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    I have a 12 year old daughter and she is bugging me to buy her thong panties. I have a feeling it all started because she is in middle school and has gym with 13 and 14 year old girls who obviously wear them. So being in the locker room with them she would love to be able to "fit in" if that makes any sense. Now, personally I was wearing thongs at some point when I was 12 years old. I remember some older friends buying them for me and my mom just didn't really make a big deal out of it even though she wanted me to wait till 13.

    For those of you who have daughters how do you feel about this? What age do you think you'd want your daughter to wait or how long did you make her wait?

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    What difference does it make? It is better than if she were using drugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by slowpoke View Post
    What difference does it make? It is better than if she were using drugs.
    I don't really see a big deal. Just had some friends that thought I'd be stupid for buying her thongs at that age. So wanted others opinion, preferably from moms.

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    What difference does it make? It is better than if she were using drugs.
    That's a completely and totally unhelpful response. Why bother at all??

    OP, I would say 12 is still young imo. I understand that times have changed, but I'd definitely say at least 14, and may not until she was old enough to have a job and buy them on her own.
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    25, or maybe even 30.

    But of course I'm a Dad, so I may have some irrational thoughts on the topic.

    Anyway, this was for Moms, not Dads, so I'll shut up now and get out of the way. Please carry on.

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    She can have em, as long as they get glued on lol

    Im a dad, my daughters 2, but i can see her asking this about age 9.

    Seriously im ok withi it BUT its a great time to talk about peer pressure, being yourself and (increasingly important as she grows) not trying to do what the big girls do...

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    Thank god I have a tom boy, till this day she wont even wear shirts that show a little of her chest. I wouldn't buy them for her but thongs weren't popular when I was that age and I remember buying a thong bathing suit for the beach when I was around 19. I wore it to the beach and my mom was not happy about it but I was over 18. I guess it depends on how you feel if you don't let her she might get the idea that of it's a bad thing and wonder why and make her want them more. Idk it's kind of a catch 22.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinups4 View Post
    She can have em, as long as they get glued on lol

    Im a dad, my daughters 2, but i can see her asking this about age 9.

    Seriously im ok withi it BUT its a great time to talk about peer pressure, being yourself and (increasingly important as she grows) not trying to do what the big girls do...
    I agree with the peer pressure thing. I would have a talk with her as well.

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    The underwear itself is not important. Ask her WHY she wants them. Most likely its something as innocent as making her feel older. Even if its something more than that,(she wants to feel or look sexy for boys), I would still probably let her have them. But its a great opportunity to have a(or another) talk about sex, appropriate behavior, peer pressure(as mentioned above), what is expected of her, etc...

    I got a 15 yr old girl, and there were and are a lot of things to battle over, picking the important battles has been working well for us. If letting her 'make' this decision helps keeps the lines of communication open....its a small price to pay.
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    I started wearing thongs when I was 12. It was for one reason and one reason only: to avoid visible panty lines. I had no intention of attracting guys, fitting in with my peers, or wearing things that were overly mature. It's a wardrobe issue. There are clothing items that can only be worn with thongs: jeans, pants, jeggings, etc. There are also clothing items that I would never dream of wearing with a thong (dresses & skirts) those items are for boy-shorts and full bottom bikini panties only.

    Stretchy pants of any sort have a tendency to make full bottom panties bunch up. My thongs were (at 12 years old) and are (at 20-something) practical attire. Nothing more than that. Victoria's Secret Pink has some decent options for teens and tweens. Check those out.
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    Idk I'm the lone wolf her but I don't think a twelve year old with thong undies is a good idea. I would talk to her though and ask why she feels the need for some. But then again my mother was in denial about me needing a bra so I could be sheltered lol. My dad's gf bought them for me when I was 15 and honestly they were cool for like a week and that was it, I came to the conclusion that lace boy shorts looked a hell of a lot better than a thong. The only reason I kept them was because sometimes I wanted to have no lines under my leggings or my prom dress.

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    I was 12 when I had my first thong! My friends and I did Secret Samta and I got a cute lite cotton thong from Wet Seal. I had wanted one, but no one was seeing them that's for damn sure. If I had asked my mom she wouldve flipped! So good that you and your daughter have a relationship where she feels comfortable asking.

    I have 3 sons, but if one of them was a 12 year old girl asking for a thong, I would take them to straight to the store and help them pick one out! That 12 year old will one day be a 25 year old woman and it's just a part of growing up, I think. It doesn't mean she is sleeping around, it doesn't mean shit. She is growing up is all it means. There is no psychology behind it.

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    I have a family of prudesI think I didnt start wearing thongs until I was in my 20's, for the practical reasons noted above, but then I wasnt wearing anything revealing or tight enough that someone could see my panty lines til I was in my 20's too...

