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    Okay I have been dancing for nine years and have NEVER had sex with any of my custies or dated anyone from the club (gone to lunch with a select few OTC but that is it). I have one very good custie who has been coming in to see me... takes care of me finacially, says all the right things, makes me feel really good emotionally. I have a huge crush on him. We we have been hanging out OTC as well and speak on the phone often. Well we went out and I was feeling particulary frisky, one thing led to another and we had sex, really really good sex. He has now cancelled on seeing me OTC a few times but still calls and sees me INC and gives me more money than before. Oh and he is married, I feel really guilty and have never been the other woman but he said he has not had sex with his wife in over a year. So confused, I really like him a lot. Anyone have any experience in a similar situation? Im at a loss

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    I'm not even gonna sugar coat this one & I'm sure your prob gonna catch hell from more than a couple members for this. I would say if he was single maybe try & turn it into a a normal relationship since you both obviously have feelings for each other -but, he's not & you fucked up. But you can't fix the past so don't dwell on it anymore, but I would make sure that you keep it strictly professional from now on & DON'T DO HIM AGAIN, girl. Seriously, it's just best to avoid the drama & not fuck up your situation @ work or his obviously already screwed up marriage that way. Good Luck, I guess.
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    My thoughts are don't screw the crew, but seeing as the cat is out of the bag, continue to see him ITC and don't take it OTC anymore. This is a business (for those on StripperWeb) I'm not looking to start a relationship with a man I meet in the club, besides he is a CHEATER. If any man hasn't had sex for a year in his relationship he is obviously staying for other reasons. Don't cut someone elses grass cause it will end happening to you.
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    Move on and continue to collect money, never add emotion to who ever you deal with. Shit like that will happen now your stuck. Not saying having sex was wrong no but i feel like you should have added your feelings. Continue to do you and get money.

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    I wouldn't be able to trust a man who cheated on his S.O. I wouldn't take him seriously. He'll do it to you too.

    He is having his cake and eating it too. Be careful with your emotions. Don't get hurt.

    Juice him for as long as you can though. $$$$$$

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    that's great that he's still giving you money inside the club.

    don't make anymore OTC plans. Let him chase you if you want to have a sugar baby relationship, but make him come in ITC quite a bit before going OTC again (but then start from the beginning with lunches and shopping and don't sleep with him again until after several OTC visits.)

    Do you want him to be a sugar daddy?
    Ungoogle yourself:


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    ^^

    There's a thought! I didn't even consider that one.
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    Yes, a SD relationship would be amazing. However if I had to choose sex or money I would go with the sex :/ I know that sounds crazy... both would be my ideal situation. I harbor no illusion that he will be "faithful" to me, I know he is married and do not want him to leave his wife and I do not care if he has others on the side. I am not possessive at all and like that I can have my freedom too

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    I have never had a SD (had many offers but never took anyone up on it)

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    ^ FiendishG makes a point if that's what you want from the situation, her plan of attack seems right too (ie. no sex for a whileeee).
    This man is not relationship material, so don't even think about it if you feel you could have feelings for him/find yourself daydreaming. Start all your relationships off on a high note not with a cheater who paid to see you naked.
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Gurl if he's still coming to see you itc & giving you $$$, you didn't screw up too terribly bad. Just brush it off & keep taking the dollars.
    Whatever you do, DO NOT have sex with him por gratis again. You will feel like an idiot when you find out he's paying an escort or massage parlor girl for sex, like 99% of SC regulars do. Truth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyTease View Post
    Okay I have been dancing for nine years and have NEVER had sex with any of my custies or dated anyone from the club (gone to lunch with a select few OTC but that is it). I have one very good custie who has been coming in to see me... takes care of me finacially, says all the right things, makes me feel really good emotionally. I have a huge crush on him. We we have been hanging out OTC as well and speak on the phone often. Well we went out and I was feeling particulary frisky, one thing led to another and we had sex, really really good sex. He has now cancelled on seeing me OTC a few times but still calls and sees me INC and gives me more money than before. Oh and he is married, I feel really guilty and have never been the other woman but he said he has not had sex with his wife in over a year. So confused, I really like him a lot. Anyone have any experience in a similar situation? Im at a loss
    Tricky. Very tricky. My advice would normally be, do not see him OTC continue to work him in the club and get your money, do not sleep with him again. However, you say that you are confused and that you like him a lot which renders my normal advice problematic. I would consider this man someone to not get involved with emotionally as he is married and will most likely never be able to give you a relationship. Yet you have slept with him and you like him so you are already emotionally involved. Seeing him in the club, dancing for him and talking with him might cause your emotional attachment to deepen and could leave you with hurt feelings. My advice would be for you to step back and examine your feelings. Can you continue to see him and take his money without becoming emotionally attached, desiring a relationship, desiring sex and feeling guilty? If not, preserve your emotional well being as well as your integrity and walk away. If you think you can enjoy a profitable in club-flirtation with someone who you enjoy talking to carry on and make that money.

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    a SD relationship would be amazing. However if I had to choose sex or money I would go with the sex :/ I know that sounds crazy... both would be my ideal situation. I harbor no illusion that he will be "faithful" to me, I know he is married and do not want him to leave his wife and I do not care if he has others on the side. I am not possessive at all and like that I can have my freedom too
    As Fiendish Gyrator already pointed out, it would certainly appear that an SD arrangement could be of possible interest to both 'parties'. If you're mentally / emotionally able to handle being a SB ( and that's a big if ), I say go for it. Your cue will obviously be whether or not the guy approaches you again for OTC ... at which point you can steer in the SD direction.

    However, before considering this, make absolutely sure that you're mentally and emotionally ready to see an SD 'relationship' for what it is / will actually be. Failure to do so can result in lots of emotional pain, plus collateral damage that can compromise your future effectiveness to earn money as a dancer.

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    ^ Melonie has it on the money. Do you have the maturity to assess the situation and take emotion out of the equation?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kirakonstantin View Post
    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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