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    OMG I am so embarrassed. Have you ever done this and how do you recover from such a display?

    I just uncontrollably burst out into an ugly cry without warning on cam. I logged off but my chat room was filled with guys who saw it. Snot everywhere.. cheeks just ..OH GOD I am so embarrassed. I have seen other girls do it but it's never happened to me. I just feel so under pressure. I need $1400 and am feeling the crunch. It's an emotional connection with my income at this point.

    Please say something POSITIVE or encouraging. What a display!! I really just don't need the "well you should.. find another" hyper criticism right now.

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    Everything is going to be ok.

    Stick it out - think positive and things will be positive....

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    I don't post that often on here but this def warrants a post! It really is ok. We are all human beings & stress (especially about $$) can do crazy things to a person. Did you feel it coming on or was it a complete surprise to you? I love what Miss Mafia posted! Can you work in shorter chunks of time? (ie 2 here, 2 there instead of 4 at once.) What else are you doing to relieve your stress? Hang in there love! And remember...if anyone acts ugly to you about it you can ban their mean-spirited booties!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gabrielle_ View Post
    I don't post that often on here but this def warrants a post! It really is ok. We are all human beings & stress (especially about $$) can do crazy things to a person. Did you feel it coming on or was it a complete surprise to you? I love what Miss Mafia posted! Can you work in shorter chunks of time? (ie 2 here, 2 there instead of 4 at once.) What else are you doing to relieve your stress? Hang in there love! And remember...if anyone acts ugly to you about it you can ban their mean-spirited booties!
    I have known about it, it's something I have been working diligently for. The original number was $83K, I am sooo close. I have worked so hard and and have come so far but I am falling short and my fear is not making it. $1400, can you believe it?? All this way for such a small number? This last few months on cam has been ROUGH!! I can't believe how hard it is to make money today. I have always spoken about niches and how well we all do in our given niches but FUCK.. all this FREE shit, probably my worry showing up on cam...OMG panic!!

    Thanks for allowing me to vent

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    Everything IS going to be ok. Look at how much you've already accomplished.

    Here's my suggestion, although I don't know what site(s) you work. Decide to stay on cam and work as many hours as required to meet your goal. Do your regular cam routine (whatever that may be) when you feel able, and when you're not, aim the cam at a random body part (not your face) and phrase express (or copy/paste) the hell out of your room until you get into private. Take breaks when you need to, then get back online.
    When you can, get creative. Message customers with special offers. Split cam. Don't worry about congruity with your cam persona, just do whatever you need to do to earn the cash you need, keeping within your own comfort zone/boundaries.

    No matter how many trolls or time wasters you encounter in your chat room, know that those losers can't keep you from reaching your goal. Seriously, who the fuck are they? I do appreciate the 'personalization' stressor, particularly when in a job where we are the product, but flip that in your head. Know you WILL make your goal, and no one can prevent that from happening. You're too strong and tenacious to allow that to happen, and your great customers agree. The losers can go fuck themselves.
    Personally, I always find this thread incredibly helpful whenever I get annoyed with a customer It reminds me of how much power we have in this job, to what depths the losers reduce themselves in the hopes of gaining our attention, of any chica's attention. Laugh. Often

    Deep breaths. You can do this!
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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    OMG I am so embarrassed. Have you ever done this and how do you recover from such a display?

    I just uncontrollably burst out into an ugly cry without warning on cam. I logged off but my chat room was filled with guys who saw it. Snot everywhere.. cheeks just ..OH GOD I am so embarrassed. I have seen other girls do it but it's never happened to me. I just feel so under pressure. I need $1400 and am feeling the crunch. It's an emotional connection with my income at this point.

    Please say something POSITIVE or encouraging. What a display!! I really just don't need the "well you should.. find another" hyper criticism right now.

    Believe it or not, it's possible that the next time you hope on cam, no one will speak a word about your meltdown.

    A long time ago I was in public chat on MFC, and a guy PMed me to kindly tell me that I had just started my period (LMAO). I had been in a pose in my chair facing opposite the cam, and when I turned around to glance at the computer screen, that's when I saw his PM. I was embarrassed but thanked him. I took care of the issue, and surprisingly, none of the other guys in the room even said a word about my stained panties...lol.

    *HUGS* A lot of models are having a difficult time right now on MFC, I'm noticing. A model whose room I was in earlier logged off and said it's the 4th day in a row she hasn't earned enough for a public show. And she said that if that continues, she's gonna have to get another job in addition to MFC. This, by the way, was a high cam score model who is in the top row.
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    best I can say is that this can and does happen on ANY job.......no matter what your job is. If it was me, Think I'd probably would have grabbed the tissues, stayed on cam and tried to work it I guess if they saw it, then they already knew. Most guys are a complete sucker for a woman who is upset.
    Guess I figure, when it doubt, just be as honest as possible. you can always say you got bad news or something. that you're stressed.

