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    Ughhhh so tonight I was walking home from the gym at 7pm. Its autumn here so it was dark. I heard someone running behind me but didn't think anything of it because I just assumed it was someone jogging. Next thing I know I felt someone grabbing my ass so I turned around and this guy then uses his other hand to grab my crotch. I screamed "what the fuck?" and pushed him away with both hands. He started running away and I started chasing him (don't mess with an athletic stripper) screaming "You better run Im gonna fucking smash you, you sick fucker"... then I was like OMG why am I chasing him, what if he turns around so I started running the other way. I went to the police station and reported it. They took my pants and said there should be skin cell DNA on them. God I hope they catch this sick fuck before he does something worse to someone else. I don't know if he wanted to hurt me or if he was just being a pervert. All I know is I wish I fucking punched the dude in the face. The worst part? He looked totally normal. My age, boyish looks, not scary at all. There were women walking the streets everywhere - coming home from work, the gym, etc. What the fuck?! Im so angry. Pepper spray is illegal here but I know someone who can get it for me and I will be carrying it with me from now on. I wish he would try it again cause this time Ill fuck him up bad... sick cunt.

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    I'm so sorry.. I'm so sad that this seems to be happening on such a regular basis. I hope they catch him and he gets locked up, what a disgusting excuse for a man.

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    I can't help but think it is sometimes necessary to have a weapon of some kind (for women). My nanna had an attachment on her key ring which was basically an air horn, you held it up to their ear. I think it induced vomiting, disorientation. Are you ok?
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    im sorry that happened to you bro =\
    i hope he gets in a pub brawl tonight and someone takes his balls
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    Default Re: I was sexually assaulted walking home from the gym :(

    Thanks guys... I think Im fine.. I donno Im kinda in shock. One minute Im fine, the next crying, then laughing, then angry. I keep thinking what I should have done. I donno in way because I wasn't hurt it almost built my confidence like I feel like I could do something more next time (hopefully there is never a next time). I can't even imagine what it must feel like to be raped... I wanna kill this fucker and all he did was touch me. My best male friend was saying a regular girl probably woulda froze but since Im a dancer and used to pushing grabby hands away I might have caught him off guard. I actually didn't feel scared when it was happening. My adrenaline response was definitely fight. But then after I just keep thinking of all the things he could have done and I feel scared. Trust me... Ill pepper spray the shit out of someone who ever does this and I won't run either... Ill kick the shit out of him while he gasps for air... ya lets see you report that one buddy. I wish I just clawed his eyes out with my bare hands.

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    Omg sorry that happened! Yeah he will do worse if he sees he can get away with it he may start going further and further or he may have already you never know. It's good you reported it so hopefully they'll find him.
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    Battery is a criminal offence involving unlawful physical contact, distinct from assault which is the apprehension, not fear, of such contact.

    In the United States, criminal battery, or simply battery, is the use of force against another, resulting in harmful or offensive contact.[1] It is a specific common law misdemeanor, although the term is used more generally to refer to any unlawful offensive physical contact with another person, and may be a misdemeanor or a felony, depending on the circumstances. Battery was defined at common law as "any unlawful touching of the person of another by the aggressor himself, or by a substance put in motion by him."[2] In most cases, battery is now governed by statute, and its severity is determined by the law of the specific jurisdiction. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battery_%28crime%29

    Sexual Battery Penalties

    The potential penalties for sexual battery depend on whether the alleged sexual battery is considered a misdemeanor or a felony. The potential penalties include:

    Serving jail time;
    Probation which may include community service work and attendance in a rehabilitative program;
    Fines; and
    Registering as a Sex Offender.

    Sexual Battery Sentencing

    Judges may consider the age of the victim, the mental state of the victim at the time of the incident, the batterer’s criminal history and the relationship between the defendant and the victim. Many states allow judges to issue harsher sentences if there was a relationship of trust between the victim and the defendant such as a teacher student or clergy member congregant relationship. http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com...al-battery.htm

    I'm so sorry this happened to you Jessie and my heart goes out to you! I'd beat that fucking animal down for you if I could.
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    Fuckers like that should be stoned. Like salem witch stoned. Start by slow crushing the laughable nutsack n tiny soldier. Then work up toward the head

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    That's fucking bullshit. I almost wish you'd caught him just so he could experience the humiliation of having the shit kicked out of him by a tiny blonde.
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    Sorry this happened to you but I was happy to hear you attacked him back. While I hear this is the worst thing to do, I had a random guy attack me a few years ago in downtown Chicago and did the same thing. I'm glad you are fine though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Sorry this happened to you but I was happy to hear you attacked him back. While I hear this is the worst thing to do, I had a random guy attack me a few years ago in downtown Chicago and did the same thing. I'm glad you are fine though.
    I agree 100%. Next time, teach the crotch grabber a serious lesson.

