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    Default Abusive Antisocial Custies

    Have you seen this guy lately at your club? He on the loose and looking to piss on your night!
    ASPD is deficit of conscience. The individual (most commonly male) lacks the ability to feel and thus demonstrate concern for others. He experiences no empathy for the plight of others and feels no guilt or remorse if his conduct injures those he encounters. He does not experience anxiety over his behavior unless his personal safety, security, freedom, wealth, etc., is threatened. Essentially, he can perform any behavior to intentionally injure another and feel no guilt or remorse.

    He feels that he is above the law; that laws were written for others, not him. When caught for a legal violation, he will rationalize his behavior, and if at all possible, eliminate his culpability by placing the blame on another. The young woman date raped by an ASPD will find herself under scrutiny; the ASPD attacker accusing the victim of provocative, seductive, "she really wanted it" behavior. He will use date rape drugs in a blink of the eye without any concern for the victim.
    It is not until all escape routes are blocked that he will throw himself on the mercy of the court. He will theatrically present tears of remorse. However, his only remorse is that he was caught and cannot escape the consequence. He will continue to manipulate right up until the jail door slams.
    ASPD - Intelligence

    Another serious variable is intelligence; the higher the level of intelligence, the more covert the behavior. Highly intelligent ASPDs will manipulate others to do his "dirty work". He is the true "Con Man". He presents gregarious, articulate, and attractive mannerisms that demonstrate a sincere interest in others; only a well staged theatrical production.
    ASPD - Violence
    Is he capable of violence? Absolutely. If his needs require violence, he will utilize it. If he feels that you’ve violated him or failed to meet his expectations, he will execute retaliation. His level of "direct" violence is directly related to his level of intelligence and thoughts about escaping without consequence.

    Read more at Suite101: Characteristics of Antisocial Personalty: Interview with Psychologist Dr. Duane Dobbert on Antisocial Traits | Suite101.com http://tami-port.suite101.com/charac...#ixzz1tI1bmLsH

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    I think I met him last night in fact.

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    this is similar to sociopathy, right?

    I thought that this thread was about the assholes that come in, not the sociopaths

    a little while ago I went up to a guy at the end of the night. It was a rough night and I was pissed off already.

    me: do you want to go have some fun?
    guy: I dunno, can I cum in your mouth?
    me: excuse me?
    him: I said, can I cum in your mouth?

    I slapped him so fucking hard that my hand stung for a few minutes afterwards. The look on his face was priceless. He went from smug douchebag to "I just shit my pants, mouth hanging open, eyes deer in a headlights wide". I put my finger right up in his stupid looking face and told him to watch what he said.
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    Quote Originally Posted by luscious sadie View Post
    this is similar to sociopathy, right?

    I thought that this thread was about the assholes that come in, not the sociopaths

    a little while ago I went up to a guy at the end of the night. It was a rough night and I was pissed off already.

    me: do you want to go have some fun?
    guy: I dunno, can I cum in your mouth?
    me: excuse me?
    him: I said, can I cum in your mouth?

    I slapped him so fucking hard that my hand stung for a few minutes afterwards. The look on his face was priceless. He went from smug douchebag to "I just shit my pants, mouth hanging open, eyes deer in a headlights wide". I put my finger right up in his stupid looking face and told him to watch what he said.
    I have never hit anyone in my life.
    You got it right! It IS about the assholes that come in. Clubs are open to the public and as frightening as it is to think, most mentally twisted guys are not on the level of the Unibomber, they're ordinary looking and they do come in as customers. Some managers act like their behavior is annoying but harmless but they're very harmful to the workers mental health. Day in and day out their deliberate abuse and endangers the girls and the clubs with unwanted police crackdowns and arrest. They endanger other patrons with potential violence. They twist the atmosphere into a negative predatory one.

    That's hilarious that you let that guy have it. Just be careful not to get caught since your manger might suspend you for it.
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    Sounds like plain meanness to me. The kind of people who can do hurtful or violent things and not feel any compunction or guilty . That's a sociopath right? Yep, I've had em, lol. Some real crazies out there. Clubs are draws for all kinds of creeps.
    There's also a few dancers out there that are almost as messed up as some custies. I think like, they were made for each other, lol. They seem to like draw each other out like magnets.

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    I had a guy hand me 20 dollars last night. "give this to the girl on stage" with a nasty ass look on his face. I was like "ok honey do you want to give me a tip too than?", and he replied, "no she's working her ass off, go tip her" This was after me asking his name, introducing myself, just being fun and friendly. So I told him "I'm a dancer, not a delivery girl". He replies "I've been coming here for ten year, the bouncers know me, yada yada yada", and I just walked away with his money.
    I refuse to let rude men bring me down. There's assholes in the world and there's nothing you can do about it.

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    ^^That's right, girl! Your guy was more a-hole than antisocial but good move either way. Stick and move. The moment you smell the crazy...MOVE! lololol
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    When I meet men like this I comfort myself in the knowledge I don't have to prove shit to them cause at the end of the night they are going home alone. Lol, not that I am going home with anyone, but it just make me feel better knowing that their demanding behavior gets them nothing.