    Most guys that are worth their salt in humanity would understand. those that don't F em!!!!!

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    I feel better now. I haven't made diddly this week, calling it a 'customer service week. '

    I'm on streamate and new, so I thought it was just me. Seems that a lot of people are feeling the crunch, particularly this week.
    I feel for those that have to make their complete living doing this.....

    Seems that everyone is feeling the crunch!
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    Believe it or not, it's possible that the next time you hope on cam, no one will speak a word about your meltdown.

    A long time ago I was in public chat on MFC, and a guy PMed me to kindly tell me that I had just started my period (LMAO). I had been in a pose in my chair facing opposite the cam, and when I turned around to glance at the computer screen, that's when I saw his PM. I was embarrassed but thanked him. I took care of the issue, and surprisingly, none of the other guys in the room even said a word about my stained panties...lol.

    *HUGS* A lot of models are having a difficult time right now on MFC, I'm noticing. A model whose room I was in earlier logged off and said it's the 4th day in a row she hasn't earned enough for a public show. And she said that if that continues, she's gonna have to get another job in addition to MFC. This, by the way, was a high cam score model who is in the top row.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    OMG I am so embarrassed. Have you ever done this and how do you recover from such a display?

    I just uncontrollably burst out into an ugly cry without warning on cam. I logged off but my chat room was filled with guys who saw it. Snot everywhere.. cheeks just ..OH GOD I am so embarrassed. I have seen other girls do it but it's never happened to me. I just feel so under pressure. I need $1400 and am feeling the crunch. It's an emotional connection with my income at this point.

    Please say something POSITIVE or encouraging. What a display!! I really just don't need the "well you should.. find another" hyper criticism right now.

    i hope your feeling better. Think positive =) I had a similar situation like yours. Started tearing up in free chat and cursed out everyone in my room. When I signed out I cried for almost 30 min. I never thought I would ever let camming break me down like that. But hay, we’re all human. I didn’t snap back after that melt down, I decided to retire from camming. Well, It took me 3 months to cool down and come to my senses. I started to miss the extra income I received from camming lol.

    So now when I’m camming and I feel like I’m going to have another episode like that night I just think of a couple of things that usually helps me adjust my attitude. I always keep a mental note on what I want to achieve as my motivation to keep going. For example, need to make rent this month, need $$ for planed vacation, something specific I need to buy, etc….., I try not to let the guys see that I’m stressed or under a lot of pressure due to me trying to meet goal. Don’t let an asshole ruin my day with a negative comment, don’t even argue back (BAN, BAN,BANNN!) & keep it moving as if he was never there.

    Also another thing, I’m not sure what your daily goals are and how many hours a day you put in. But for me it’s usually 3 to 5 hours a day. Back then I use to be so hard on myself if I only walked away with $120-$200 within 3-5 hours. Now I look at it as most people have to work 2 or more days making minimum wage or less just to make what I made in those few hours of camming.

    If none of those tips are working to adjust my attitude, I simply log off & take a break to cool down & pray when I log back in that a better batch of guys come my way lol. Sorry if I babbled on and on but I just wanted to share my experience & what works for me. Hope it helps =)
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    OMG!! that happens to me alot.. I have the same pressures constantly.. that's why i cut my expenses down to nearly half... And also the pressures of the personal life.. and the very complex integration between cam and real life.. Interfering with each other.. For example when guys ask you about your real life and then you start getting depressed and feeling bad...

    Don't worry!!! Just wake up ... dust yourself off and get back online tommorrow... most forget.. I am notorious for being overly emotional.. Trying to be colder and less feeling but.. ya know!!!


    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    OMG I am so embarrassed. Have you ever done this and how do you recover from such a display?

    I just uncontrollably burst out into an ugly cry without warning on cam. I logged off but my chat room was filled with guys who saw it. Snot everywhere.. cheeks just ..OH GOD I am so embarrassed. I have seen other girls do it but it's never happened to me. I just feel so under pressure. I need $1400 and am feeling the crunch. It's an emotional connection with my income at this point.

    Please say something POSITIVE or encouraging. What a display!! I really just don't need the "well you should.. find another" hyper criticism right now.

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    Just remember!! You are a star!! A superstar.. Lights, camera, action!!! Smile!!)

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    I had a meltdown on cam. I was drunk. I went on a major rant on how it's not fair that they weren't tipping me bc I'm pretty and how I deserve to be a top model. Afterwards I realized that made me look pretty bad. But it's done although I seemed like a total jerk no one held it against me. I'm sure no one will hold it against you. People will probably tip you later or check to see if you're ok. Don't worry you are human it happens to us all. When you feel like you're about to get mad or cry just log off for a bit then come back after you are ok. Hang in there.