    My daughter is 15, and her only request is that I dont get her panties with the days of the week on it anymore...not even cause they are too childish for her, but cause she cant be bothered to read her underwear to make sure it matched the day of the week lol And I even teased her about that, like whos gonna know if the days match? And she was like...meee! It feels wierd when I realize Im wearing Mon panties on a Wed!

    If she did ask for thongs, I dont know how Id feel about that... practical reasons wouldnt come into play cause she doesnt wear anything that would reveal what sort of underwear she has on. And to be honest, I dont think they even make thongs that small do they?? She still wears children size panties though shes now at the very highest children size, so by the time shes 16 she will probably be in adult sizes. And by then she will have her own job, and can buy whatever panties she wants.
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    Oh my god...I just realized that in about 6m my daughter will be 16 and old enough to get a job and might be wearing thongs.

    I think Im about to have a panic attack Shes a great kid though, hasnt tossed me any curveballs or anything. As a matter of fact, when she turned 15 I got her makeup for the first time and we had a fun mother/daughter moment as I taught her how to apply it and everything. And she came home from school telling me that kids were complimenting her and saying how pretty she looked... And I was thinking, awe! She feels like a big girl! and then it dawned on me, shes not playing with makeup or wanting to be a big girl... Shes a freaking teenager! And it was all I could do not to hide her makeup and pretend in my head shes 5 again
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    ^ Lol, that is too precious! For the record, my only child is my cat, but, from a woman's point of view, I'd have to agree that it's mostly harmless. My friend got a thong at 12, it was a big deal, mostly for me, I followed suit, and hated mine! Lace thongs are not good starters, I have learned.
    That said, a walk through the non-thong underwear section of the store wouldn't hurt, and perhaps she will see something else that will stop all these heart attacks you keep having.
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    I also wanted to point out that Forever 21 carries comfy thongs that are still conservative... http://www.forever21.com/Product/Cat...ize=100&page=1
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    Yeah so true... I remember when I first started wearing thongs, I was in pain all the time. I didnt get it and stopped wearing them for a long while. But my husband really liked them, so I went on a hunt for better fitting ones and realized ohhhhhh! I see now! lol To be honest though, my last couple boyriends, and any guys Ive been with, seem to like bikini way more than the thongs... They always complain that with thongs, I may as well wear no panties at all. But I have a big butt that swallows thongs whole LoL so yeah...

    There are some pretty cute ones there at Forever21... When kiddo is 21, I will be sure to suggest those to her No I jest, I dont mind. Any and every thing that she does that is a sign of her growing up always throws me into a panic attack. The first time she held her bottle by herself I cried for half a day But then by the next day I was like..um, hold your own bottle. Im like that with everything...In one breath I tell her I want her to grow up to be a strong, independent woman who can take care of herself and made decisions on her own....but shes still my baby and shes never ever ever allowed to grow up.

    But damness now I have the thong song playing in my head.
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    But damness now I have the thong song playing in my head.
    Funny story!

    My mom-- the woman who gave me a hard time about bras with underwires (*russian accent* "They are soooo uncomfortable. I will never buy them for you because you will hate them and it would be a waste of money") and hates on thongs because she wore a pair maybe once or twice in her life ("Why would you want a thong? They crawl all the way up your butt and are sooo uncomfortable... all up in your butt... discomfort... terrible, horrible, terrible-terrible" *end russian accent*) Well.... she simply ADORES the thong song! And I mean LOOOOOVES it! She loves SisQo so much it is hilarious. I wish that song came out 3 years earlier so that SisQo could have convinced her to give me less grief about getting my first thong-tha-thong-thong-thong!
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    I am totally hearing the Russian accent now lololol!!! So funny that after all that, she liked the song!

    Yeah, thongs were all the rage cause of that song I think.
    But since then, guys just dont seem to care much for them...

    I now only have flesh toned thongs strictly for when I wear certain things.
    If I know Im going to get laid (or trying to (not that it happens anymore unless Im working lol))
    Then I wear some lacy bikini brief style...Ive had guys not want me to take them off at all cause they like how it looks so much.
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    Yeah so true... I remember when I first started wearing thongs, I was in pain all the time. I didnt get it and stopped wearing them for a long while. But my husband really liked them, so I went on a hunt for better fitting ones and realized ohhhhhh! I see now! lol To be honest though, my last couple boyriends, and any guys Ive been with, seem to like bikini way more than the thongs... They always complain that with thongs, I may as well wear no panties at all. But I have a big butt that swallows thongs whole LoL so yeah...

    There are some pretty cute ones there at Forever21... When kiddo is 21, I will be sure to suggest those to her No I jest, I dont mind. Any and every thing that she does that is a sign of her growing up always throws me into a panic attack. The first time she held her bottle by herself I cried for half a day But then by the next day I was like..um, hold your own bottle. Im like that with everything...In one breath I tell her I want her to grow up to be a strong, independent woman who can take care of herself and made decisions on her own....but shes still my baby and shes never ever ever allowed to grow up.