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    that's a really good point, Brandy. I also like to think of how sad they must be that they feel the need to abuse people and know that strippers / camgirls / hookers are easy targets. It has also been pointed out to me that we only see a side of them. I highly doubt that guy I slapped would have asked any other woman if he could cum in her mouth. I was an easy target because hey, he's drunk and with his buddies and I'm just a stripper, right?

    I think that the amount of strippers / lack of money really makes guys think that it is acceptable to treat us the way that they do. Because business is so low, they are allowed to stay in the club if they're dicks. Because business is so low and there are so many girls, the girls won't tell them to fuck off if they're dicks, they will encourage or put up with the poor behaviour. When guys tell me "I don't pay for what I can get for free" I laugh in their faces. There's no way that they are getting ME or someone even CLOSE to me for free. Most of the time those guys are ugly as fuck. You're trying to make me believe that if you can even get a girl she's going to be hot, and as hot as me? Yeah right.
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    I thought I met one on Friday night but he must have been a nice one. Actually, I meet so many people I forget them pretty fast, real fast actually. But last night this guy was hot to trot for me, at first he just seemed like the usual douche who just wanted me to go home with him but then he actually bought me a drink. Well I guess buying me a drink entitled him to own me. After a while I got tired of being poor and harassed and I found a generous man to sit with so this freak comes over when I am going on stage and grabs me by the throat becaue I "forgot" him.. Did I tell anyone? No... Because the owner, manager and a door guy were watching and did nothing. Anyway I pulled away from him and sat with the generous guy again after getting off stage and this freak comes over and sits at our table to try to get me away from the guy who saved me from having to owe the club minimum tip outs and having to come up with next day's house fees on my own O_o (horrible night btw).

    Anyway... Still the best job in the world if you can do it. I used to think stripping was a horrible job but that was just the club I was working at. And it seems like there are a lot of great guys who go to strip clubs but there are also a lot of psychos. Keeps it interesting... (this job isn't for everyone)

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    Quote Originally Posted by luscious sadie View Post
    that's a really good point, Brandy. I also like to think of how sad they must be that they feel the need to abuse people and know that strippers / camgirls / hookers are easy targets. It has also been pointed out to me that we only see a side of them. I highly doubt that guy I slapped would have asked any other woman if he could cum in her mouth. I was an easy target because hey, he's drunk and with his buddies and I'm just a stripper, right?

    I think that the amount of strippers / lack of money really makes guys think that it is acceptable to treat us the way that they do. Because business is so low, they are allowed to stay in the club if they're dicks. Because business is so low and there are so many girls, the girls won't tell them to fuck off if they're dicks, they will encourage or put up with the poor behaviour. When guys tell me "I don't pay for what I can get for free" I laugh in their faces. There's no way that they are getting ME or someone even CLOSE to me for free. Most of the time those guys are ugly as fuck. You're trying to make me believe that if you can even get a girl she's going to be hot, and as hot as me? Yeah right.
    OMG, you should watch Millionaire matchmaker sometime. There are dudes on that show who will say unbelievable shit to women. Really all of these dating shows get the occasional whackjob. They absolutely do these things to women outside the club, at their jobs,etc. that's how harrasment suits happen. They're ALL DOUCHE ALL THE TIME!
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    Quote Originally Posted by luscious sadie View Post
    that's a really good point, Brandy. I also like to think of how sad they must be that they feel the need to abuse people and know that strippers / camgirls / hookers are easy targets. It has also been pointed out to me that we only see a side of them. I highly doubt that guy I slapped would have asked any other woman if he could cum in her mouth. I was an easy target because hey, he's drunk and with his buddies and I'm just a stripper, right?

    I think that the amount of strippers / lack of money really makes guys think that it is acceptable to treat us the way that they do. Because business is so low, they are allowed to stay in the club if they're dicks. Because business is so low and there are so many girls, the girls won't tell them to fuck off if they're dicks, they will encourage or put up with the poor behaviour. When guys tell me "I don't pay for what I can get for free" I laugh in their faces. There's no way that they are getting ME or someone even CLOSE to me for free. Most of the time those guys are ugly as fuck. You're trying to make me believe that if you can even get a girl she's going to be hot, and as hot as me? Yeah right.
    Haha Yeah these guys live in a fantasy world thinking they are getting anything for free. If that was the case they wouldn't be up in the club.

    In regards to your fist paragraph, I have come to the conclusion through talking to a variety of women from all walks of life, ages and religions that being a woman makes you a target. I used to think that other women not like me (you know good girls, stay at home moms, wives with respectable jobs, etc.) never experienced the same disrespect that I would sometimes encounter at work or just due to being a stripper. However, I have found that to be completely untrue. You mention you highly doubt he would have said the same thing to another type of woman, but I think he probably disrespects women (just maybe in other ways). But yes, you are right in strippers being easy targets. It's a hard job, but somebody's got to do it

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    this describes the pastor that lingers at my local starbucks and finds subtle ways to offer to save my whore soul. a story for another time, but no one woman needs to endure slights from anyone, in or outside the club.

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    WOOOOoow!!!!! That's some creepy shit!
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