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    Im so sorry this happened to you Jessie!!! Dont hold the anger, let it go and understand you werent in control of his actions nor could you predict what would have happened! You did all you could and Im glad you're safe now. Going to the police was a good idea - many females would brush such accients off and try to forget, you may have saved another girls life down the future. Who knows this freak grabs you one day, the next he has a weapon and trying rape someone. It sickens me how some males think this is OK, it seems so common, an "accidental" brush on the boob in the subway, an ass-tap in the mall - its all the same and these males know what they are doing - So many females just ignore this too.
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    Jessie I'm sorry this happened to you. I really think that men who sexually assault women like this either already are rapists or will be shortly, so it's good you went to the police.

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    Thanks for all the support guys. Ive been on quite the emotional roller coaster the last 24 hours. Im surprised how much it has affected me but Im trying to stay strong. My friends have been amazing. Im just looking forward to the day I forget it happened.

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    I'm so sorry this happened to you, stay strong & try not to let this punk effect your life. I don't understand why someone would do such a thing, for what & to cause so much trauma? Guys are fucked up, a woman would never do this....

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    I don't ever understand the "freeze" response myself, my fight or flight always screams FIGHT!! as well, and I never feel scared until like, the next day or so. You're not alone on that.
    Maybe you meant that you don't understand it in the "I could never react that way" sense and not the "how does it work?" sense, however - I'm quite interested in the phenomenon so I take the chance to write a bit more about it.

    One of the possible biological reasons for freeze is that predators are less likely to go for preys that don't move. Also if the predator catches a prey and feels the prey "die" they might loosen their grip for a moment and the prey can escape... Many animals has this response, so it's not strange for humans to have it as well. It's an non-conscious reaction (sometimes people don't realize that they froze until afterwards) in our reptilian brain and an important part of our survival instinct. In some instances this is the best response to threat, in others... well ask the deer in the headlights...

    We can freeze because of a sudden fright, but also, as I just mentioned, as a survival response, or because we are simply being overwhelmed by what's happening - this means we don't necessarily feel fear while being in that state.

    Our response to threats can also be something learned. If someone was attacked in childhood for example, or experienced another kind of early trauma where freeze was the only option, their body can remember this and go into the same response when facing future threats - even when they are adults and/or capable of defending themselves.

    It is possible to change your response to threats with professional training. This could be important if you have a strong built in freeze response, or you might become the victim over and over again. This could also be good if you find yourself overly aggressive while facing threats, putting you in unnecessary danger. Freeze can be a good initial response, and so can fight or flight, but strength lies in being able to move in and out of different response modes. It is not good to get stuck in a response mode that is not working in the situation you're in - whether it is trying to fight someone stronger than you, trying to outrun a bear or freeze your way out of an assault.

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    Aw, sweetie...I am SO sorry. I understand the mixed emotions. It's scary when you realize that you aren't in control of others' actions. It's funny when you think about how pathetic some people are--what they'll do for a thrill. And it's sad how little respect some people have for others.


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    I'm sorry this happened to you *hugs*.

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    It's great that you reported it! I really hope you feel better soon and that this guy will be found by the police.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Aw, sweetie...I am SO sorry. I understand the mixed emotions. It's scary when you realize that you aren't in control of others' actions. It's funny when you think about how pathetic some people are--what they'll do for a thrill. And it's sad how little respect some people have for others.

    I agree with the moderator.

    And, I would add this: someone grabbing your crotch can be a very traumatic feeling though as I a man, I do not claim to understand the feelings of women when they are groped even though I have been groped by women in crowded places. I have just simply brushed it off.

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    Wow that sucks. Seriously, what is WRONG with some people. Made me smile to picture you chasing him down the street, though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Siddarth View Post
    I agree with the moderator.

    And, I would add this: someone grabbing your crotch can be a very traumatic feeling though as I a man, I do not claim to understand the feelings of women when they are groped even though I have been groped by women in crowded places. I have just simply brushed it off.
    Being groped in a crowed place is completely different... Hello Ive been groped before thousands of times at work. I was walking in a dark street by myself, no one was on the street. A man ran full tilt at me from behind and grabbed me... a little bit different. I thought he was going to rape and/or kill me... its totally different. I had a guy fully stick his fingers in my vagina in a nightclub when I was 21 walking through the crowd. It was so crowed and I didn't know who it was... I was annoyed. Not scared for my life.

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    ^ I totally sympathize with you. This sort of experience can tar you for life. It is very hard to recover from it. I know some women who still have nightmares about being their crotch groped. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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