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    Default Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    So tonight (just now) I got my hair done, did my makeup and packed my bag and drove to the club. As soon as I turned onto the street where the club is i chickened out and turned around. And I am NOT new by any means. I feel like such a wimp. Please help me stripper sisters to grow some balls so I can go to work tommorow.

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I used to do that a bunch. Don't know why. But sometimes I would tell myself to get ready and walk in and if I wasn't feeling it, I could leave. So this at least got me to stay some of the time.
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    In five years I've gotten ready to go & not gone, or even got in the car or turned around... prob about 20 times? I always kick myself for it!

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    guilty. I've driven by, checked the cars in the lot, considered it weak and left. Once I got in the club and even in the dressing room and just bolted lol do what ya feel haha

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    I used to do this ALLLLLLL the time in the beginning. It will get better/easier. ::Hug:: Just try again tomorrow girlie.
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    Yes!!! So glad to know I am not crazy! I've done this a million and one times... At first I didn't understand why. Now I think it's because somehow I didn't have good boundaries established, and my gut was protecting me. Something triggers that fight/flight response. I don't work when I feel vulnerable (emotionally, physically, mentally). I think the Predators can sense that vulnerability. Now, I have excellent practices to make me feel strong and impervious. I journal, see a therapist, run, do yoga. I know my cycle and typically don't like to work right before my period and when ovulating... Anyway, we women have powerful gut messages. And we can respect that body-wisdom without beating ourselves up. There is a reason you turned away. So figure out how to set yourself up to feel less threatened next time.

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I did this once and felt so horrible about it that I think I traumatized myself.

    I sometimes feel like turning around when I'm driving to work but I ignore it and go on anyways. What else am I going to do in full make-up? Impress my cats?

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    ^Haha!

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I feel ya. I am one of the furthest girls from green -but I still get intimidated all the time. I just started at a new club -and hardly feel sexy. Last night I didn't even have a single dance for hours! Then all of sudden around 2am I got a bunch of VIP's & sold a half hour outta the middle of nowhere & I had literally been fighting the urge to just get dressed & walk out or quit! I know better than getting intimidated by what's going on around me, yet I mind ninja myself all the time, dear! It sux, but ya just gotta make yourself buckle down & fight the urge. Better luck next time!
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I work a lot of nights a week, I want to turn around all the time. I am kinda a weirdo, but I can share the things I do that help/trick to get to work.

    1. Drink a Redbull or coffee on the way. This works for me because if I take a night off during the week I want to be home relaxing, no friends of mine can hang out on those nights. I do not want to be at my house caffeinated.

    2. Hair and makeup done.

    3. Telling myself I can have a special treat, like starbucks or froyo on the way.

    4. Telling myself that I don't have to try. Sometimes when I am really sad being happy around customers seems like an impossibility. So I tell myself that I just have to go, be there, do stages. Eventually someone wants a dance, my confidence goes up and I have a better night. But none of this can happen if I don't go.

    5. On night when I am having trouble getting to work I give myself a low goal, so I don't feel overwhelmed. Of course once I am there my night will flow as it will.

    6. Bribe myself with a gift:-)

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    I work a lot of nights a week, I want to turn around all the time. I am kinda a weirdo, but I can share the things I do that help/trick to get to work.

    1. Drink a Redbull or coffee on the way. This works for me because if I take a night off during the week I want to be home relaxing, no friends of mine can hang out on those nights. I do not want to be at my house caffeinated.

    2. Hair and makeup done.

    3. Telling myself I can have a special treat, like starbucks or froyo on the way.

    4. Telling myself that I don't have to try. Sometimes when I am really sad being happy around customers seems like an impossibility. So I tell myself that I just have to go, be there, do stages. Eventually someone wants a dance, my confidence goes up and I have a better night. But none of this can happen if I don't go.

    5. On night when I am having trouble getting to work I give myself a low goal, so I don't feel overwhelmed. Of course once I am there my night will flow as it will.

    6. Bribe myself with a gift:-)
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I've actually never done this. Once I commit to going in, I go in. That said, I've definitely left the club after a couple of hours a number of times. I worked in a total dive for four years, and sometimes the first 3-4 hours of the night (when there were literally no customers in the club) would kill me.

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    Lol I have as well!! Usually when I dont want to work I slowly get ready, make myself get in the car and by the time I am there I feel more into it enough to stay (after all I did drive there!) But sometimes I juuuust cant do it.

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    No, I have never chickened out ^_^ !

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I've never done that but it doesn't mean I haven't been nervous when I finally pull up.

    Only advice I could offer is just like when you don't want to exercise. I will get dressed, put on my running shoes, and take my iPod. I just tell myself I'll walk around the block once and if I still don't feel it? I can go home guilt-free. I end up running 90% of the time. So I say walk in and have a ginger ale before bolting.

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    Believe it or not I almost chickened out of entering this amateur night last week. I'm glad I turned back
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I haven't done that in a long time. I did have a panic attack at my first day at a new club today, though. I ended up in tears but the manager let me go a bit early. (Sorry about thread jack:-(

    I live too far from any of the clubs I work in to drive and turn back. I have done my hair, make-up and packed my bags and decided not to leave my house.
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    Keep postive, force yourself to go in, and if you already did that, then stick around for an hour, just understand you can leave whenever you need to - dont take advantage of it, get adpated to it instead.
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I chickened out a crappy new club the other day then went to a better one!
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    Yes. I have even chickened out going into a club I was at the night before and had been at TONS of times... Because I felt unpretty or anxious.

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    I've done that quite a bit also, but I also suffer from anxiety that keeps me housebound at times. There were points in my life I only left the house to go get food. If not for that I wouldn't have left at all. Sometimes the RX pills work, sometimes not. I will say that at ALL the places I was initially scared to go in to, that once I took that first step going in, it became easier and I couldn't believe I made such a big deal about it before.


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    I wouldn't call it chickening out so much as getting preemptively annoyed. This happens to me about once a week now. It's happening right now.
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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    Shasta you have some very good tips.
    i find that giving myself a low goal helps A LOT! (Hey, I can always give myself a *new* goal once I meet the low goal, if i feel like it)
    I've started keeping a list of all the little things I see that I want to buy. I keep it in my phone. Books on amazon, nailpolishes, eyeshadows, stuff I would normally just buy without thinking. Now what I do is, each night I work, right after my shift I get to buy myself one thing off the list. It helps keep me motivated A LOT, plus it's all relatively cheap stuff. I now have most of the Maybelline Color Tattoos and a stack of used books <3 which somehow means as much to me as all the cash I earned!

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    Default Re: Have you ever chickened out on the drive to the club?

    LOL i thought i was the only one that did this!

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    I have went to 1 club decide I did not wanna work there, do my makeup then get my girl to call other club in the bathroom then we left!
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