    But damness now I have the thong song playing in my head.
    I'm the same as you and my daughter is the same age. I'd lkill to have her actually want to spend time with me again. It sucks when they grow up!

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    I'm the same as you and my daughter is the same age. I'd lkill to have her actually want to spend time with me again. It sucks when they grow up!
    LoL! You can do what I do, and be incredibly annoying until she willingly give you time. Like, she will be on the couch, and Ill plop down next to her, give her a huge hug and tell her "we never bond anymore! We need to bond! Lets go dooooo something!" and shes like omggggg! lol! And will show me whatever shes doing online or tell me about stuff shes up to.

    Sometimes when shes on IM with her friends, when she leaves to go to the bathroom, Ill type in messages to them like "I have the coolest mom everrrr!" and when she gets back and sees that, shes trying to do damage control "omgggg that wasnt me! my mom wrote that! never leave the laptop alone in a room with a crazy woman!"

    For christmas, she bought me a puzzle book, and after a couple days of sitting htere trying to solve them, I looked up at her and she was merrily typing away on the computer, and I was like heeeeeeey! This was part of your evil plan wasnt it, you know I cant resist puzzles! And she was like yuuup!!! Peace and quiet at last!

    Seriously though, we do have a lot of fun together, and do all sorts of things...she hasnt quite reached the point where she wants nothing to do with me, and is secretly amused with my antics. She has told me that even though its kind of annoying, her friends think its cool that I bug her like that, and wish thier parents would be more interested in them and whatever they are doing, and that shes happy she doesnt have that problem.
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    I would talk her into waiting a while personally. I don't have a problem with a HS teen using a vibe, etc so I'm not uptight- but I don't think I would buy my 12y.o. a thong. My lil one will be that age in a few years! Yikes- the time flies. Sophia had a point with the leggings, etc. My daughter wears leggings and when she does I have her wear booty shorts that don't show under clothes, but she also doesn't wear short tops with her leggings.

    I do understand that in a few years that won't cut it, So under the guise of 'no VPL' I will have no choice but to the green light. LOL No doubt there are more terrifying things out there than thongs, but it gets to be a challenge knowing all we do about the world even when their wants are totally harmless.

    Mine is still in the 'thongs are wierd' age, but we all know what won't last.

    Some girls love being around their Mom, I know I did. Loved going out with her, going shopping, etc. So not all teens will want you to go away. I hope mine won't, but who knows how it will turn out. I'm still the "best person in the world" she says. I will enjoy it while it lasts.
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    LoL! You can do what I do, and be incredibly annoying until she willingly give you time. Like, she will be on the couch, and Ill plop down next to her, give her a huge hug and tell her "we never bond anymore! We need to bond! Lets go dooooo something!" and shes like omggggg! lol! And will show me whatever shes doing online or tell me about stuff shes up to.

    Sometimes when shes on IM with her friends, when she leaves to go to the bathroom, Ill type in messages to them like "I have the coolest mom everrrr!" and when she gets back and sees that, shes trying to do damage control "omgggg that wasnt me! my mom wrote that! never leave the laptop alone in a room with a crazy woman!"

    For christmas, she bought me a puzzle book, and after a couple days of sitting htere trying to solve them, I looked up at her and she was merrily typing away on the computer, and I was like heeeeeeey! This was part of your evil plan wasnt it, you know I cant resist puzzles! And she was like yuuup!!! Peace and quiet at last!

    Seriously though, we do have a lot of fun together, and do all sorts of things...she hasnt quite reached the point where she wants nothing to do with me, and is secretly amused with my antics. She has told me that even though its kind of annoying, her friends think its cool that I bug her like that, and wish thier parents would be more interested in them and whatever they are doing, and that shes happy she doesnt have that problem.
    Aww you sound like a good mom and your daughter sounds terrific as well. Must take after her mom. Yeah mine locks the door and she's so into this animae and role playing, homestuck stuff. Like it's her whole damn life but if I act interested or push she'll be like you want to see those pics of the convention. Ooops sorry to threadjack. We should start a parents with teenagers thread. lol.

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    Aww you sound like a good mom and your daughter sounds terrific as well. Must take after her mom. Yeah mine locks the door and she's so into this animae and role playing, homestuck stuff. Like it's her whole damn life but if I act interested or push she'll be like you want to see those pics of the convention. Ooops sorry to threadjack. We should start a parents with teenagers thread. lol.
    Yes we should start a new thread!! LoL! Cause mine is into manga and anime too! And shes asked if she can go to coscom or something or another that I guess some friends are talking about... But yeah, I know the shows, movies, characters, and even the memes and stuff lol!

    ...jeez, so I just realized coscom is a military term, cause Im getting senile and mixing up my acros lol I just asked her what that convention is she wants to go to, and shes like..um, I dont know I dont want to go to any conventions. I know this is just her ploy to make me look even *more* senile, cause she totally did talk to me about this lol! But anyway...
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