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    I would typically have meltdowns, on cam, before my surgeries or just before a big savings deadline was about to hit. They would happen most frequently during my members' shows. I would get so caught up in the demands and start trying to debate the audience on what I should be doing. BAD IDEA. It would lead to me cussing out the screen and getting myself so worked up. Sometimes I would cry when the show was over but mostly I would just become defiant and refuse to interact. This obviously reflected in how I would earn money in free chat, after. I began to hate my audience and genuinely hate the time it took to sit in one place and simply make $100 for the hour. So much of it was pure stress, working towards my goal and the audience feeding off of it didn't help.

    Now that I'm caught up, if I ever feel like that is coming close to happening, I turn the cam off, entirely and walk away. I can't afford to hate my job that badly. I break up my goals into tiny fractions. Anywhere from earning a minimum $25-50 and staying on only thirty minutes to an hour, if I have to. Lately, it's been trying for 25 hours on cam, per period, just to do it. That's two hours a day. But if I meet my tiny earnings goal ($30-$50) and some guy flips me shit badly enough, I WILL turn the cam off to save my sanity. I may come back to it several hours later but I cut myself a break, if I need it.

    Try not to be so hard on yourself, honestly. Ban EVERY single guy who is an interruption. With every guy I ban, I like to think I'm freeing up a spot and getting closer to the guy who's trolling to spend. I relax with the money I know I've made and keep inching towards the bigger goal. I stay positive by relaxing into the idea that what I've done is more than enough and I'm just filling in the gaps.
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    Thank you so much for offering YOUR side of this AWFUL business!!

    I can't tell you how happy I am to report that one of my Yahoo guys sent me 5k. He said just to know I am safe and worry free makes him feel good about sending me the money.

    I hate this business. I hate what free chat has done to it.

    The guy that sent me the money was a part of my early following and doesn't do camming anymore.

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    Not a camgirl, but I've had a night recently where I made less than 20 dollars in the club. I was crying and considering quitting the industry altogether. Than the next day I banked. It's ok to let yourself be upset as long as the next day you're back in the game.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    I can't tell you how happy I am to report that one of my Yahoo guys sent me 5k. He said just to know I am safe and worry free makes him feel good about sending me the money.
    I'm so happy to hear that this happened to you. I have such a pessimistic attitude about people, and these random acts of kindness serve to remind me that not everyone out there is an inconsiderate asshole.

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    this thread is a really great group of encouragement and why I adore SW <3

    But yes as stated, we are all human. the other night i was getting frustrated with barely making ANY tokens and having a really low room count
    and was kinda grumpy to the 2 people who frequented my room *facepalm* (and by grumpy i mean a rly big bitch smh >.<)

    anyways i logged off, woke up today stressing about getting on cam, if theyd still be regs and come back, and etc etc
    but it turns out they were really cool about it! we laughed about it a bit and moved on theyre people too and we tend to sympathize with each other
    (despite all those beggers/demanders >.>) , and today i did really good in comparison to my slump lately.

    im so happy to hear things worked out good for you in the end

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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    Thank you so much for offering YOUR side of this AWFUL business!!

    I can't tell you how happy I am to report that one of my Yahoo guys sent me 5k. He said just to know I am safe and worry free makes him feel good about sending me the money.

    I hate this business. I hate what free chat has done to it.

    The guy that sent me the money was a part of my early following and doesn't do camming anymore.

    WOW!! That's great

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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    Thank you so much for offering YOUR side of this AWFUL business!!

    I can't tell you how happy I am to report that one of my Yahoo guys sent me 5k. He said just to know I am safe and worry free makes him feel good about sending me the money.

    I hate this business. I hate what free chat has done to it.

    The guy that sent me the money was a part of my early following and doesn't do camming anymore.




    OH SHIT!!! 5,000?! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

    I don't hate the business, but like you, I do hate what free chat has done to it. Sometimes I have guys visiting me in MFC public chat who will leave my room when I tell them "Sorry, I don't do public cum shows." *sigh*
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    Quote Originally Posted by cvarga View Post
    I have known about it, it's something I have been working diligently for. The original number was $83K, I am sooo close. I have worked so hard and and have come so far but I am falling short and my fear is not making it. $1400, can you believe it?? All this way for such a small number? This last few months on cam has been ROUGH!! I can't believe how hard it is to make money today. I have always spoken about niches and how well we all do in our given niches but FUCK.. all this FREE shit, probably my worry showing up on cam...OMG panic!!

    Thanks for allowing me to vent
    83k?!?! Awesome! Rock on wit ur bad self! Glad you are feeling better!

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