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    Default New relationship but lots of red flags help

    So I've been talking to a guy a really like but I think he might have a problem with pain pills. He goes to a doc three hours from where he lives to get his pills he goes with his ex girlfriend to get them they go together but act like they don't know each other and they both get pills. He runs out before they should be gone he doesnt sleep at night and gets sick to his stomach at least once a week. So im thinking there is an issue and I don't need that kind of drama and it sucks I quess I already know my answer but I want to run this by you guys before I make my final call Im very sad I got very excited about him but I need to start getting smarter about my men

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Listen to your gut feelings about him. It isn't sounding good from what you have shared there.


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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    And there is more to it then even that it seems its all about him he doesn't even me pick a movie to watch he's real good at getting what he needs but doesnt seem to care much about what I need

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Move on. Plenty of guys out there who will treat you right.
    Ungoogle yourself:


    Also, now offering phone sexins!

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    Seems like some good advise...... And you appear to know what is needed.
    The country has been looted.

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Trust me, you don't want to deal with that shit for a second longer. Drop him.

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    so i've been talking to a guy a really like but i think he might have a problem with pain pills. He goes to a doc three hours from where he lives to get his pills he goes with his ex girlfriend to get them they go together but act like they don't know each other and they both get pills. He runs out before they should be gone he doesnt sleep at night and gets sick to his stomach at least once a week. So im thinking there is an issue and i don't need that kind of drama and it sucks i quess i already know my answer but i want to run this by you guys before i make my final call im very sad i got very excited about him but i need to start getting smarter about my men

    run away, run away!

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    Selfish stupid, narcissis5ic junkie. They will tell u what u want to hear to get in ur head n drain u dry

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    LIKE NOW

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    his problems will become your if you dont run. now.

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    I'm sure he has plenty of charming qualities that is why he is still able to manipulate his ex who helps him score. He probably sleeps with her too.
    Gurl back away from the pillhead before he makes your life miserable.

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Run like hell.

    There are over 6 billion people on this planet. Half are male. There's got to be at LEAST one good man out there waiting for you who doesn't pop pills or hangout with his pillpopping exgirlfriend.

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    get the fuck out, now.

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    Move on! Been there done that with pills. Run away now or you will be sorry.


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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    It's easier to get out now than 6 months from now! If you think it's hard now just imagine it being 10 times harder!

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    I think I would be more annoyed about the fact that he is hanging around his ex, but the drug thing is also a HUGE deal breaker IMO.
    Definitely time to let that one go....




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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    This shouldn't even be a question. If you'd lived together for 10 years and he started having problems circumstantially, then he might be worth staying for. But in a new relationship? Huh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetsam View Post
    I think I would be more annoyed about the fact that he is hanging around his ex, but the drug thing is also a HUGE deal breaker IMO.
    Definitely time to let that one go....
    Yeah something about scoring pills with the ex says "just not that into you"

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    Please. Get out of this before it starts. I've been down this road. Pill heads are the worst. I myself have fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, and lupus and am prescribed a fair amount of narcotics. My ex boyfriend who was a extremely dependent on opiates got to the point of even stealing MY medications that I NEEDED to take for my actual medical reasons. The constant lying, withdrawls, screaming. It's not worth it. They are completely unpredictable. Please girl. Run away. It's such a nightmare.

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    Hell to the no.

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    Run away now!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FiendishGyrator View Post
    Move on. Plenty of guys out there who will treat you right.
    agree on move on part, but there not plenty guys who can treat woman right..maby 5-10% out all men who know how and willing to treat woman right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99 View Post
    And there is more to it then even that it seems its all about him he doesn't even me pick a movie to watch he's real good at getting what he needs but doesnt seem to care much about what I need
    Looks like you need to come on over to the thread " why men love bitches". Saddle up little lady, the ride is going to be bumpy! lol I really need to stop watching old westerns. I have no idea why I said that last part. Anyways come on over!

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    Default Re: New relationship but lots of red flags help

    If this is him in the beginning, when he is supposedly putting his best foot forward, where do you think that it goes from here? These aren't "red flags" but rather flashing warning signs.

    I'll also save you some suspense on another front: You cannot save him, help him or change him. Guys like this are black holes - they will suck everything they can out of you while ultimately giving you nothing in return.

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