So I thought it would be a good idea to start a thread specifically for women of color that work in clubs/areas that aren't as diverse or friendly towards us. I know this is a sensitive topic so I really hope this thread turns into something useful and not into a bunch of arguing.
I'm working at this club in the mid-west that is beautiful. Like, this type of club is the reason why I started dancing. The dances are expensive and the earning potential is high but I'm having a hard time. I've danced in clubs with 'tense atmospheres' but it's been a loooooong time. At this point in my life I don't really have the energy for it and I would typically move on to a place where I felt more comfortable but I'm in love with this club and don't want to give up.
Here are some examples of what I've been dealing with:
I was sitting in VIP with a bachelor party with a couple of other girls. One of the girls gets on the podium and dances. They tipped her WELL. When she was done she had a pile of cash...lots of singles, some 5's at least one 20. One of the guys was like 'Oh I think it's your turn! Get up there. Your next.' So I get up there, the bachelor goes off to the bathroom, everyone acts dis-interested and the ones who did tip me tipped like $1 at a time. I think I made $10 or $15 :/
Some guy last night told me his name was 'Digger'. I didn't think about it until later but based on how he said it and how he was acting I'm pretty sure he was fucking with me.
I got on stage to dance and tried to engage this couple sitting (I could tell they had a chocolate aversion so I tried to be extra sweet) and they stared at my feet for the entire 1st song and looked all around the room for the last 2 songs. (come on, you can at least look me in the face and smile back)
I went on stage another time and tried to engage this guy (again I could smell his 'aversion' from a mile away so I tried to be extra sweet and engaging) and before I even get on the stage good he starts to get up, says 'I have a prior engagement or I'd stay. I promise.' (he knew I knew what was up, and who says that in a strip club?) and wanders around the room.
Guys going for a dance until their friend sees them and they wander off, tell me never mind, or ask me to just meet them in vip
And other times when everyone leaves when I get on stage, guys acting like they don't want me to touch them, completely ignoring me when I speak to them or getting up and walking away or both...
Most of the situations that I'm experiencing aren't new but usually when these things happen I brush it off because it's not as frequent and either a) I'm already making/have made my money or b) I know the ratio of assholes to the ratio of guys that love me in the room is balanced enough that I will still make money.
I don't know. I'm just determined. I did some research and there was another WOC that posted that she worked at this place and banked and there are a couple of other ladies that work there now that seem to be doing ok. It's only been a few days so I'm not ready to give up and move on.
So my question is do you ladies have any things you do or lines you use to disarm them when you know they typically aren't attracted to WOC?




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