have a question or I guess I need some advice. I am 21 almost 22 and im at a crossroads and need some advice. I was in a very abusive relationship and had bad family life and no real friends for years That a As a result I desperately started a “relationship” over the summer with an older man who was 42. The age didnt matter and I had actually known him since I was 15. Nothing ever happened then…. it was always innocent and he was always nice to me. He is very wealthy and powerful. I went to a different city to where he was to work and we ended up having sex…. its gone on until now. Problem is he is married AND he has a child. I know really bad right? I knew it from the beginning but he was never upfront about it. I feel like he really does care about me and he tells me he loves me but maybe I am delusional and just a desperate sad girl looking for love? :/


    Where I am from, is a place where he has a house so it is hard for me to not see him. I haven’t seen him for a couple months but When we were seeing each other he would give me money and he told he would always take care of me. He’d mention him divorcing and not wanting to be with his wife.:/ don’t believe that but I guess now I feel guilt and don’t know if I should cut him out of my life completely or what.



    I know the answer seems obvious but it is harder when you are in it. I am really emotionally attached to him. Financially I have close to nothing and have not finished school yet. I am not a dumb girl just a broken one and I guess I need advice. Should I move somewhere completely different and dance? Finish school. I don’t need to be ripped apart just Any advice or comments I don’t have anyone to talk to about this that isn't extremely judgmental and would probably freak out if I talked about this.

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    Well, it sounds like you're a sugar baby. The emotional attachment is bad only because you know he's never going to leave his wife (or, at least, don't count on it.) If you can come to terms with being a sugar baby, and having him as a sugar daddy, it sounds like a great arrangement to get you on your feet.

    Once you come to terms with this, if you can, I would ask him for help. Tell him that you're trying to focus on school and wondered if he could help you out each month. This is called an allowance, though I'm not sure you'd want to call it that to him. Just tell him you need help. I would also tell him that if he can't it's okay, you'll just have to get a second job even if you weren't actually planning on getting one. This lets him know that you're not trying to blackmail him to his wife-- you just would appreciate some financial security.

    I would also suggest you look into the counseling center at your school, if they have one, or try to find a sliding scale therapist as you sound lost in your personal life, and emotions.

    And finally, if you think it's only going to get worse in terms of your attachment to him, then by all means-- moving to a new place always does wonders for me BUT outline for yourself how to improve your dating life-- be it being celibate for x number of months, or not dating until you've made a new core group of friends, and/or making a list of characteristics you will cut off a relationship at the first sign of.
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    You should definitely finish your education. The fact that you knew him since 15 is wierd, he is probably a pervert. He has a wife, he is MARRIED. That's the key word. He is cheating on her. I would not invest much time into a cheater because chances are high that he will do it to you and has women all over. If he does divorce his wife is going to take him to the cleaners. Think of how the wife and children would feel, or if the tables were turned. You can do better, leave it alone, and don't stress over MARRIED people who are in relationships already and have no real respect.

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